I love my husband more then my self but I am atracted to another man what can I do to stop thinking about him?

Answer 1

ok heres what you do you grap a clip for a colt 45 put to you head and shot you brains out do us all a favor because you are a stupid *** hole.
Leviticus 18
1 The LORD told Moses
2 to tell the people of Israel: I am the LORD your God!
3 So don't follow the customs of Egypt where you used to live or those of Canaan where I am bringing you.
4 I am the LORD your God, and you must obey my teachings.
5 Obey them and you will live. I am the LORD.
6 Don't have sex with any of your close relatives,
7 especially your own mother. This would disgrace your father.
8 And don't disgrace him by having sex with any of his other wives.
9 Don't have sex with your sister or stepsister, whether you grew up together or not.
10 Don't disgrace yourself by having sex with your granddaughter
11 or half sister
12 or a sister of your father or mother.
13 Don't disgrace your husband by sharing your attraction with another man.
14 Don't disgrace your uncle by having sex with his wife.
15 Don't have sex with your daughter-in-law
16 or sister-in-law.
17 And don't have sex with the daughter or granddaughter of any woman that you have earlier had sex with. You may be having sex with a relative, and that would make you unclean.
18 As long as your wife is alive, don't cause trouble for her by taking one of her sisters as a second wife.
19 When a woman is having her monthly period, she is unclean, so don't have sex with her.
20 Don't have sex with another man's wife--that would make you unclean.
21 Don't sacrifice your children on the altar fires to the god Molech. I am the LORD your God, and that would disgrace me.
22 It is disgusting for a man to have sex with another man.
23 Anyone who has sex with an animal is unclean.
24 Don't make yourselves unclean by any of these disgusting practices of those nations that I am forcing out of the land for you. They made themselves
25 and the land so unclean, that I punished the land because of their sins, and I made it vomit them up.
26 Now don't do these sickening things that make the land filthy. Instead, obey my laws and teachings.
27 (SEE 18:26)
28 Then the land won't become sick of you and vomit you up, just as it did them.
29 If any of you do these vulgar, disgusting things, you will be unclean and no longer belong to my people. I am the LORD your God, and I forbid you to follow their sickening way of life.
30 (SEE 18:29)


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Answer 2

These issues are very complex.

Let me try and walk you through a brief session.

A) You need to decide if you'd want a future with this man. If it's a no, then you're probably only infatuated. This will pass in time.

B) If you are considering a future, you need to stop and really think about what you have with your husband. Could you leave him? Is it worth it? What about the kids (if applicable). If you're not thinking about leaving him,, then it's the same as A) although a bit less healthy.

C) If you might leave your husband, then you have to realise the following:

- You don't love your husband more then yourself.
- This isn't an infatuation, but rather a call for a better life. You're not attracted to the man, but the new situation the man would bring.
- You should work on your marriage and reason with your hubby.

That's about the only advice I can give.

Answer 3

Shift your focus and attention back to your husband. Think about all the things you love about him. Plan specific creative ways to show your appreciation for him, and put a lot of time and energy into carrying them out. Every time you think of the other man, stop the thought in its tracks and think about something that you like about the man you already have. Put some distance between you and the other man if you can, and if you can't, avoid being alone with him.

If you "feed" the attraction you have for the other man, it will grow. If you "starve" it, it will wither and die. The same thing holds true for the love and attraction you have for your husband.

It's not unusual to be attracted to someone else and it doesn't mean that you are with the wrong person. You can control what you do with those feelings of attraction. Don't let them control you.

Answer 4

If you love your husband as much as you say, then you are strong enough to stop thinking about the other man. Love is much more than just physical attraction. Keep looking at your husband's pictures and thinking about all the good things you have done together to keep your thoughts away from the other man.

Answer 5

I'm glad u asked this question because most people deal with this issue from time to time.

1) Thought stopping: when you think about the other man, immediatly think of something different like your husband.
2) This is a trait of someone who thinks about other men from time to time. Not saying you do but if you do somewhat try not to.
3) Think about ways in which you can improve on the marital relationship. Communicate.
4) Think of ways you can improve on sex life. Communicate.
5) Avoid places were you will see that guy
6) Understand that you love your husband

Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Think about the other man if you must, but stay FAR away from him or you will eventually destroy your marriage.

Try to do something with your husband to re-energize your interest in each other. See if you can shift your daydreams back to him by thinking about the things that made you fall in love with him in the first place. Remember, the grass always seems greener on the other side. Unless your marriage is a lot worse than it sounds, keep your thoughts of another man to yourself and work on improving your current relationship.

Answer 7

Before I married my husband, we talked about if we should ever find anyone else attractive, what we would do. For one, we will stay as far away from that person as we possibly can. Out of sight, out of mind. Then, we would tell each other what we needed from each other to make our love more lasting and stronger. If you can't stop thinking of this other man, you are only fooling yourself. You think things would be so much better and exciting with him, don't you? Well, honey, go ahead and have your fling, because you will learn that he farts, too, and leaves his dirty clothes laying around the house, and that he does all the same things that we women hate for any man to do. The man we dream about having, SIMPLY DOES NOT EXIST.

Answer 8

Think about all the things you love about him. Plan specific creative ways to show your appreciation for him, and put a lot of time and energy into carrying them out. Every time you think of the other man, stop the thought in its tracks and think about something that you like about the man you already have. Put some distance between you and the other man if you can, and if you can't, avoid being alone with him.

Answer 9

just think about your husband doing this to you and how you would feel. Also, do you love your husband?
You need to resolve why you are thinking about someone else and remember it is easier to fantasize but in reality you would have a totally different person. One who is not charming in many ways and unattractive in others etc.
What are the qualities in your husband that you love and that make you smile?
What are the qualities in you that are attractive? Why?
Always change your perspective and viewpoint to make good decisions and to come up with answers.
I hope this helps you

Answer 10

Put yourself in your husbands shoes. Feel his pain feel him asking questions and try to understand his hardships all that he does for you all that he goes through for you.

Is this other man worthy of his place? Would this other man do what your husband does and has done and probably will do in the future?

Consider all pros and cons. Think to yourself why is my mind in this battle why do I crave this man for what? Body? Things? his mind? Emotions? Are these things my husband has lost touch with when it comes to me?

Whatever you decide to do be true and do not lie to anyone including yourself. Always keep in mind to omit it just as good as a lie.

When you brake a man's heart mend tend to shut themselves down and put up barriers to their heart to protect it and in return they become hard and cold and sometimes they may even consider not caring.



Kind regards,



Kontizas Demosthenes
Father of 4 and a Man who has been through the fire.

Answer 11

If it's someone that you work with then you need to distance yourself from that person as best you can. If you can't distance yourself, then you need to seriously consider the consequences of your actions if you do happen to act on them.

It's 100% natural to find other people attractive, but to not be able to stop thinking about them is another thing and can only lead to disaster if you don't nip it in the bud.