We weren't together when my daughter was born as I found out I was pregnant after he and I had broken up once before, she is now two. We just got together again a year ago and I thought it was going to work for sure, now he says he's unhappy and doesn't see us being together forever. I feel so lost, but I keep thinking maybe he just needs to be away for a bit and maybe he'll want to come home?
2006-07-17 07:17:11 · 13 answers · asked by hawnasay 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Apparently some people are not interested in helping others at all, so I'll direct this next part at them: Being married does not have anything to do with this, in fact I am extremely glad he and I never got married as he had wanted to at one point because that would only mean that now we would be facing divorce instead of just breaking up. Next; why does the idea that my boyfriends and I aren't together mean that I will end up on welfare? I was a single mother for a year with my daughter and I never even came close to resorting to welfare, but it's good to know you are truly concerned about my situation instead of your own personal finances. Thanks for nothing.
2006-07-17 07:37:49 · update #1
Also, when I got pregnant this time our relationship was going great, I didn't try to get pregnant to save a bad relationship. I didn't even think anything was wrong with our relationship until very recently
2006-07-17 07:41:00 · update #2
One more thing, he didn't take off the first time, I broke up with him because of other things at the time, then I found out I was pregnant a month later. He and I have had a very weird relationship for 6 years now, we have almost gotten together several times, but didn't, and everyone has always thought we should be together, we both decided we would try it again a year ago as we felt we were ready to make it work, but apparently he was not.
2006-07-17 07:44:41 · update #3
I think he's just scared. Some men get really scared away by a commitment like that and don't know what to do. He'll probably realize soon that he made a mistake. And as soon as he does, welcome him back but give him the riot act for it and say you won't take him back next time because it's just messed up to walk away from the mother of your children like that. And if he doesn't come back, then you're better off without him anyway. Take him to court, get the child support you're entitled to, and move on with your life. You don't need him. There's plenty of men out there that would love to be the father of your children, and it would be better for them anyway to have someone around that they know won't turn his back on them.
Good luck!!!! I'm sure everything will work out for the best in the long run.
2006-07-17 07:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by chica_zarca 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a HUGE thing, no matter how many you already have. he could be just scared, but also, if he's not happy in the relationship that doesn't mean he won't be there for his children. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, it's not the end of the world. Don't stop him from being the best dad he can be and don't wait around forever for him to come back to you and dedicate your life to him. Be a good mom, and give him every opportunity to be a good dad, whether he decides you're the one, or not. That is the best thing you can do for your children.
2006-07-17 07:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Alyssa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not scared - he's just selfish. I don't believe you planned either pregnancy, which means that he probably hadn't planned on fatherhood in this relationship (well, not when it happened). And you didn't say how long you'd been together before your first pregnancy - it you got pregnant quickly, it would be a real shock to anyone's life plan. But, I'm sorry you didn't get pregnant with someone who was willing to compromise his life to suit the new circumstances....and at the same time, isn't he lucky he can walk away?
2006-07-17 07:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep yourself and your children on this roller coaster ride forever. I would put my attention on raising my children the best that I can. If your boyfriend comes back, he comes back. If he doesn't you will do what was right and take care of the two children that you love. Yes he could be scared. But, he could also be using the babies as excuses as well. I would opt for possibility of another woman being involved.
2006-07-17 07:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by sheristeele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum you adult men in all possibility do no longer agree, yet your newborn is a touch one, you won't be able to tell off a touch one, you initiate that with an 8 month previous , then 6 months , 4 months ............. wth? toddlers won't be able to talk, so she is bodily telling you she does not want some thing. i did no longer initiate telling my infants no till whilst they have been a million year previous, and that they are superb, they do no longer seem to be overly naughty, there only common young ones. i individually do no longer think of u could desire to tell her off, if she tries to hit at her bottle, take the bottle remote from her, if she rolls around and fights it whilst u replace her, only persist, im useful you will get her replaced finally. If she cries or whines for no reason ignore approximately it, in case you do no longer react she would be able to maximum probably end.
2016-11-02 05:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you i was 6 months with my son and the father took of because it was to much pressure and i forgave him and he came back long enough so i can get pregnant again and is gone again and i wont let him do this to the kids any more you need to be strong for your baby scew him life is hard!!! and you need to deal with it and grow up if only men had the babys it would be a real slap for them you dont need him all you need is you. and all your baby needs is you children need and thrive on consistancie and if daddys gone one day and here the next what kind of mesage are you sending THAT MOMS ARE DOOR MATS!!!! and we arent we are strong woman if you ever need to tak feel free to IM me k
2006-07-17 07:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to face responsibilty and grow up but doesnt want to. Do yourself a favor and let him go. If he'll leave you while your pregnant then you don't need him. Your life and children will benefit more without him. THEY need only a stable person in their life and it seems like that person is you.
2006-07-17 07:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no dont even go there the guy is going to be a dead beat dad and you will be on welfare get use to it. He is a looser and you are kidding yourself about his ever coming back. Go to court get child support ASAP other wise you will be another drain on tax payers because he is a looser!!!
2006-07-17 07:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tuto@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is scared or just an ***. If he doesn't see you being together forever than what is the point. You can do better for yourself and the babies.
2006-07-17 07:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by mdowney120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should let him go..you need to be strong and live your life without him you have, or willl have 2 beautiful children to ocupy all your time with...If he truley loves you he will come back and stick it out for the long run, you may find another who will love you they way you should be loved and not be in the negetive situation you are in now! best wishes to you!
2006-07-17 07:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by joek342003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋