What should I do if I am really shy and want to come out of my shell? I've tried everything...I'm an introvert

Answer 1

Introversion is just a natural *preference* for dealing with the world a certain way. You still have the capability to act in an extraverted manner if you wish. You just have to practice extraversion and develop it like a skill.

There’s no requirement to build extraversion skills. If you feel that you have a full, happy life as an introvert, then don’t bother with the extraversion skills. But if you worry that your introversion is limiting your life, then some practicing some extraversion skills would probably help.

You could always talk to a therapist. You might have a social phobia or something along the line of Avoidant Personality Disorder.

But if you want to keep working on it yourself or with the assistance of self-help books, I wrote up a long answer with some suggestions in response to a similar question at the following link:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Au9S8dcVs.guBD6u1kkPhSrsy6IX?qid=20060715173138AApCYTQ

Answer 2

First of all, there's nothing wrong with being an introvert - we make some of the greatest discoveries and help change the world around us! Don't let people tell you there's something wrong with you just because you need more quiet time than they do.

What I did when I decided I wanted to have more of a social life was to simply force myself into social situations. Social skills can only be developed by practice, although there are books that can give you pointers in how to make things easier. Find places like coffeehouses or libraries where you can practice talking to people you don't know one-on-one, and then work up to talking in groups. You might try joining a club or volunteering for a cause you believe in, those also give you a chance to practice.

It will take time and courage, but it can be done!

Answer 3

I have never heard of Epicurus other than as a night club downtown, to be honest. Now, about your quote. God is able and willing to prevent evil. So in this case, the question is "Then whence cometh evil," correct? Here's the thing. God loved us all so much that he gave us all free will. So why allow those who choose to exercise that free will towards evil to do so? Why allow the suffering and the evil of men? Simple. We have to suffer. It is part of the fall from grace that we suffered in Eden. Or, if you only see Genesis as metaphorical, as I do, there's a better explination. We are a lump of metal. God is a master sword smith. God tempers us, throws us in the fire, and beats us, allowing us to suffer, and all the while He is turning us into a beautiful sword. So why do some people seem to get all the breaks in life? They're not being tempered well. They're being tempered poorly. They are not being pounded and fired in this life. They will be tempered in the next. They have been pretty enough to grace the walls of the amateur sword collector that is this life. However, it is those who suffer who are tempered better and become fit to go into the Heavenly sword museum or, better, into the final battle against Satan, because they have gone through the more intense and more thorough tempering and therefore will not break under pressure, only bend a little, then go back into place easily. So really, suffering is good for us. Hope this is civil enough for you and far enough for you from the name calling and everything. I did my best to give an honest answer. And without a Bible quote, though I can supply that, if you'd like.

Answer 4

lol are you really shy to talk to everyone? that is interesting lol... I though most people just shy to talk to girls. Have you ever read book about enneagram? lol... If you haven't then you should borrow some enneagram book in the library, it is really useful. Enneagram let you know your potential and show you a way to get out of your shell (trust me on this ^_^) and also you look like a type 5 to me. Enneagram is really interesting book and you will get addicted to it and remember Do Not Trust everything in the book otherwise you will have a hard time in life. I used to be really shy of girls but not anymore lol... You have tried many things to get out of your egg but still doesn't work right; therefore, I think you have social phobia disorder, if I am right then you should talk to a psycholgist because phobia is like a long term illness which mean you are shy not because you are introverted personality.Inaddition, do not listen to those idiots who ever tell you to use beer, smoke, drug etc... you should face your own problem and overcome them with your own power. Those psychoactive drugs are easy to learn and really hard or pain in the as* to get rid of. LIVING IN YOUR OWN MIND IS REALLY BAD!!! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

For one thing you have to accept yourself. Being an introvert isn't all that bad. You think a lot. That's good.
Do you dance? Try join a dance group. What makes dancing perfect for introverts is that it helps you express yourself without speaking. It is so liberating...try! You will make friends with people who are very much like you.
Trying to be what you're not will not be very convincing- unless you are an actress. ( taking acting classes might be a good idea)

Answer 6

Me too, everything is a battle. Life was very boring and lonely. But the more I kept trying the more confidence I got and life got a little easier. Confidence was hard won many times wondering whats the point, kept at it and now I'm better for it and life is more exciting. When your standing there thinking "I should say good morning" to someone, do it. You'll feel lame, after a few more times you'll be a veteran.

Answer 7

That's your personality!! Be proud of being shy, and don't worry about what others think. Sometimes I wish I were more shy because I get in trouble sometimes about what I say. My brother is very shy too. We both grew up in the same home, so it's not having to much to do with environment. It's how we are made- all different.

Answer 8

So am I by nature.

You just have to push through the moments of discomfort & each time it gets a little easier.

Don't try to do too much at once.

You may not become an extrovert in all situations - but if you pick your moments & get involved w/ charities, groups or activities that hold your interest, you'll meet like minded people.

Just try it once & see how it goes!

Good Luck!

Answer 9

You can try to attend classes of the hobbies you are interested in. This automatically gives you common topics that you can chat with your coursemates.

Shy people usually lack self-confidence. Give yourself small goals to work towards. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Perhaps you may want to try a mini makeover which you can request at makeup counters?

Answer 10

What Is Shyness?
Shyness is a social emotion that affects a person's feelings, thoughts, and behavior. Shyness is about feeling uncomfortable, self-conscious, scared, nervous, or insecure around others. When people feel shy, they hold back on saying or doing things because they're concerned about how others might respond. Physical sensations can be part of shyness, too — like feeling flushed, shaky, queasy, speechless, or breathless.