my fiancee says if my son doesnt go by his rules he wil take his tv out.
2006-07-17 08:54:48 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does he mean, damage it or get rid of it? Let me get this straight- you and your son live with your fiancee? And your fiancee, who you better not betray, has some rules and wants you and the boy to obey them? And it's your fiancee's house? Well, you're the boy's real parent, but your fiancee is the house owner. So really, he's the boss. But the kid is yours, and by rights, you should be the disciplinarian to the kid, and make sure he obeys the rules of the house. And on the same token, you have to be his example.
2006-07-17 09:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your fiancee should not have the say so to the discipline your son will get if he does not abide by his rules. You should both talk about the discipline and the rules and stick together on the matter. I am a step parent and from my experience in the past,
it is not a good idea for the non-parent to make the rules on their own w/o the real parents input or you will have nothing but rebellious children. I made a few mistakes myself like your fiancee is trying to do, and he will regret it later. You should be the one to tell the child after the two of you talk things through. Good luck.
2006-07-17 16:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As this lifetime partnership begins for the two of you, the rules should be based on calibration. You need to desperately work out these issues while the children are very young. Kids are smart and if they see that there is a flaw, one parent not supporting the other parents decision, they will make your life into a 3 ring circus. Initially, you don't have to agree on everything the moment it comes up, but make it a stead fast rule, that until the two you can get alone, that you support each others decision. Raising children, is like a tag team wrestling match. You have to be there for each other!!!
2006-07-17 16:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent!!! but at the same time, you are choosing to add a step-parent to the mix. If you want a solid family unit, you need to share discpline responsibilities. If his rules are reasonable, go with them, if not, the two of you need to have a talk about the kind of family life you want.
Warning...have the talk when the kid(s) are NOT home, stay calm, reasonable and fair.
2006-07-17 16:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by lovelylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it that way don't let him take the TV away but if you agree with the punishment tell you're fiancee that you appreciate his opinion but you'd like to make the punishment yourself.
2006-07-17 16:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your responsibility to tell your fiance that you BOTH decide on the rules and the discipline. The discipline should be appropriate for the age of the child, too.
Good luck.
2006-07-17 15:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiancee said it all. Unless you are married I would not let him take anything away from my kid unless the kid was being a complete jerk.
2006-07-17 16:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son lives with the both of you, you BOTH need to decide on how to dicipline him. He is YOUR son but if you live with your fiance there should be some mutual respect going on.
2006-07-17 16:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to agree on the discipline that should be used.
2006-07-17 15:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first kids don't need tv in their rooms. Secondly who the he** is he to discipline your child. Don't let some man discipline my child, I will discipline him. I may not be living in the home with my child but it is still my child. HANDS OFF OTHER PEOPLES CHILDREN STEP PARENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-17 16:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋