I dont know what to do?

Question

Honestly I think my boyfriend has been sleeping with other women and I am 3mnths pregnant by him and some of the members think I should get an abortion because my boyfriend ( I mean ex) isnt mature enough etc... I'm curious as to what everyone else thinks

Answer 1

you either trust someone or you don't. relationships are built on trust and communication. if he's not giving you enough attention or is gone a lot, ask him to spend more time with you. but if you are honestly suspicious, then you don't trust him yourself... as i said you either trust someone or you don't. if you are in love, you should not be doubtful, but KNOW that he wouldn't do that even if things might look that way. it is normal though to have such emotions during pregnancy, but don't get an abortion just b/c you're a little insecure.

Answer 2

Getting an abortion because one is not responsible enough is not a feasible reason or solution. Keep your relationship strictly mother and father. Only talk to him when it has something to do with your child. As for anything else do it by yourself. You have to make sure to stay strong and not fall back into it with him. Because, you know he's not the one for you. If he can cheat on you at you most vulnerable time then he can cheat on you at anytime. Children now a days grow up with only one parent living in the home or whatever the case may be. They grow up and have done very well without their parents being married or living together. Think of it this way, if he can't even be a man and break up with you before sleeping with another. Is that the mentality and morals you want your child to see and too learn from? If you have a boy do you want that kind of male figure in his life? As long as he takes care of his child and knows thast he has to step up and be a man then there is no need for an abortion. Besides your 3 months your child has all his body parts how are you going to feel when it hits you that you just killed an innocent child. They never asked to be in this world that was yours and your ex's doing. If you don't want the baby put it up for adoption. There are plenty of people in this world that want a baby, will love and care for it with no prejudice because it doesn’t have their blood running through its veins

Answer 3

Mature enough or not, he will be giving you child support.

If you think he was sleeping with other women while he was sleeping with you, tell your doctor ASAP and make certain you have all the necessary tests.

I am personally not in favor of abortion, but you need to do what you think is right.

Just know that he sounds immature and not ready to be a father. He will not give you any emotional support, and you will need to find it somewhere, whatever decision you make.

Think long and hard about whether or not you can handle being a mother right now, and if you could deal with putting a baby you carried up for adoption, or having an abortion. Weigh your options and the right decision will come to you.

Try to find someone to help you, a doctor, a teacher, a parent or relative, or a clergy member.

Remember that there are lots of loving couples who would love to adopt your baby.

But the ultimate decision is yours. Good luck! My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Answer 4

I dont think you should have an abortion because some members think you should...the only way you should have an abortion is if you want to. Dont do it just because your boyfriend is no longer in the picture, you can take care of your baby yourself it will be hard but you are able to do it. Do NOT get an abortion just because other people say you should....my best friend got one b/c her boyfriend and her mom wanted her too and she now is hates herself for it. An abortion can be very emotional for a women and it doesnt need to be done because other people thinks it should. I think you need to research your options and choose what is best for you. No one can tell you whats best only what they think. Anyway good luck, and I cant say it enough do not make the choose because of what others think do what you think is best.

Answer 5

If you are ready to be a mother or at least if you know you could do anything for your baby, and if you really want to have that baby, follow your heart and forget what other people say. What really matters is what you can offer your baby. And the fact that you ex is not mature is his problem. He is the one who has something to lose, not you or the baby. And remember that an abortion can be very dangerous. You should talk to your parents first. They are the people who know you better and they know what is best for you. But one thing I can tell you: those who say you should get an abortion because of your ex are definitely not mature.

Answer 6

I am not going to tell you an abortion is wrong for moral reasons, because everyone has different morals, but think about what you are going to do, which will you regret more? Bringing a child into the world when you might not be ready for it, or destroying a future life you helped create? An ex girlfriend of mine and I went through an abortion, it was (in my opinion) the worst mistake I ever made.

Answer 7

NO do NOT have an abortion. I am a pro life person & I think having an abortion is a cowardly & selfish act. If you were mature enough to have sex then you are ready to take care of a child. But if you are worried that you're not ready & that the father won't be around then you should consider adoption. There are some couples out there who are unable to have children of their own so why not let them have your child? That way the child has a chance to live & live happily. Don't be a murderer!!! Please! God bless you & good luck.

Answer 8

If you think he's sleeping around, he most likely is.

If you do not feel you would be able to raise this child alone (and it sounds like you'll be doing that, whether the dad is in the picture or not), and you do not feel you would be able to see the child and then put it up for adoption, then abortion is definitely something to consider. Before you go that route, though, think long and hard about whether it might be better to consider putting the child up for adoption. There are emotional scars left by an abortion, and only you can decide whether you will be able to handle that or not.

Good luck to you, whatever you decide to do.

Answer 9

I am not preaching or pushing a view, but please make aboriton your last choice.. Sit down with the guy and let him know what is up... Having a child is alot of responsibility, but not overwhelming enough to terminate the pregnancy.. I was very immature, when my then girlfriend, now wife became pregnant with our first child.. I drank too much, ran around with my friends, and had just made the one on one commitment. Boy was my head spinning... I sat down with my dad, who I love and trust as both a father and a dad.. He gave me the low daown and at 28 I decided it was time to grow up.. We got married, Iquit drinking, and over a fair ammount of time I began to become a new person, a good husband and a great father.. I am far from perfect but I try to better myself on a daily basis.. When I was 20 years old with another girl The same situation arose, and we decided to abort the child..At the time this seemed like the best decession...To date I will admit as will my wife and then girlfriend not my wife now, a different girl, You know what I mean..All three of us know that we made decissions that we regret.. I am no bible wacker or politician, just someone who has been there.. Look to family and friends for help.. They will be there for you, I promise... If they won't me and my wife will be, just drop us an e-mail, Good luck, I will be thinking about you..

Answer 10

if he is there or not cheating or not why would you not want the baby? Men leave women with children everyday those women can't abort those kids because the dads a loser. If you don't want your kid get rid of it before it's born instead of having a child you don't want. If you decided to be a mom that choice should not be in question because of the fathers actions. This is your body you will have to take most of the childs care on by yourself if he was there or not. I have no problem with abortion i have problems with getting one because someone teling you to or to hurt a unfaitful father. If you wanted to abort it needed DONE before 3 months! Now you should think about adoption if the fathers NOT BEING there MEANS you now don't want to be a mom.

Answer 11

What do you want?? Do you want this baby? It would be great to have the father of your baby in the picture, but it doesn't always work out that way. You never know, once the baby is born he might grow up and except the responsibility of being a father. I personally couldn't bring myself to have an abortion. My sister had an abortion and she regrets it. Think hard about your decision. Once it's done you can't take it back.