I'm attractive, loving, loyal, and I'm very spontaneous. Why does he keep doing this to me. He isn't open and honest. And he's very much hooked on Porn. When he leaves he comes crying back. Sometimes he's gone for months.
2006-07-17 08:18:10 · 20 answers · asked by Eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lock the door! I am serious! Don't open yourself up for any more hurt. I don't like divorce, but nobody needs this. No one can tell you what to do, but I would be in a padded cell banging my head against the wall. How have you managed to hold on to your sanity? You said sometimes he is gone for months, where is he? Do you know how many men out there would love you and never treat you this way? I have a lot of single male friends, who need a good woman like you. Honey, if he truly loved you like you should be loved, then he couldn't do this-much less want to do this...What is he running from? Who is he running to? Please lock that door to your home and to your heart. If he has done it 5 times all ready, he will do it again. Find someone who wants to be locked inside with you. Take that energy and spontaneous nature and go find you a man--one who has sticking power not a runner. Good luck and God bless...
2006-07-17 08:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question isn't why he's doing it. The real question is why are you putting up with it? Every time he leaves, I know your heart has to be breaking, and that's not something anyone should be used to. Apparently, he does not care or love you as much as he should, because he definitely has a funny way of showing it if he does. You deserve much better than that. If talking to him and telling him how it makes you feel isn't working, then I say it's time for you to take matters into your own hands and leave him yourself, before he hurts you worse. It will be hard, but you can do it.
2006-07-17 08:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMg wake up!!!He knows you keep taking him back so guess what he keeps leaving!!His crying jags are just a mere plot to get back into your life when his other lovers don't hash out!!Your pretty like you claim and u have all these good qualities then leave his butt and tell him the crocodile tears ain't working no more and go back where ya came from!!Your relationship is going nowhere and never will as long as u put up with his silly antics!!Have some self-esteem about yourself and kick the looser to the curb!!
2006-07-17 08:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all these wonderful qualities and he doesn't appreciate you? Why do you keep taking him back? I know its not easy to end a marriage but a marriage is a responsability you don't run away when something is not right you work on it toguether until it is. Obviously he's not taking this responsability seriously and is monopolizing your marriage and you by making you feel sorry for him. All I can say is work on you and find a partner that's worthy otherwise it will just remain this way year in and year out.
2006-07-17 08:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps doing it because you allow it. You have become a revolving door, you also need to think about what he is doing while he is gone. Does your husband us this to cheat without really cheating because you are not together. Think, Think, Think, do you really want to keep doing this for the rest of your life. If you stay with him this is how it will be because he will always think he can come back. Porn, there is nothing to worry about that is normal.
2006-07-17 08:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like codependency on both of your parts. I think it is more his problem than yours, but maybe you should end this relationship. It sounds like a downer and a way to lose self-esteem and personal happiness.
Since you are someone with a higher nature that is more worthwhile, you should dedicate it to someone who really loves and appreciates you. A yo-yo relationship is like constant dieting and weight gain, a bad pattern that gets familiar and repetitive but in the end, doesn't work no matter how much hope you have or how many attempts you make. Get out of it.
2006-07-17 08:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks and get a better husband. You might forgive this one, maybe twice, but five times? Are you kidding? Get some self esteem and realize that you deserve better. You say you are loyal, but being loyal to this degree is bordering on stupidity.
2006-07-17 08:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves this
If possible, you should move next time he splits.
I am a very dedicated person and don't believe in divorce, but my 1st wife did this to me more times than I can count. After being gone for a little over a year, I got the divorce
as should you
2006-07-17 08:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mr nice guy 2U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband was like this, and one day, I decided that I wasn't worth this kind of treatment. I had been nothing but a faithful, loving wife. So, I got a divorce! It isn't proving how much you love him to take him back....it is proving how foolish you are, and how low you think of yourself.
2006-07-17 08:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does it because he can - you let him, you enable him. He only comes back because the door is always open. I don't think he really loves you and he's definitely not commited. Why not divorce this loser and find someone you can really love?
2006-07-17 08:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋