Last night, I cheated on my girlfriend for over a year. Our relationship was having problems and we kept having arguments. I wasn't satisfied with it and I wanted to break up with her. A girl came into the store I was working at and starting hitting on me and gave me her number. This was right after I had a huge fight with my girlfriend, and I was planning on taking a break from our relationship that night. I met up with the other girl and we ended up kissing a little bit. I realized then and there that I only want to be with my girlfriend. I don't know if I should tell her or not. I know that I will NEVER do it again. What should I do?
2006-07-17 09:56:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It takes a lot of courage to tell a group of strangers what you just did. I think you should sit down with your girlfriend and explain how you are feeling and what happened. Your girlfriend will get angry, and want some breathing space to think things over. I did this with a former boyfriend, and when I told him what went on, yes he was angry, but we realized we wanted to be with each other. Good Luck.
2006-07-17 10:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dorah C 4 · 10⤊ 2⤋
I believe that if you love her you should tell her.Not only because it's the right thing to do but also if she hears it from someone else first then you risk losing her. And chances are she'll believe her friends because you didn't bother to tell her.let her know that it was the biggest mistake you have ever made. and if she'll forgive you you want to spend the rest of your time making it up to her. mind you if she's like any other girl she will be angry, then sad, then confused. but no matter what you have to show her that there's no one else in the world you'd rather be with then her.and that doesn't mean try for 2 weeks then say oh well. that means trying everyday until she forgives you. good luck and remember how you feel now. and don't ever jeopardize the relationship again.
2006-07-17 17:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by antonia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been cheated on so i know how it feels and this is my point of view on the subject. Shes gonna find out so it should be you telling her. Trust me it does hurt, and there are NO excuses for cheating but hearing it from your other half is alot better then find it out from someone else. Shes gonna be hurt so prepare yourself for that. Make sure you explain how and why you feel the way you do and why you chose to tell her, Just be honest and youll get alot further then you would if you acted like nothign happend. She might need a few days to think and if she does give her that. Best of luck to you!! and remember if you love dont do it again because next time youll prob lose her for good.
2006-07-17 17:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you relalized the value of having your girlfriend. Remember, "you never know what you have until you loose it." Although your girlfriend may hate you at first she has the right to know what you have done. Tell her exactly how you feel and hopefully with time and her love for you she will understand but understand that time is a very important element. Also, be patient with her as you were the one to make the mistake. She has every right to be mad at you but if she truly loves you and cares about u she will forgive and forget.
2006-07-17 17:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Athena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell her. If you don't, then wait until you're married. Then shell be stuck with you :P Just kidding, not really, but, it depends on the girl. Look at it like this - if the roles were reversed, what would you want her to do? If you can honestly say you'd rather her not tell you, then don't. ONLY YOU know your relationship, and her, better than anyone else.
Whatever you do, don't pretend like it didn't happen.
Me? Personally? I couldn't stand the guilt. I'd spill it. Goodluck :)
2006-07-17 17:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by m0o p!e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to let her know cause sooner or later she will find out some how and about you saying you wont never do it again then you are lying about that because you would have not done it the first time just remember when you do stupid things it all comes back and hopefully when you do tell her she can forgive you but let me let you know she wont ever forget it.
2006-07-17 19:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by precious_vanessa_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should definitely tell her. If you love her, than you know that she deserves more than that. And love is being selfless when it comes to another person. It's not about making yourself happy, it's about making them happy and it includes honesty and trust. You broke that, be a man and live up to it. Whatever happens will happen either way. If you don't tell her now, she'll eventually find out.
2006-07-17 17:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's better find out from you than something else! if you want a healthy relatiolnship you have to be honest with each other she may have been keeping something from you! you need to sit down and confront each other it may not work but you need to take that risk to maintain this relationship
2006-07-17 17:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by girly_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her. explain exactly what you just said on here. Maybe show her this to show that you are trying so hard to keep her. But if you keep it a lie it won't be a trustful relationship
2006-07-17 17:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by hambone1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU REALLY LOVE HER AND REALIZED THAT YOU WANT TO BE WITH HER THEN YOU SHOULD TELL HER THE TRUTH BECAUSE US(GIRLS) DON'T LIKE BEIN LIED TO. YEAH SHE MIGHT BE MAD AT YOU WHEN YOU TELL HER BUT IT'S BETTER TO TELL HER WHAT HAPPENED NOW THEN TO NOT TELL HER BECAUSE THAT WILL PROBABLY MAKE HER MORE UPSET LATER ON WHEN SHE FINDS ABOUT IT CUZ YOU DIDN'T TELL HER.
2006-07-17 17:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋