My mates think my old teacher fancies me and as i'm no longer at college something may happen.
Is this wrong or just frowned upon?
2006-07-17 09:25:51 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You're both adults, right? He's not grading you now, so there's no conflict of interest. Should be fine. Forewarning: people may still look askance at your relationship because they will wonder if you were secretly dating while you were his student.
2006-07-17 09:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dan C 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's frowned upon but not wrong as he's no longer your teacher. You just have to make sure that nothing connected to your degree or your career can be looked upon as iffy. If he played a crucial part in either, their validity could be called into question later.
2006-07-17 09:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by The Bride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is only occasionally wrong
it is very often frowned upon
it is sometimes tacky
it is often perfectly OK
you will have to judge. But watch out: your expectations and his will diverge at some point. He has a settled pattern of life, you are alive with possibilities. You will not want to constrain yourself. He may tire of your youthful but sometimes inane gibbering (trust me, I'm sure you're a fantastic person, but unless you're as weird as a box of frogs you will do this). You may tire of his, er, boringness.
You may have a great time for a while that leaves you both older, wiser and grateful.
You may break each others' hearts.
You're unlikely to be made for each other. If you were, you'd use stronger language than you did.
2006-07-17 09:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is wrong. ethically, but in your case, not legally. A professor is a person in a position of authority, and there may be a part of you that fancies that - someone who can be in charge and make you feel safe, but you need to focus on the fact that your impression of this safety was his JOB, and not necessarily who he was as a person.
I think you can find people who are closer to yourself in age who can provide you with that feeling of safety and authority. If you do decide to go out, people are going to call him a borderline pedophile (or just a dirty old man) and call you far, far worse. Granted, what people thing shouldn't be the only criteria in how you choose someone, but you have to realize that these people are looking at the situation more objectively than you can. My opinion is that you should stay away.
Because this has disaster written all over it.
2006-07-17 09:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by arcayne_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly frowned upon. Shouldn't affect the teacher if you are over 18 and out of the school where they are teaching
2006-07-17 09:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can date an ex-techer if you are no longer a student. Think about it this way, Students can eventually become teachers themselves and does that mean they can't date co-workers?
Generally going after a teacher who was interested in you as a student is a bad thing but it's up to you.
2006-07-17 09:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a huge crush on one of my former high school teachers. Now that im in college I went in for the kill, but i found out it was too late, she has boy friend and is soon to be married. There is nothin wrong with dating ur former teacher, as long as u both care for each other.
2006-07-17 09:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u Can date as he is no longer ur teacher, but it is frowned upon.
2006-07-18 00:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Claire B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's no longer your teacher, then it shouldn't be an issue. It's sure to be frowned upon, but it doesn't matter anymore.
2006-07-17 09:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just frowned upon. As long as you are legal which I am assuming you are because you are out of college.
2006-07-17 09:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by emmasahottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem. Have you seen the movie Never Been Kissed? That is so sad at the end the girl dates a HighSchool teacher. No wrong with that.
2006-07-17 09:30:07 · answer #11 · answered by princess sorrow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋