If you've messed up your life completely, cut yourself off from the people you knew, basically made mistakes which have brought you in a situation you now hate... do you think society and people will eventually oversee them or do we always get judged by our past?
2006-07-17 07:23:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear Katerina,
When our lives explode, they come up in new patterns. Never bother for what has already happened.. You can't go back and change yesterday, nor can shape tomorrow. Only today is yours.. so live it... don't hate it..take life as it comes.. Accept it.
Society and people ?? Why do you bother for external judgement ? Its your emotions / and valid feelings. You have to deal with these feelings internally and be strong enough to face the future..
Once you accept yourself.. society and people will come behind you.. so don't get scared of them.. they are external forces.. make yourself internally strong.
All the best.. Live life fully.. its worth it !!
2006-07-17 07:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
We have all made mistakes. Some of them just haven't been caught as of yet and those are the people who judge and talk about people. Continue to make positive changes in your life and make the effort of showing people that you have changed for the better. We all deserve second chances and more than many of us have received so many more.Life is what we make of it, either we can sit around and continue to keep getting into messes or we can grow up and learn from our mistakes and teach those who are younger not to make the mistakes that we have made. Also make for sure these changes are what you really want and not something that you are forcing yourself to do. Changes do come and we have to be willing to except them. Some of the time, changes will bring up our past but keep going up instead of down. I pray that this helps. God bless.
2006-07-17 07:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Wifey K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will always in some ways be judged by society and others, whether they know u or not. some things don't change...however, the important thing is how do YOU judge yourself? and do you let those things prevent you from growing and learning as you continue to learn about life? everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect. what i learned recently (i dont' know if u are religious or not) at church was that we ALL make mistakes as human beings. there's not getting away from that. however, if u continue to feel GUILTY, and put BLAME on yourself, you can never get away from that punishment!! But if you can let those past things go, and admit that you are not perfect and will always make some kind of mistake, but let that free your mind. no reason to keep torturing yourself for the past and future mistakes. just remember to LEARN from them, and TRY your damn hardest to be the best person you can be!! try and stay positive thru all the turmoil, and you will eventually learn to open your mind, glean the good things out of the bad, and hopefully that will allow you to meet people that have the same outlook on life. that way, regardless of past people who knew you judging you, you are continuously renewing yourself, learning to grow, and opening yourself to bigger and better things!! let go of the past and seek the GOOD in life~~ and remember, try not to be judgemental of others, because they are already doing that to you. u don't need negativity, just spread the positive!! :) don't feel guilty! just do ur best to change it, and people will see and admit you have changed!
2006-07-17 07:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon if YOU keep dragging up your past, or if YOU look forward to a bright future. You've got to take owenrship for what you did, not blame others for a sitch you're in, then rsolve to stay out of that world.
I mean, are you talking jail time? If an employer asks, be up-front and honest, then never mention it again. If you're talking drug abuse or sex convictions, find a way to work and educate people about those situations, and show how you've changed, are positive, and looking to start hte rest of your good life today!
Don't blame people for being wary of you, and of course this depends upon what you did. But don't give them any reason to avoid getting to know you, and then trustin g you over time.
2006-07-17 07:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar Pie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that always judges you by your past is either perfect in their own eyes or more shallow than either of us can imagine. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has skeletons in their closet. Will you have to prove yourself again? Yes, and for some people (depending upon their previous encounters with you) will take a long time. Others will be quick to forgive if they see you have really changed.
Go for it! Life is too short for regrets.
2006-07-17 07:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make amends with yourself first then with the people you cut yourself from. you will not be judged by your past unless you do something that reminds the society or people of what you once did. if you change completely and are really committed to not making the same mistakes, then they will take you back but it wil take sometime for people to trust you back
2006-07-17 07:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
admit it, there are lots of people out there who judged us based on our past but if you show them & prove to them that u wanna start a new life they'll eventually forget about it... wer just human, we commit mistakes... & that's why regrets always comes in the end...The past cannot be changed, the future is still in your power...
2006-07-17 07:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by samz_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family loves you. God loves you. God forgives all of us when we make mistakes. I was in your situation of despair, and I cut myself off from my family and friends. I had to renew my relationship with God before I realized that none of the petty things I was worried about were worth anything. Pray for forgiveness and a new start. Be sincere. All good things come from God and He will take care of you. Trust Him!
2006-07-17 07:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way people can judge you is if you let them. You have to change your life for yourself.
2006-07-17 07:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
phew tough one. i made sum mistakes in my life and when moved back home really felt i was being judged but i suppose that is more about me and the small minded people round here. oh goodluck
2006-07-17 07:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by surfergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋