ok this question is about my mother i don't want religious answers?

Question

mY mother is super religious penticostal christian. i am a lesbian and about three years ago i met my soul mate the love of my life. she hated this then ten months into our relationship my lover says baby i am trans ftm ok i accepted that i love her i told my mother everything would be fine now shes a guy thats what she wanted. so far she made her opinion known to me i said i didn't want to hear it again but now she is sending letters that if i would just not be with chris and change God would bless me and i don't think it works that way. it just is mean for her not to be supportive and say that god hates me cause of the life i live....... how should i deal with this i have done all the talking i can.

Answer 1

I'm almost 40 and can't get rid of my mom either,lol. Sorry,not to make light of your situation. Sometimes,we have to just cut our losses,and make a stand,and move away from our parents. I plan to do this asap myself. One can only stand so much. I,applaude your support of your soul mate. Doesn't matter which skin they come in,inside is what we love. Perhaps you should tell this to your mother,if you haven't already. Then,say,'Mom,I'm done talking,we shall not discuss this again." End of story,if she insists,then avoid her like the plague

Answer 2

nicely i will answer your christian questions for the reason that im a christian, in the initiating with you Adam and Eve question they'd better than 2 boys, they'd a tremendous kind of ladies and boys or perhaps as they were given older they'd youthful ones with one yet another. The regulation of incest and different commandments had no longer been released yet and they'd no man or woman else to reproduce with besides one yet another so it is how they spread the inhabitants around the earth. As for the question about Noah, he had many years to finish the ark and discover the animals, it changed into all he worked on with his kinfolk for most many years and certain i think this. Oh and the incest component, the international changed into populated sufficient by using now so that you probably did no longer might want to sleep with your brother or sister.

Answer 3

Well don't stop fighting for your right to love whoever you love but also try to keep talking to your Mother because family is important. Maybe buy her some good books on being a lesbian, bisexual, gay, or trans and still being Christian. That way she might be more open to reading them alone and learning more about the issue without having to try and save face in front of you. Send her info from PFLAG (parents for lesbians and gays) and have a peacher from a church talk to her about how it is fine to be a Christian and gay (or whatever) so another person is saying it, not just her child. Just some new ideas for you to try.

Answer 4

It is mean of her, and you can't change her no matter what you do. I believe you can't go against God's will for your life if you are following your heart and not hurting or cheating anyone. This is your experience, make the most of it, make it healthy and make it good and don't let her small minded judgments bring you down. Just love her from a distance and focus on making your life shine as best you can. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 5

Sounds like you're living not-with-her anymore. My suggestion would be to send her a letter saying that you know full well what her opinion is, but its your life and not hers and you happen to know that God created both of you as you are. If she would respectfully omit her negative opinions in the future, you'd appreciate it. Otherwise, you have no interest in talking to her if that's all she has to say. My further suggestion would be: talk to a counselor (family counseling is probably most appropriate) before doing any of that. Good luck.

Answer 6

i don't find your expection for your mother to love and accept everything you do, to be a realistic one. you and your mother live very different lives. she probably hopes you'll live like her, and you would like her to accept your decisions. when those expectations don't meet, then there is conflict.

if you've done all the talking you can do, maybe some space and time would be appropriate. i would hope you could say your mother loves you, but doesn't know how to deal with your different lifestyle. i hope she loves you and you know it.

where is dad in all this?

Answer 7

You should basically tell your mom, that even though your a lesbain that shouldn't change the way she looks at you, and that you are stil the same girl she raised. Also ask her how is it that she can hate you, when you are her own flesh and blood. Also remind her that your the one who has to live with the life change not her.

Answer 8

You are going to have to get tought on your mother. You are going to have to tell her until she can accept and love you for who you are and to love and accept your partner for who they are in your life then she won't hear or see you. That you will stop going to her house for any occasion. That you will not talk to her for any reason. If she feels she will loss you completely then she may at least keep her big mouth shut and try to accept things as they are. I know this sound harse, but I feel it is what it will take to reach here. To have here accept. I know I had to do this with mine, and it worked.

Answer 9

Babes some people in thsi world will never understand, just like some people will never like blacks. You need to think who do you plan on spending the rest of your life with? If your mother truly loves you and cares for you she will come round in time.

i hope it all works out for you
chris
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Answer 10

Well, one of my patients is an elderly woman in the same boat your mother is in and this is what she told me when it happened to her: What am I supposed to do? Stop loving him? She understood that she had two choices: either accept her son and enjoy him for the rest of her years or lose her son for the rest of her years.