Has anyone had this problem.....?

Question

What do you do when your partner claims to be attracted to you but can no longer make love to you? They are healthy, not using drugs, not cheating, and not overworked...

Answer 1

Honey it seems to me that your partner either has one of two problems. 1) he is having a erectile dysfunction problem of some sort that is making him have problems making love to you. or (my pick) he is with someone else.....I hate to say it darlin' but that is what it sounds like to me. If he is healthy, not using drugs, and not overworked he sounds like he really is getting it elsewhere. If he loves you he will give you the reason as to why he cannot be with you. maybe you can follow him to his outings or to his work or ? If that will make you feel better.....I am a "see it to believe it kinda girl" but it just sounds a little out of sorts if he cannot give you a reason as to why he cannot make love to you then you will know your answer. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

I don't believe there is a standard answer for this question, after all I don't think you just want to know if you are alone.

I guess several things can keep a pertner from having sex with the partner, from religion to stress, from a disease to a new love.

We wrongly call it make love, but there is only a part of sex that can be related to feeligs for the partner. Most of the time there is desire, sometimes love creates the desire.

What I believe you can do is try to observe the relationship, as it will give you a real picture of what is going on.

If there is affection, respect and attention, then the lack of sex can be driven by a homosexuality or some erectil disfunction that may embarass the partner and keep him from try, women would be affected by hormone disfunction or just the regular aging process. In those cases, the only one that can't be solved is the homosexuality. Lots of people get married to please the society and to keep their sexual preferences from public, as wrong as it can be, it also is an attempt to fight what some also believe is wrong and dirt.

A new love can separate the parts, but usually don't create a "can have sex to you no more" approach, sometimes even create an extra libido. Anyway it could also isolate the partners and it would be necessary a good conversation to expose the real true. If this is the case, a divorce is the solution, or finding a new partner, even isf is just a lover.

Religion can make some people start to feel dirty as having sex, so it could make some people refrain from doing it.

Anyway there is only one person that knows the true, but despite that, sometimes there are plenty of clues to indicate why something like that is happening. A good look into the relation can give anyone the idea of why such a thing is going on.

Getting a divorce, a lover or a counseling are the option, as I'm not a judge I would recomend any of those for a person that feels neglected. I don't see why anyone should be exposed to such a martiridoom just to keep the status of marriage.

Answer 3

First I would ask them why, like the old song says, "It's in his kiss", If you are a woman particularly I'd think of the gay thing, or at least maybe have him/her followed or investigated. It's interesting you never mention your own sex here nor does your id imply either male or female...The cheating part I would not believe unless you were 100% sure.To prove it go together to a counselor and if that person won't, it should tell you perhaps they do not want the truth to come out.
For David T above, all the signs of an affair bud.When a woman will no longer talk with you and changes like this, either you did something that really hurt her, or she's having an affair or both.You may come home one day to an empty house.I would bet almost on this occurring soon. That woman falls out of love with you and the other person has her, she's there until the other person gets her to leave you or they end it. If she sexes you now, she feels she is cheating her lover..It may be that child is why she is still there, seen this many times..

Answer 4

he only says that to keep u around. i take it that he isn't interested anymore and that if u want to keep him look in the mirror. are there any things u want to improve on? lose some weight-not to say ur fat or anything-, maybe try a different hairstyle, wear more sexy clothes, males tend to be attracted to ascetics so play up looking like a sex kitten! have fun doing new positions, try some new things, explore and make him wonder what happened to the old u. and after all this, and he still isn't biting, let that fish go honey!!

Answer 5

that's very confusing. i have seen the problem with people who were doing drugs but not with healthy ones. maybe he has some sort of problem that he doesn't want to discuss with you or he is getting it somewhere else.. or there is a reason from which you stated but you just did not find it out yet

Answer 6

I have this problem since last year and still remain. I do 90% house chores while she only cooks and teach my daughter. Each time I suggest making love, she say tired or stress out. Last word that hurt me was "don't always think of making love" and I have stop asking or hinting.
Now situation is worst, we hardly speak to each other.

I wonder why

Answer 7

I've never had that problem, but it might be he is getting his loving somewhere else.

Answer 8

I have the same problem!!!... sure wish I knew the answer!

Answer 9

I have it right now??? It's confusing!

Answer 10

get a dildo , do it in front of him and see if he bits