My husband is very spiritual and does not allow our kids to watch anything with profanity in it, or that has any kind of sexual reference to it. He doesn't even allow them to watch some disney shows that show a guy and a girl kissing at the prom or whatever. My brother wanted to take my son to see spiderman 3 and x-men and my husband objects to those kind of movies. My family thinks that it is going to affect the kids in the long run because he is being to much of a control freak, and he is overly bearing. This is a constant strain in our relationship because I have seen what being overprotective can do to children. My niece grew up with overly religious parents who acted just like my husband. Now that she is 18, she has moved out and now is shacking up living with some boy, curses worse than a sailor, and had a pregnancy scare once or twice! Her brother had a baby out of wedlock! I think that my husband needs to relax, What do you think?
2006-07-17 07:44:42 · 10 answers · asked by candy0813 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friends are also worried. However, my husband gets very mad when I bring up the subject. He says that it's his job to raise these kids, and that God will hold only HIM responsible, and that as a good "submissive" wife, my job is to support him, and that is what I try to do, but it is sooooo hard.....
2006-07-17 07:46:01 · update #1
is the 13 year old his stepson or his biological father ? i never seen a kid go to alife of crime because he heard a curse word . he is running that waaaaayyyyy overboard.i had a friend once her stepdad wouldnt let her do any thing,and we all went to church together too, he wouldnt even let her come to my house after church....eventually when time came when she was old enough to be on her own ..she broke out like a caged animal,she was so wild ,you name it she did it. and if youre husband is that way and your son does that its your husbands stupidity that drove your son to it.
2006-07-17 07:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a control freak. And yes, he is ruining your son's childhood. He practically has no freedom right now.
Watching Spiderman 3 and X-men 3 won't hurt your son in the long run. Allowing your husband to restrict your son's freedom will though. If you let your husband cage your son like a dog, in 5 years he'll move out and spend his college life partying 24/7.
Please save your son before he becomes a stereotypical frat boy who gets drunk real quick.
2014-05-10 19:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ncranky Kong Suh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you may not want to hear this but your husband is so right i mean he may go a little overboard at times but you should have known how he was and his religious beliefs at the time b/cuz this did'nt happen overnight it was a process. you should'nt pay no attention to what your family says your not married to your family you married your husband and what he say should go. just b/cuz you know of people that have strayed away from how they were raised that should have no bearings on your son. you can only raise your kids and teach them the right and wrong way. and hope and pray that they chose the right way . but kids will grow up and do what they want to do. I think your family is wrong b/cuz they should understand your husband religious beliefs i think they are morally wrong for judging him
2006-07-17 08:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by TEXXBRATT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This is a tough one. Was your husband this spiritual when you met him? Or did it develop over time?
It's very hard to reason with people when they believe they are doing God's will. You can try to talk to him, but I would be prepared to possibly a) live with it or b) get separated/divorced.
I know B) sounds harsh, but you have many more years of this to look forward to in the future. Do you really want to put yourself and your kids through that?
2006-07-17 07:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds abusive, and hes hiding under the "god" stuff. my step dad emotionally and mentally abused me from the time i was 4 till now, my parents are getting a divorce now. your right that he is too controling, its the biggest mistake any parent can make, to try and force kids not to do stuff. my mother has always told me the truth and what she thought i should do, but there has always been a fine line between her instructions and her suggestions. sure, ive made some bad choices, experimenting with drugs, getting in trouble with the police some, but mostly i was rebelling against my controling father, and now that hes out of the picture, i realize that altho my mom has let me make my own mistakes, shes always been there to pull me back in out of the rain. so either divorce this guy, or seek counsuling, the control is too much and will ruin your kids
2006-07-17 07:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd suggest that you get some couseling and help soon's possible.
as he 'gets mad', there may not be much you can do about his controling 'position' right now but you definitely need to step up to the plate and give your child some better, more sensible parenting yourself.
you need help and support to face the more powerful and aggressive 'spiritual' parent so i'd recommend any support or couseling you can find to learn how to deal with this 'spiritual' (dishonest) control freak and SAVE your child from his ruinous parenting before it's too late. start here:
http://www.takebackyourheart.com/
http://www.codependents.org/
http://www.psychologyinfo.com/treatment/couples_therapy.html
good luck with better parenting your kid(s)
2006-07-17 08:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hez making the worse of it.....well once the child is out of reach they will do anything in their curiousity , which is not their mistake.it is every child's right to know what is wrong and right or what is bad and good.There are many such cases of parents being overprotective and one day everything is out of reach.i think u really must make ur husbad understand by giving the examples such as of ur niece.
2006-07-17 08:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by coool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion will kill you. Your husband is going too far with it. Your hubby needs to take a chill pill and realize that he's acting just like a cult leader.
2006-07-17 07:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it your family and you understand ur husband no one can know better ur husband then u, so try to convence him or make him aware of the currenty, your husband may be spiritual but you are not.
2006-07-17 07:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by ravi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be "submissive"?
I replied to your other post, but this post sounds like your husband thinks he should make all the decisions and you need to shut up and like it.
These are YOUR children, he may love them like his own, but you are their mother! No man, NO MAN, will tell me what he is going to do with my children and expect me to shut up and take it.
Get a backbone and let him know they you have a say in EVERYTHING regarding YOUR children!!
If he doesn't like it, divorce him, before your children grow up and blame YOU for allowing this crap to carry on in your household!
2006-07-17 08:35:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋