He has really bad behavior prolems at home alot when he sees my mom and step-dad.... he is 6 years old, how do you punish him so he will learn to not do it, and not always be in time out by my step-dad?
2006-07-17 08:25:41 · 10 answers · asked by camper101111111111111 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Special Education
He has really bad behavior prolems at home alot when he sees my mom and step-dad.... he is 6 years old, how do you punish him so he will learn to not do it, and not always be in time out by my step-dad?
We have something called a "token chart" where we reward him with good behavior, and for every 5 stars he gets $1, my mom is very educated on it, and my step-dad is a autistic behavior specialist, but everything we try with my brother never works... for example, when my step-dad gos to his room, or gos to the restroom, etc. my brother knocks on the door asking "where doing" and repeatedly knocks on it until he answers the door, and my little brother doesnt understand privacy.... but will he start to change when he gets older? will he be able to talk better and act more "normal"?
2006-07-17 08:34:49 · update #1
You should not punish him.. You should understand him more and have patience. Why not go to a therapist who could help your brother.
2006-07-17 08:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by belladona_ph 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
www.difficultchild.com
I am a special education teacher in TX. This approach changed both my teaching and my parenting techniques. It explains that we give attention for bad behavior instead of good behavior. We need to reverse that. Good behavior gets a few seconds. Bad behavior will get our undivided attention for minutes.
Also, time-outs, if you make them for longer than the child is capable of doing you make yourself look out of control and stupid. Only make timeouts that the child is mentally, emotionally, and physically able to complete.
And the attention? Praise, praise, praise, the good.
For bad behavior, lessen the attention, you messed up, timeout, bummer, and leave it at that. But remember, the timeout can't be impossible for the child.
I really reccommend Transforming the Difficult Child to every adult, teacher, and parent. Please check out the website or IM my screen name to talk more about how to deal with your little brother?
2006-07-17 11:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by wanda s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't help how he is and shouldn't be punished all the time. Your step-dad is behaving badly and should be the one in time out. Your mom and step-dad need some education on how to deal with a mentally retarded child and I suggest you get educated on it also.
Call your local mental health and ask them about parenting classes for parents of mentally retarded children. Read some books on the subject also. Try to talk to your parent and step-parent about it.
Here is a link to find counseling near you...
http://local.yahoo.com/results?fr=iy-text-lcl-res&stx=counseling
Also go to a search engine and type mental health deapartment and your city and state.
2006-07-17 08:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Questions&Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in Texas, you can ask your doctor about a referral to Texas Scottish Rite Hospital for Children. They are not a regular hospital that treats sick or injured people; they help kids with learning disabilities like dyslexia. I'm sorry I don't know whether they specifically treat autism, but they certainly know how to help kids with autism and other learning disabilities. The hospital requires an application (you must live in Texas), doesn't charge for its services, and if you are not accepted the hospital will help you find another place. It's in Dallas.
2006-07-17 09:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by mathster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really wanna control his behaviour approach more politely rather than just displaying your anger that you would do otherwise also..if he is "retarded",anger and punishments won't help..try to develop the bond between him and you cuz when a child feels love and gets the attention he wants he no longer remains insolent...i have always maintained and i still say that the best way to solve any relationship problems is communication..try talking and be open with him..it helps a lot...
2006-07-17 08:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by infinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not allowed to punish him. You need to let your mom and step-dad to that. There's a reason your step-dad puts you in time-out, it's because it's his job, and your mom's jobs, to parent the both of you.
2006-07-17 08:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by jannabanana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reward the good behavior instead.
2006-07-17 08:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by mrsdebra1966 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a doctor about this.Or someone who specializes in that category.Good Luck!
2006-07-17 08:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure exactly but try not show him what his behaving bad at not sure if it will work but just try
if u need any help e-mail me
2006-07-17 08:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Gina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reward him. He will cherish it.
2006-07-17 12:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋