I dont know if he thinks this is a game or something. He is playing with my emotion. One minute hes telling me he doesnt want to be with me anymore. Then the next he looking for me when Im out. He calls me at all hours. Sometimes he doesnt call at all, even to ask or see the kids. He s in his own world and wants to do whatever he wants. He wants me to sit around and cry over him, and how I cant live without him. Im sick of it! Is he playing a game with my head? One minute Im ok, and think I cant get through, then I hear his voice and it alls goes back to hell. Im trying to be strong and not let him get the better of me. He left me with no explanation. Do you think he calls because he wants to argue, or just see what Im up too.
2006-07-17 09:44:52 · 19 answers · asked by carol s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being a male myself. It seems he is playing a game with you and you are the pawn. Sounds like he put you on the back burner until he gets bored doing what hes doing. He doesn't want you to do anything but be unhappy. I would forget about him and go out and have a good time and let him see it. Show him how it feels. You deserve better. So tell him so long. Good Luck
2006-07-17 09:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is love your kids first and stop loving him first. We tend to take that trip of putting mates before our kids and ourselves. Just think about this, if something was to happen to you, who would you worry about, the kids or him first. Leading a life with kids is hard, trust me I have three and I know what your going through. If you give him the benefit of the doubt to know that you'll always wait then your life will go no further then where he left you. Pick up and continue cause your kids didn't ask for all the drama that is going and they really get the bulk of the trouble in the end run. I'm not saying that you will find someone else to be with, what I'm saying is that for right now, focus on your kids and their well being cause God doesn't put no more on us than we can bare. Remember one more thing, sometimes HE puts people in our lives to show/teach us a couple of things about Him and life alone.
2006-07-17 16:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by smokey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to tell you this straight up. He has a personality disorder. This disorder makes him think he can't be stopped. As long as you give him a reaction he is getting what he wants from you. Do not look for an answer you will never get one that will satisfy you because you trust your judgment. So you don't understand why you made a bad choice in the beginning. The hard part is you can't make him better or will ever be able to. What you need to do is stop focusing on yourself and your hurt and start helping others. When you do this your hurt will slowly go away.
2006-07-17 16:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mrs. Carol S
head games...he left u not the other way around...try to go on with u life...when he calls if the kids are old enough let them answer the phone..if he calls at 1am..don't answer..but if u really want him to stop??? get a restraining order against him.. i know it sounds drastic be he did the crime (by leaving u )like i said HEAD GAMES.. you have to get on with your life the longer u let this go on the more he will keep it up.., it sounds like he knows exactly what buttons to push...i know u have children to consider but i had divorce parents that keep going back and forth and it was so confusing..my brother was conceived after they divorced...i would see my mom cry sometimes when he called...if we would have caller I-D at that time i am sure she would have used it...said she didn't have the heart to hang up on him...said maybe ..this time he is going to come back..i think like u he just wanted to see what she was doing...all this was in the 70s.(4 us).some things have changed...STALKING doesn't always mean following someone.. in my state it can also my phone calls
2006-07-17 17:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by meemeemee40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's messing with your mind. Tell him to leave and make a clean break. If he doesn't...don't play around. Get a restraining order and report him the next time you see him. My parents went through an ugly divorce when I was young. My father pulled the same crap. You need to go on the offensive and not sit back and let him dictate how everything is going to play out. If he does, you'll be screwed.
2006-07-17 16:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by rahkokwee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey please put ur foot down, give him an ultimatum so he will know. either u want to be here and is here or U want out and is out. the kids r his forever so make him take responsibility for them as well. he knows U still love him and really he trusts u so much not to even get anyone new..not good.Show him there is someone else out there that wants u.he is not the only one who wants u. when u r out, give him the babysitters number so he can talk to the kids. make sure he is aware all of his question asking priviledges(regarding u) left when he left. I know it will hurt to ignore him but U need to take up a hobby or something to clear ur mind of him. Give him a cut off time to call for the kids and stick to it. it will be hard. good luck!
2006-07-17 17:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know him better than any of us do. I think if he was playing with you, you would know it. Regardless of which you still have to be strong, stand up for yourself and dont let him get the better of you. One thing you should do is set something up with him for the kids. You dont want them to feel the effects of a relationship gone bad, but make sure that they understand (completely) about whats going on. I feel for you, relationships are so tough.
2006-07-17 16:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and the kids a big favour and get this man permanently removed from your lives. He is toying with your emotions and those of the kids. He calls just to try and control you and to mess up your days. Change your phone number, and get a lawyer.
2006-07-17 16:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a marriage counselor to help the two of you sort through this. Clearly he thinks his needs were not being met and is incapable of articulating why that is.
Don't argue with him. Make an appointment with a counselor. Tell him to be there and participate -- or else.
2006-07-17 16:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have as many questions about this as you haven't gotten...you need to know and understand why his left..as for him calling you...he is just pushing your buttons, keeping you on a short leash and your allowing him to do so...put your foot down tell him to be the husband he promised to be or you'll find one who will...its going to get him mad but will make him realize he isn't the only man on planet earth...and he better wake up or he is going to lose his wife and family.
2006-07-17 16:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋