a friend of mine mite be pregnant if she is her mom wants to keep it, but the guys doesnt. what should she do

Answer 1

She should do what SHE wants to do. Not her mom or her boyfriend.

Answer 2

This should be a decision she makes for HERSELF, THE BABY, and no one else. If the father doesn't want to have anything to do with the baby - that's his loss, and unfortunately the baby's.

She should also evaluate her personal situation, what kind of person she is, what she plans to do in life, how she would take care of a child, how much influence she would be able to have in raising it, how much she would have to give up in order to raise a child, etc. Your friend should weigh every option she has very carefully. There are many factors to deciding wether to keep the baby, abort the baby, or put the baby up for adoption. Every woman has a choice about what to do, and while I would never have an abortion, I do support any woman's right to decide.

I would also suggest your friend getting counseling for young parents and parents to be. This would be a good way for her to sort out her feelings about her situation. A counselor can provide a professional, objective opinion about the situation, and help you discuss your options.

Answer 3

The most important thing is to follow your heart. She should do what SHE feels she should do, not what her mother or boyfriend feel. The boyfriend isn't going to stick around anyway so disregard his opinion completely. Mothers can be overbearing, so in this instance, disregard hers as well. It does help that she has a supportive mother. That makes it easier when you're young and raising a child. If SHE wants to keep the baby (for the RIGHT reasons, not because it's "cute"), then she should. But she needs to know it's going to be a hard road ahead. There are lots of struggles, but even more rewards. Kids are great.

Answer 4

SHE has to be the one to make up her mind on this issue. She will be the one that has to look into the mirror and face herself for what she has done or not done. This is not a decision that can be made and just forgotten about. Remind your friend that she will have to face this 5 years, 10 years and later down the road - whatever her decision is it must be hers and hers alone. Remind her that there are many choices that she can make, if she doesn't feel like she is ready to me a mom, then maybe she should consider adoption and she can leave the adoption open that way later down the road if she chooses to be a part of this childs life the door is not eternally closed.

Answer 5

Well this is a very sensitive subject. First off I'm against abortion say I don't think she should even consider murdering an innocent child that is growing inside of her. So....it doesn't matter what her mom wants or what the guy's mom wants...this is about her, him, and the baby. Talk to your friend and find out what she wants to do. If she doesn't want the child then I would suggest she puts the child up for adoption because there are plenty of couples out there who cannot conceive a child of their own who would be more than happy to take her child & raise it as their own. Good luck to you & her. I hope she makes a wise choice.

Answer 6

first of all it's the girls decion a guy even though he helped make the child actualy has no say in what she does till the baby is born and they guy can not make her give the baby up after it is born unless he takes her to court and proves her unfit to be a mother which is very hard since the courts seem to beleive the mother's. tell your friend good luck and if she needs help she can im me at any time. i graduated school with 3 kids and another on the way. lol. she can do it if i did. trust me it won't be easy but if she works hard she can do it. also if she is a minor the girls parents have all the say in what she does with the baby if she chooses to keep it till she turns 18. the parents have to take care of that baby and everything.

Answer 7

First of all, it's what SHE wants to do. If the guy is taking off anyways, and she wants to keep the babe, she should do so because it seems as if her Mother would help her financially and with raising it. If she doesn't want the babe, then she simply shouldnt' have it, not becaue it would make her life harder, but because just think of how you would feel growing up knowing that you were a mistake and your mother never wanted you in the first place. If she doesn't watn the child, it's better than she doesnt' have it so that the child doesn't have to suffer.

Answer 8

What she should do is to stop having sex until she is ready to be a parent. But, as that may be water under the bridge....


Although it isn't "fair", the woman does call all the shots when it comes to keeping a baby. If her mother will be supportive of her, then maybe she can keep it. You may want to gently bring up adoption as a viable option that would give her child a good life.

Good luck to you in being supportive of her during this time. But use your friendship to help her make better decisions in the future.

Answer 9

Your friend should find a trusted, adult counselor. This could be someone at a church, her doctor, a teacher from school, somone from a clinic... whoever it is, she should be cautious of seeking help from somone strongly pro-life or pro-choice. Whoever she seeks help from will have strong opinions on that issue and if your friend is strongly pro-life - if she seeks help from someone stronlgy pro-choice it will make the decision more difficult (and vice-versa).

Your friend has to make this decision for herself and no one on Yahoo can answer it for her. We don't know enough about her or her circumstances.

Legally, the guy doesn't have much of a say. If she wants to keep the baby she is totally within her rights to do so and he can't stop her. Depending on her age, if her mom doesn't want her to have an abortion she won't have much of a choice.

I can tell you that everyone I have known who has had an abortion has suffered from a great deal of pain and guilt afterwards. It is one of those decisions that stays with you for the rest of your life.

There are a lot of loving families in search of children. Adoption is an additional option your friend might want to consider.

Answer 10

Hey listen tell Ur friend if this guy really loved her he would accept that she is pregnant with a baby on the way not try to kill something that he helped make if the parent wants to keep it more the reason to keep it

Answer 11

You have said word "might". So I would wait untill it is sertain that she is pregnant. Then I want to know if the guy is her husband. If he is, she should talk to him and deal with him only. no moms involved. If he is just a boyfriend, then she still has to talk to him and try to find out what is his motive and what is he thinking about future overall. he might not want to have kids at all, or they might be too young. If they are too young, then they shold talk to doctor and see what is the best solution for them. they should not bring mom or anybody else into this unless they are under 21. Otherwise they should mae their deccission just by themself. It is delicate situation and even you should not get involved as if you give an advise and it turns out to be a bad one, you will lose your friend.