2006-07-17 09:06:18 · 5 answers · asked by Charon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes for right now i am and it stinks! I moved to another state with him when he got sent here for work. It should've been a great opportunity as they are paying for housing. The plan was to come here and save enough money to buy our own house when the job was over but hasn't worked out that way at all. I gave up my job (which to be honest i hated anyway) and place to live back home to come here and at first everything was heavenly! I have worked and taken care of kids pretty much on my own since i was 17 so it seemed like a great idea to take a break for a while, my kids are grown up now so i don't have to worry about that. now it feels like i'm just wasting away and our relationship has gone way down hill and he blows his entire paycheck every single week. we have only one vehicle here so i'm sort of stuck and putting up with crap i would never put up with if the situation was different. yes i have figured out that this was the plan all along, he can do what he wants because i have no place to go and no way to get there....duh right?
Yes i know i have to change it, and i've been looking for a job, its tough in a fairly rural area with no transportation though, not to mention this job is almost over so i won't be here much longer anyway. It's crazy that when things were so much harder and i had kids to take care of i found a way to get it done, maybe they were my motivation and for some reason just me isn't enough reason to do the hard stuff...wow thats kind of wharped.
2006-07-17 09:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY JOSE! Or should I say HELL NO!
I've always been independent and now I'm married with a child. My Husband he makes good money and damn it I make a pretty good living too. So, I don't think its good for anybody to bring in all the money and even if I spouse can afford it on his own. Nobody and I mean nobody will ever throw it my face and say this is what I do for you. You might as well just slap me. Being codependent to somebody is a sign of weakness and low self esteem. Everything should be 50/50 in a relationship, No one should the bread bringer in the house.
2006-07-17 09:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Irene A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Financially wise, yes. Otherwise, NO. I had been tooooooooooo dependient on my ex husband for far too many years. I grew up, learned to be independent, and have been that way since. I refuse to be dependent on someone for long, or for very much. I am only dependent on him financially because I lost my job a few months ago. Now we are going to have to move to another town (where he grew up), so I won't get a job until we do move. I tend to do what I want, when I want, but I still consult him when I need to spend any major money (40 or more) since I depend on him for it. If I had my own job, I wouldn't have to ask him. And, I don't ask him because he wants me to; I ask him out of respect for him and the fact that he is the breadwinner in this family right now.
2006-07-17 11:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. My life is sh*t right now, I am not making money, I have-no friends to hang out with all other kinds of things but, my wife Say's she loves me every day. We cuddle, kiss, hold hands and make love all the time. It really is the only thing that makes me happy now. Is it wrong to depend on her for my happiness? I don't think so, at least I have something to look forward too.
2006-07-17 09:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do what I want to do most of the time. If he doesnt want me to do it, he will whine and sometimes I re-think things.
2006-07-17 09:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋