2006-07-17 09:28:58 · 14 answers · asked by alex's_gurl 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
and don't say **** like "keep ur v-card" or small penis
i expected sum1 to say drink sum aocohol, take a vicodin not this stupid ****
2006-07-17 09:32:25 · update #1
I am not a woman, so I will not be offended if you diregard my answer.
I believe there is more than just one factor in how much pain you may go through..one, which others have already pointed out is the "size" of the guy. Obviously, if it does;nt fit good there's gonna be a little more, well, "streching" to do.
The other factor can be how much you are in to it. If you truly love your partener and he feels the same, you will probably be more turned on. And things will..uhm, lube up. If you are just doing it because you "feel pressured" or because "you want to piss off your dad", you might not like the sex as much. On that note, you may want to have some water based lubricant on hand (i.e. "K.Y. Jelly").
Thirdly, is how gentle your man is to you. If he jams "it" in there and has no regard for how you feel it's going to hurt. Hopfully you are or will be with someone who cares enough to take his time and enjoy you, and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Also, on a side note, the suggestion of tylenol is incorrect, motron will help more with this type of pain.
I would like to say that while there is no one correct time to give this away, it should be guarded as something special. You are giving a piece of yourself to that person. Please, don't rush into this just because you feel you need to check a block on your resume. So to speak. Remember, that while sex is fun and the pleasure from it is wonderful and approriate to be shared between two lovers. The purpose of sex is procreation. And, each time you do this there is a risk that you will create a life. Ask your self "Am I ready to give life to, love, protect and teach a child?" Also, "Is the man I am with, the person I want, to be the provider and role model for my child?" If you CAN NOT answer yes to both of these questions : You are not yet ready for this step in your relationship. And doing so would be selfish. Sex, should be about love. And love is not selfish.
O.K., I'll get down off the soap box now, I know I got a little more into it than your original question asked for. I simply hope that you can take something positve away from all this. Good Luck, and all Joking a side, Be safe. ;-)
2006-07-17 10:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by clydesdale1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some people say it doesn't hurt so there is a possibility that you could be one of those people. Anyway, first of all the whole tense thing is true; don't loose it because you're being pressured because that would mean you don't really want to loose it and it, meaning you will be more tense. If you love someone then you'll feel like you're doing the right thing and will probably be anxious to loose it (that should make the pain feel less painful) Otherwise, there is no magical way of making it NOT hurt.
2006-07-17 09:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by KAY . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are a woman and have been in a serious, steady, positive relationship with a caring man for one year. The ideal would be to wait until marriage. Then, after all that, a lot of foreplay can help you relax. I don't want to go into details because you should wait for a very long time if you still refer to yourself as a girl and can't spell "your" and "you're" and "virginity".
2006-07-17 09:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'd say think about it before you do it. i waited till i was 18, and wish i'd have waited longer. i think it jus depends on the girl. when i lost mine it didn't hurt, it was just uncomfortable. it was the most disgusting thing i had ever done. now of course i don't think that way it is quite pleasurable and i enjoy it. if you just relax and don't expect it to be magical with fireworks etc. i think you will be ok. and be with someone who understands it has to go slow. slow and steady wins the race. so relax and enjoy, it's what the deed is meant for! good luck and be safe!
2006-07-17 09:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already lost your virginity and your having a hard time dealing with it then talk to someone you trust if your not talking about emotional pain and your actually in pain then try taking a tylenol.
2006-07-17 09:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way. Just close your eyes real tight, bend over, hug a pillow. Afterward, a lot of ice packs & tylanol.
2006-07-17 09:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't RUSH....
I was a virgin when I got married...my husband was also. We took our time...it was 4 days after we got married that we actually had intercourse. We just played around, "stretched" slowly..no rushing. If your partner cares enough about you he won't RUSH and make it hurt. Also be sure to use some lube, that helps.
2006-07-17 09:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Deana G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you really want to do it and you're not being pressured into it, then you'll be relaxed. It'll only hurt of you're tense.
2006-07-17 09:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it until your married or you will regret it.. And you cant avoid it...Take tylenol afterward
2006-07-17 09:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by grkgrl79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Viciden or some painkiller.
Masterbation.
Alcohol.
Tell the guy to be gentle.
2006-07-17 09:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by saladteapunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋