I'm not pregnant and we don't have any kids but people who find out we're married assume I am how can we get them to stop thinking that
2006-07-17 08:26:31 · 21 answers · asked by Val 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel BELIEVE ME I am 16 and have been married since I was 14 and the first thing people ask me whenever we first meet them is WHERE ARE THE KIDS? I'm like hello we DON'T have any kids. I just tell them straight up there isnt any and just walk away. We just don't worry about it .
2006-07-17 09:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by holla at me 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is a way to stop them from thinking that. I guess you could just let the time pass and they'll just get used to it.
Usually people want to establish a good career, or go to college and earn some money for a stable lifestyle before they get married. Have you thought about these things before you got married? It sounds like your marriage was a small ceremony that not many people were invited to. Otherwise they wouldn;t have to find out about it now.
2006-07-17 08:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by pingtinggege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Val, You have to face reality. It's not common for 17 year olds to be married, unless there is a reason. You are an exception to the rule. The trend today is to wait until you are older to marry. Many people are not getting married until their 30's. Congratulations to you and your husband. I certainly wish you the best of luck. When someone asks, just say "Why would you ask something like that?" This response will put them on the defensive, and make them realize that they have acted like an idiot.........
2006-07-17 08:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Critical Thinker No 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your choice so why do you care what anyone else thinks? Why worry about it at all? Does what they think change the reality of anything? No of course not, so all that worrying is completely wasted energy. I'm sure that being 17 and married you have much bigger things to worry about than this, if you are 30 and married you have bigger things to worry about than this. You won't be 17 forever, this is whats known as small stuff and you know what they say....don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-07-17 08:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately they probably won't stop thinking that until you are older. Most people assume that the only reason why someone so you ng would get married is becasue they are having an unexpected pregnancy. Sorry. And good luck with your marriage.
2006-07-17 08:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be pregnant...thats the only way you marry today at 17. Better people to think this is the reason that somethings much worse.
2006-07-17 08:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by ernie3232 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what ignorant people think. Everyone has an opinion on when people should get married, but the only people you should be concerned about is the opinion of you and your spouse.
2006-07-17 08:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you can. To be honest with you that was the first thing that poped into my head. It's just that most people don't want to be married at such an early age. These are the years that we are supposed to be experiencing being free and out of our parents house...you know.....
well congratualtions and I truley do hope that you two stay together forever.......
God Bless You.....much, much, much, MUCh love....
2006-07-17 08:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore it. i know-- it's easier said than done. i've been there. but really-- who are they too you?? you don't have to prove ANYTHING too them. if they aren't your family, and if they aren't your TRUE friends, then it doesn't matter. as long as you and your husband know the truth and never lose sight of that-- you'll be fine.
people just take it as their duty to assume that you're "knocked up" (i hate saying that, but that's what ppl will say) because they think true love doesn't exist anymore and because you're pretty young. maybe they think you and your husband aren't compatible-- but like i said, it doesn't matter what they think. just remember that YOU and YOUR HUSBAND KNOW the truth-- and that's all that does matter.
personally-- i'm 17 too, and i'm very serious with my boyfriend who is going to turn 23. people in my school talk (ppl that know about it) but i'm really well liked so that helps-- but i ignore what ppl say. i'm @ the point where you really have to say "you know what, i don't give a sh*t what you think." lol-- you'll be fine sweetie!! i promise!!
i hope this helped you!! good luck !!!
2006-07-17 08:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by jetters007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just part of life. Simply hold your head up high and tell them no. It's none of their business as to why you are married at such a young age.
2006-07-17 08:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋