I am married with two kids and my husband and I have an understanding that when he wants to hang out with his friends it's okay and when I want to hang with mine he doesn't get upset. The problem is that when I call on my friends to do things with them they always act like they can't do anything because they are always with their boyfriends. When my husband hangs out with his boys they all get together and have a great time. Why can't females be like that too? Don't these women realize that absence makes the heart grow fonder and that they should take the initiative to chill with their girlfriends too? I feel very lonely because I don't feel like I have to be around my husband every minute and I like to make plans to have girls night out but my friends always come up short. I would appreciate feedback from men and women on this one to get both sides opinions.
2006-07-17 09:02:54 · 16 answers · asked by TiaLee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Needy women tend to think that having a man is their answer to everything and that without a man, they have nothing. What they don't realize is that men don't want an incomplete woman, they want one that's self sufficient.
These friends of yours will not realize this any time soon so you'd better move on and find some new ones.
2006-07-17 09:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are crazy. all women. guys dont care about what they look like. if they dont have a new outfit to go out. jeans in a tea shirt is fine to relax and have a beer. women are differrnt there never satisfied with how they look. always tring to impress. the next person. takes forever getting ready, comareing prices for hours at a time at the stores. trying on every outfit. then complaing because they think they look fat. and wants your opion. why. you looked tyhe sam as you did a second. ago. just becuse you put on a new dress dosent make you lost weight. women compete with each other, and stab your best friend in the back. women and drama go hand and hand. the more drama the more women there are. why do you think soap shows are so big.. now to answer your question. women dont know how to relax.
2006-07-17 16:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by jackpack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is, YOU are MARRIED...Some women feel they have to be around their Boyfriends 24/7 The insecurity of possibly losing them..I had this same problem few years back. Only way to solve that problem was when I moved and met new friends. I still keep in touch with the others, but life seems more complex now.
2006-07-17 16:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you're saying... I'm the same way. Sadly... it kind of makes you want to be a guy b/c guys have so much less drama and they ALWAYS get along.
I'm guessing that girls are just insecure, maybe, about their man and think that if they're with them every second of everyday that they might find someone else.
I really have no clue... but I think that's what like 35% of womens problems are.
2006-07-17 16:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by brnzdbeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...well I know what you mean...I live away from my family and when I come into town to visit my friends...one in particular acts as if she cannot possibly make time for me...I think women get so caught up with their men that their life eventually begins to revolve around their man.
I would suggest asking your friend in advance to "schedule" you in..because you feel as though you are not spending enough time together..or go out as couples. Simply having lunch together would be a start.
2006-07-17 16:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by lt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really right for anybody to ditch their friends all the time. Maybe it's just a growing apart kind of thing, and it's time to start looking for new friends. Not replacing the current ones, just so you have more to choose from. That way somebody is more likely to be able to hang when you can!
2006-07-17 16:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Cause they don't have the understanding that you have with your husband. Not all guys are the same. My husband and I do exactly the same thing we we need to. He hangs out with his friends and I hang out with mine once in a while and it feels really good. And I do agree with you that a lot of my friends either don't show up or they find some laime execuses to not be there. It's the good communication between the two of you that helps you have more fun with friends.
2006-07-17 16:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very simple - I had guy friends that were doing the same as your girlfriends - they're insecure. They probably didn't have men that often or men that are that good, and they're insecure and afraid. They need to establish how things are going to be right in the beginning of the relationship and be prepared to walk away if it's not going to work.
No matter how good you've got it, if you're not going to be happy and things aren't right, you've got to walk away from it.
2006-07-17 16:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women seem to wrap their whole life around family, while men consider family important, their whole life does not revolve around family. I got caught up like that and when my relationship ended I had no friends or family. Guess what though, they ended up being my main support during hard times. I hope you continue to develop clean relationships and have a good time with or without your husband!
2006-07-17 16:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by delovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are stupid. My best friend from elementary school did the same thing to me until he started pounding on her.
Sometimes, that is all they know. Most men make the women feel that they do not need anybody other than themselves (or his friends).
2006-07-17 16:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋