I am a 34yo male who has been married for 8 years. I have a degree in electronics, but I have been working in software for 8 years. I make about double what my spouse makes. We own a nice house, truck, camper, boat, etc. Everything is paid for but the house which is reasonable. We spend our money on dining, trips, movies, etc. We have no children due to fertility issues.
Problem: I hate my job. About two years ago, I started yearning for a new job, but the wife always complained when I mentioned that I would probably make much less than I make now. I am very unhappy. She will not consider in vitro or adoption. Having children is a must for me. I have asked for divorce twice so I could get control over my life back. We have been in counseling together and individually ove the last year. I am sad and resentful and keep thining about life on my own.
I don't want to play anymore and wanted to ask the world what a guy can do to cure his midlife crisis before I make a horrible mistake.
2006-07-17 07:49:02 · 7 answers · asked by mansonpeters 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know what...u have given this woman the world and she wont even let you be happy. give it up man, sounds like shes more worried about what you buy for her then your mental state. this is not a midlife crises hun, this is your wife being selfish and you reacting normaly. tell her that this is how you feel. in fact show her this question and all the different answers, maybe she'll see how bad it is for you. after working so hard at putting yourself (and her for that matter) you deserve what you want. if counseling isnt working then maybe you just need to act on your instincts and leave. find a job that pleases you, not someone elses spending habits. find a woman that can give you what you want in life.
2006-07-17 08:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think divorce is the way to go. I think you need to have a very serious talk with your wife. You have put to much time in this relationship to let it go now and to be married for that long you must have good commutation skills. Express to her how very serious you are about a child and your job. Don't leave out how much you have considered a divorce I know that might be hard but you owe it to her. You both deserve a happy life and I am sure there must be some kind of happy medium. Don't through everything that you have worked for in the whim. You owe it to yourself and her to try everything before you throw it all away.
2006-07-17 08:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 05:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to remeber why you married her. You guys have experienced so much togetehr, and that is wonderful. Try to talk to her more about why a child is so important to you, and maybe she will reconsider in vitro or adoption. Also address her concerns on this issue. But If you wnat kids it probably isn't the ebst idea for you to switch jobs. Kids are expensive.
2006-07-17 07:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you and your wife have some very serious issues and that maybe this is not a midlife crisis. You've got some tough decisions to make. I wish you the best.
2006-07-17 08:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just being selfish. You should get divorce and try to meet someone else. Hey its never too late to start a new life again. I have the same problem too. i will be leaving my hubby very soon.
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-17 07:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have done a great job being a husband it sounds like. now seems that she is being unfair and inconsiderate. dump her and go have a baby with someone who will be thankful.
2006-07-17 07:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋