2006-07-17 09:21:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's my theory, FWIW.
If you don't have children, move on -- now.
If you do, you have an obligation to try, one time, to get past it.
Try these articles.
Good luck
2006-07-17 10:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a sticky one: the reason I say that is "NO ONE" can tell U how to handle this. I myself have gotten a divorce because my exhusband was cheating. But my best friend found out that her husband had an affair and even fathered 2 children with this woman and yet she has stayed married too him, it hasn't been easy by ANY means but she has stayed. C U need to find out if U can live with it or not, although u will NEVER forget, can U forgive, Can U live with it. If so then do what U have to, to keep Ur marriage, but remember it takes two....
Like I said in the beginning, it's different for everyone and what ever U choose it isn't WRONG, U have to live UR life not anybody else. So no one can tell U what's wrong or what's right. U just do what's best for U. Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-17 09:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband had an affair on me a few years ago and I found out about it last april , my god the hurt i went through , its a terrible thing to have happen to you, and even though its been a little over a year YES it still hurts deeply, but it is getting some what easier, I still worry and think about the two of them together and it makes me sick, My husband is trying real hard to get my trust back and I do believe he is sorry for what happened , but some days I just feel like ending the marrige for good but I do love him and I guess thats what keeps me going , hang in there , it will get better , but its gonna take some time god bless you
2006-07-17 09:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by missy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If counseling is not helping, you need to look inside and ask why it didn't help.
Have you already in your heart left the marriage?
Will you ever be able to get past this? If not, do you not feel he really "gets" what he did and how badly it hurt?
There is something unresolved somewhere, and your going to have to look deep to figure it out...but when you do, you will know what has to be done to put this behind you.
It's either forgive him, or move on. Forgetting is never an option without a lobotomy.
2006-07-17 09:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard ive never been married but i was with someone who cheated on my shortly after I had my youngest son.. My way of getting over it was I started going out making friends and eventually I met someone I fell inlove with and we have been together for 4 years. It all takes time, take this time for you and do things and be around other people eventually you will have the strength to move on and find a speacial man.
2006-07-17 09:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by italianprincess_fl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may take lots of time. And you must both do specific things to rebuild trust. If it isn't a mutual love and respect and accountability at work here... you will probably be looking at a split eventually.
My wife did the affair... and she never really tried to get back into the marriage. We split. Best thing that ever happened for me.
2006-07-17 09:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really sorry? Is he still in contact with her?
If not, go for the divorce right away and spare yourself repeat performances of his infidelity.
If you can't get over this, you have several options:
divorce, an open relationship, or have your own affair with someone you find sexy and see how he likes it. Or just stay married and live your own life until someone really worthwhile comes along. Good luck!
2006-07-17 09:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably need an affair w/ me. It's clinically proven, and recommended by 4 out of 5 doctors, the only to get over it.
2006-07-17 09:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man cheated on me with my cousin techically we were friends but its still he went for her knowing i loved him it was hard even today i cant get over the anger when i think of them smsing each other all night,talking over phone u get the idea.It was more painful since she was my own cousin.But eventually he found out she was secretly married she turned it on him blamed him making him look bad.We still remain friends hes told me everything.Do something to get out the anger it happens it hurt me so much i cant feel pain now but i think it was them who did it why should i keep being angry hurt eventually u need to let go.If its any consolation her husband asked me whats wrong i didnt tell him about affair eventually they separated with children while my friend and i are together.
2006-07-17 09:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by ladyspretty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IN MY EXPERIENCE YOU NEVER REALLY DO, IT WILL ALWAYS BE THERE. IT IS A VERY HURTFUL EXPERIENCE TO GO THROUGH, MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME SEVERAL TIMES OVER THE YEARS EVEN IMPREGNATING ONE OF THE WOMEN, AND I'M STILL NOT OVER IT, SO THE BEST THING IS TO HAVE AN AFFAIR YOURSELF, BECAUSE HE WILL NEVER KNOW THE PAIN AND HURT, NO MATTER HOW SORRY HE SAYS HE IS, I DON'T KNOW IF THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE, BUT IT MADE ME FEEL BETTER.
2006-07-17 09:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by JULIE V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her over for a 3 some
2006-07-17 09:26:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋