My friend got a new boyfriend and started sleeping with him only 3 weeks into the relationship. She was a virgin and just said she wanted to get it over with. I think virginity is sacred and that she should've waited until she knew him better when she did it she told me she was unsure if she even liked him or not. I think her decision is stupid especially since she's practicing the "pull out method" she asked me how i felt about all of this and i want to tell her but others have been telling me to let her make her own mistakes and keep my brutally honest opinion to myself. I'm no prude by n e means i just think if you choose to have sex that you think it through a little bit, or at least know that you really know and like the guy instead of just saying "i wanna get it over with" what should i do?
2006-07-17 07:36:00 · 15 answers · asked by Veronique 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I wish all girls thought like you. You are absolutely right! Virginity is sacred....once you do "it" you can never go back....doesn't mean you turn into a slut either though.
If she asks again say...."Well, this is how I feel"...........and tell her. Also tell her that you aren't condemning her for her choice and are still friends.
Please also let her know that her "pulling out" method ends in pregnancy....all it takes is 1 good swimmer. Go to the health dept. and get on birth control, it is all confidential, they can't tell her parents or anyone. And also use a condom, don't need any STD's. Better safe then sorry.
My praises to you. Stay a virgin as long as you can, it is a special gift that shouldn't just be thrown away to any good looking guy.
2006-07-17 07:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by uma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a true friend I'd tell her what you've told us. The "pull-out method" is responsible for a whole lot of babies here in the US. If he is too immature to use protection, maybe she should think about going to the health department and seeing if she could get on the pill. They also have free condoms there for the asking. You must be concerned for her, or you wouldn't be asking us here. Don't let her fall away into trouble!!
2006-07-17 15:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well she asked you what your opinion was and she is yoiur friend so just tell her what your opinion is! Let her know u want to wait for the right guy- u want love with the sex and tell her how u feel! You dont have to put her down or make her feel awful about what she did- she probably already does- just give your opinion and let her know u are there for her whenever she needs to talk or just have a friend who cares about her close by!!!! Your being a good friend! Alwayas stay honest with your friends! Good luck
2006-07-17 15:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right. you need to tell her your feelings. yes she needs to make her own mistakes but not one this large where 18 years of her life are going to have to deal with it and you never know if she does get pregnant maybe she could have complications and get hurt. but the other thing is if she doesnt LOVE this guys then she shouldnt be giving herself to him. she may act like its not a big deal to her but i guarantee she does and she wants your a opinion so she can confirm if this is what she should really do or want to do.
but dont push the virginity is sacred thing on her try another method like what if you end up getting pregnant, do think the guy is going to stick around and help out or run? is she going to be left with all the responsibility?
2006-07-17 15:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't judge others according to your own set of rules. You've got to respect her decisions. It's not a great shock that she wanted to lose her virginity so quickly (maybe she felt social pressure)... and there's no point in you passing judgement on that as it's gone, can't be retrieved and will only make her feel awful about herself. I would talk to her about her not protecting herself though - especially as she's invited your opinion and maybe is actually asking for some help cos she has no idea. He will be telling her he prefers skin to skin - but she needs to think about herself. Sounds like she has low self-esteem and needs validation...she needs someone on her side. Choose your words wisely, don't call her stupid, and just be there for her.
2006-07-17 14:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say something to her if i were u cause the pull out method is not a good one cause guys have preejackulation so.. he is actuly cumming threw about the whole time hes having sex u need to explane to her just cuase he pulls out does not mean she cant get pregnant cause thats how alot of girls get pregnant is from the pre-***. u need to tell her about getting pregnant and getting and STD cause he dont know if he has anything or not
2006-07-17 14:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asked you how you felt about it, then she wants your opinion I say give it to her. Although it is to late in the game to change what she has already done, so it seems pointless to me. However she is your friend, so try not to be to brutal with her feelings.
2006-07-17 14:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can say all you want but I'm sure she knows what can happen with the pull out method. if she wants to do it let her do it, and eventually she will have to learn from her mistakes. ur not her mother
2006-07-17 14:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just warn her she can get pregnant using that method. It's too late to warn her about having sex, she can't get her virginity back.
2006-07-17 14:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how you feel about it if shes a good enough friend shell understand
2006-07-17 15:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by ash13baseball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋