We have been together for 5 years, with a short break of two months. (I have had on and off depression, and am now on light meds which are helping. I think my depression comes from sometimes feeling confined by the relationship, not having a solid, confident sense of self, experiencing ups and downs of the world individually/independently, and wanting to listen to my inner self and follow where it leads me in this world, which I have trouble actually doing - what led to the short breakup was to help with this) Anyways, my question is: we are supposed to get married within the month - IS IT ENOUGH CAUSE FOR CONCERN THAT ONE PERSON IS DEPRESSED TO CONSIDER POSTPONING A WEDDING??
2006-07-17 07:45:54 · 12 answers · asked by warago_12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to marriage counseling, and talk to your counselor about it. If your fiance doesn't want to go to counseling, you should go alone.
You might also want to consider some individual counseling just for yourself. Hopefully you can get on some more effective medications, and maybe you can get to know yourself too.
Remember, marriage is forever. You don't want to jump into a committment that you aren't ready for. Good luck!
2006-07-17 07:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by Go16 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think u should postpone the wedding in till u get some counsel and maybe some medicine for your depressed too . i know how u are feel i was depressed before but i am on medicine for my now
2006-07-17 07:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what's best for YOU!
you need to be whole before getting into a deeper relationship with another.
You have problems with depression...that should be # 1 on your list...
Post pone the wedding and seek the proper help for your depression
2006-07-17 07:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, u should postpone the wedding.....but not b/c you're depressed....b/c you're unsure of who u are.......you need to be sure of urself before giving urself to another person......otherwise, you will never have a sense of self worth or independence.........email me if u wanna talk.......
2006-07-17 07:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - because once you are out of your depression funk, you might realize you made a wrong decision.
2006-07-17 07:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not, hey u shud go on a vacation, take time off, chill, coz its just that ure nervous clearly, hang out with friends....and think of how much u love ur love, that will bring all happiness....cheers to a good , pleasant life, coz, ur spouse likes u for u, and nothin more , get it, and imagine to spend ur lif ewith someone u love so much!
2006-07-17 07:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by richerharmony 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on whether you sent out invitations and how many people are involved in the process should be considered in your decision.
2006-07-17 07:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Toddacanda 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage counseling should help you figure out if you're ready to get married. Please don't do anything without consulting a counselor. You may regret it.
2006-07-17 07:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by SassySours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get yourself together first --- go get your own place and live alone - date when you want to ....you don't seem the type to be wanting exclusive relationships
2006-07-17 07:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to talk to him and tell him how u feel...if he is the one then explain u need time...he'll understand...ummm and if u have enough money to waist go for it
2006-07-17 07:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by chaand5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋