Why are all competent,outstanding women accused of being Lesbians?

Question

I can understand that all ordinary guys and gals would be jealous of someone who is smart,and knows what they want and how to get it,but they won't admit it.Instead they try to accuse you of devilment,because you're better.And Ah am better,I know it and got proof.I'm too smart(and well bred) to be just a victim and a maid all of the time(though I do clean and cook for myself,cheescake,strip steak,,-but that ain't all I can do).I don't take everything sittin' down.I don't just read baby books-maybe some dumb dude does,and his goofy girlfriend,but not MOI(french for me).No,I'm on to better brighter thangs,and hopefully that'll always be the case.All really dumb ordinary boys are jealous of fine gals,and accuse them of being Lesbians;just cause I ain't his floor scrubbin' Ho,don't mean I'm a Lesbian.Maybe thugs(they all look like boyish thugs) who accuse should be told they aren't good enough for gals that are socially above them in everyway.

Answer 1

I think you may have answered your own question. You also have to look at your audience. Mature, hardworking, competent men will recognize a woman that is on the same level.

Not to say that being a lesbian is an insult, but I do understand the nature of the question.

Answer 2

I think it must be the social circle that you travel within. I have a masters in Psychology, Certified P.A. in Ortho/Trauma specialized in re implantation of severed hands/fingers, level 5-6 in Tennis, Excellent Cook, Compulsive Cleaner, Alternative Dispute Resolution Mediator for Family Court, Published Author, Beautiful Woman. I am 5'7'' tall I weigh 118lbs my measurements are 36-24-35, mother of three married to the most wonderful man in the world. Spend more time on the people that give you a lift up and motivate you to be better, give no time to people that degrade, embarrass or simply don't enhance your life or your ability. I have never been accused of being a Lesbian just the opposite, men are overly attracted to me and it can get annoying. The things you really seemed bothered by was cleaning,cooking and having a baby with some "thug" and that "dumb ordinary boys" had a predisposition to be jealous of "fine gals" which causes them to make disparaging remarks such as calling them "Lesbians" which in turn you insult them by calling them a "HO" or belittle their intelligence, or lack thereof, what is competent about either behavior and how do you factor intelligence into this little scenario? I don't see how your behavior is any better than the "ordinary boys".

Answer 3

Wow, that was a lot to take in, but let me see if I can somehow answer the question in there...well, I think your on the right track with your thinking as far as anyone whom makes general assumptions about anyone is closed-minded, immature and not worth your time at all. I dont think I have ever been accused of being a lesbian because of my intelligence, but I know it happens all the time. I have been hit on by women and although I am not a lesbian, I found it flattering all the same. I guess the important thing is that you do seem to know who you are and what your worth and not affraid to stand up for yourself. Yes, that is intelligent and shows a sense of self pride and respect. So just keep doing what your doing and let the thugs and what-not move on to someone else. Oh and for all the thugs maybe reading this, I also carry a big stick, can bench press twice my weight and own two killer dogs. LOL

Answer 4

Ever since women have been able to break into traditional male roles and trying to get things on an even balance for pay and promotion men have felt threatened and their childish way of responding to this is through trying to beat them down by labeling them as a lesbian. These individuals are so insecure and I would wonder how they would treat their own mothers if they were more competent and capable than their fathers. These men are nothing more than knuckle dragging Neanderthals.

Answer 5

Does competent and outstanding mean aggressively successful?

To the most part, we are born of two people. A Man... And, a Woman. Within each of us is the sum of both of them. Sexuality and Behaviorism can be the result of where you mentally land between both extremes. Aggressiveness does tend to be a male trait. And to be aggressively successful is to adopt some of the male behaviorism's. But, that doesn't make, nor should it imply, that you are a lesbian. However, it may be what you portray in you mannerisms. But, there are many men that aren't gay, but still have behaviorism's that may imply that they are. Thus, there is someone for everyone.

Worry not what others think of you. Just seek to find peace and happiness within yourself.

Answer 6

I like the message your trying to convey but the mode of transit needs some revising. A little less slang would have made this a much better poised question.

Now, with that being said... It works the other way around too. If a guy takes care of himself physically, aspires for greater things than punching a clock and likes to dress other than t-shirts and jeans, he is likely to be called a homosexual.

Don't expect everyone to like you, you'll be continuously let down.

Answer 7

I have two really good friends who are lawyers and very competent, and smart, I guess History has had men make the money and women stay at home and have babies, which is the way my life is, but some women love to work and wear pants to work and dress manly, so it seems they are lesbian, even though they arent, reguarding my lawyer friends, one is our county attourny and married and dresses so femanine and HOT, but still has the air of great confidence and is very intellegent, the other is married also but has very short hair, likes to wear pants to work, she works with the foster kids and gets on the ground with them a lot but she looks more masculine,

Answer 8

well, are you? whats the hang up? I mean, there are certainly worse things to be called - and I don't think it has anything to do with your being well bred or your ability to make cheesecake. Perhaps you announce your self proclaimed superiority too much and it comes off as being conceited and pushy - not friendly... and unfortunately lots of people associate this behavior with males and if you are not a male but you act like one.... Just try being a little more accepting and less condescending and I think the name calling will stop.

Answer 9

I disagree that intelligent women are "accused" of being lesbian.

From your posting I believe that you are a smart, sensitive woman who just needs to dump a man who is not treating you well.

I would caution you to tone down "aren't good enough for gals that are socially above them..." Your partner is out there for you so don't alienate him before you have even met him. Confidence is attractive but narcism is not.

Answer 10

Well, for you it has nothing to do with anyone being jealous of you I am sure. You're question and paragraph was uneducated, arrogant and childish.
I know many successful women that aren't accused of being lesbians and I know lesbians who are extremely successful women. One thing has nothing to do with the other.
However, shallowminded, self-absorbed egotist such as yourself are just a pathetic excuse for a woman.