I Have 2 Wives !!?

Question

I love them both and vice-versa. I have been so fair with both of them , in all way , no complaining so far.

But I have a tiny problem.
My secretary starts falling in love with me so badly. Shall I go and marry her as well, or fire her and end up with two wives?

Answer 1

ur good u can have up to 4 wives in the islamic religion as long as you treat each one fairly and make sure ur other 2 wives dont care about you marrying the secretary .. btw you should quit flirting if ur already married

Answer 2

There have been multiple anecdotal studies (not ideal, but
the best you can legally do) regarding multiple-partner marriages,
particularly in the late 60s and early 70s.

Most of them don't work: Two people in the "marriage" become
the primary partners and the others end up as lesser parties,
worst case being living sex toys or slave labor.

That being said, in a suitably accepting society, one-man,
multiple wives can at least be stable (although one wife
does become the primary). This is basically a harem.
Mormonism used to at least condone this but it is now
illegal in every state of the union.

The wives generally end up having to decide it is OK to not
be the on-and-only and if they are taught early on that they
should be, they will leave.

This harem setup is a by=product of the fact that one man
can father many children at a time, whereas one woman is
pretty much committed to the exercize for the next 9 months.

In an age of male-female equality, it seems less likely.

Answer 3

How do your two wives feel about your secretary? You are making decisions for the three of you. It should be agreed upon by all involved. They have to be able to live with her too You didn't mention your feelings for your secretary. Are you in love with her? If you aren't or If your other wives aren't, you shouldn't even consider asking her to join your family. Marriage, after all, is a commitment. All four of you would have to be willing to weather the storms that come along.
Three is a bad number of wives. There will always be one who feels left out or teamed up on by the other two. A fourth wife may be required to ensure that no one is made to feel like an outsider.
Before you make a decision get the input all the parties involved.

Sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. Will you be tolerant when one or the other of your wives has designs on another husband?

Answer 4

Typical thing! I have a friend, whose mom and aunt married the same guy. They're having a happy life.

But don't push it. This is like the film production keeps insisting on producing 3-4th sequels just because the first 2 were successful. It will reach a point where the problem would be boredom, conflicts. If you proceed and marry once again, your two wives would feel like they are taking for granted, and that you're taking advantage of their peaceful cooperation in the family.

And is it really neccesary to make your secretary unemployed? Find her a job that is far away from yours, transfer her, tell her "sorry but no can do!"

Answer 5

Ex-spouses, in general, always seem to like to bash one another for one reason or another. But, I guess they need this forum to blow off steam or to ask for helpful advice. Many are looking for a few words of motivation to give them the courage to move on with their lives. I said "spouses" because some ex-husbands ask questions, too. As for second wives, it seems they have more beefs with their husband's first wives, usually about snide comments one says about the other. The one that dropped out for whatever reason should move on. If kids are involved, all parties should respect and love them equally or get out of the way. If they owe child support, they should be made to pay, either voluntarily or involuntarily. Most of the time it's the kids who suffer the most when parents split up. I don't mind offering advice. Some are looking for pats on the back. But, there are a few who are only deserving of kicks in the pants.

Answer 6

I Have Two Wives

Answer 7

I think you are full of ********. Fill in the blank. If not, keep an ear out for the sirens who will soon be looking for you. (I'm not sure if the sirens will be from a police car or an ambulance to take you to the funny farm. Two women in the same house could quite possibly send you there.)

BTW, having a harem is not as fun as it sounds, or so I've been told by an Arabic gentleman who wanted to make me his 3rd wife (I didn't much care for the idea of sharing a house with the other 2 ladies though. I turned him down flat.)

Answer 8

Very interesting, not to many people can really pull off the two partner thing.

However, everyone knows that it is better to leave your work at the office, the old "don't $#it where you eat" sort of thing. Also, having been someone's secretary I know that these things pass.

Just stick with the relationships that you do have and work on them, it sounds like they will need the work.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Personally, I would love to be in a relationship with me, hubby and another wife! Yeah, I know, most people will be shocked by that, but I think having another woman around, for friendship, help with choirs, raising kids, not to mention fun times in the bedroom!!

I am all for it! As long as all involved are in agreement and comfortable with the situation... I say go for it. Of course, you cant marry them both legally, but you can all three do a commitment ceremony.

Good luck!

Answer 10

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I think you've struck gold there. People are so lost once they think they've fallen in love...their new mate couldn't have contributed to the end of a marriage they are so wonderful. Its that stupid zone. The insecurity stuff I've seen in friends of mine as well...especially with the kids. It is really unfair to the kids..parents should show respect and kindness for each other in front of their children no matter what. A friend of mine had a second spouse who was actually jealous of the time he spent with his child. The second spouse didn't last very long as a result of her insecurities. Good for you on your observations though.