me and my bf have been dating for about a year, weve never fought and its looking grt. i can trust him with anything and i kno he wouldnt do anything to hurt me. hes never pressured me into doing something either. latly weve been talking bout having sex and im considering it big time. we would b using a condom. im 14 and hes 15. should i have sex with him or wait.
2006-07-17 07:05:03 · 9 answers · asked by sarahk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, both of you are so young to have sex and talk about sex, there are so many things that both of you can do besides sex...like your studies...take your studies seriously, prioritizes your studies first, it's a treasure nobody can get away from you...
2006-07-17 07:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by gracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you've never fought may sound good, but it doesn't necessarily mean that things are going great. It only means that both of you are either just agreeing with each other, or are holding back on opinions. Without fights in a relationship, there would be no growth, because the value in seeing past the differences shown in a fight means so much more than merely agreeing. Going out with a guy for a year is great, but at that age, should never lead to sex. Wait. It's hard to listen to all of the people who claim that you're too young for such things when it feels as if you are ready. But honestly, listen to them. Think of the consequences of having sex at your age. Sure, you'll be wearing condoms, but that doesn't guarantee that you won't get pregnant. But after sex? What then? You've already reached the end, sure you can get better, but there's no going back. If you guys broke up (you may not think you will, but the possibility is always there), how would you feel losing your virginity to him? Most people would regret it. There are more aspects to a relationship than physical ones. My boyfriend and I have decided that the most important aspect to any relationship is getting to know each other better. At 14 and 15 years old, you haven't seen a lot. Have you seen this guy at his lowest point? Have you seen him at his best? Do you know his fears, his goals, his treasured memories? You may think you know him, but there are so many things that make up a person, it's nearly impossible to really KNOW the person you are dating. If you are really serious about this guy, you wouldn't even have posted this question. You have your doubts and are hesitating. It should FEEL like the right time, and the fact that you are having doubts mean that it doesn't. Another thing to consider is why. Why have sex? Does it show that your relationship is strong? Does it prove your love? You are (hopefully) still in high school, hormones are raging, and the average teen thinks they are in love. Sex at that age, is not proving your love, or keeping your relationship strong. It's curiosity. If you really want to prove your love, or keep a strong relationship, wait. Keep a pants-on pact. If you guys can keep to that pact long enough to actually KNOW each other and understand that sex can get in the way of goals, then you really have a strong relationship. If you're serious about this guy, you can wait until after college, or to the very least, after high school. It's hard, but worth it if you guys really love each other.
But I'll stop the Dr. Phil-ish lecture. Ask yourself those questions and really think. The people who are telling you that you're too young have probably fought the same battle before. Listen to them.
2006-07-17 14:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by kusainezumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, if you are asking a bunch of strangers for their opinion about you having sex for the first time, you should wait. Sex is not about what other people think about you - it is something that you should only consider once you are ready (really ready) for it.
You are still quite young, and condoms are not 100 percent effective. Although you are being wise to know that you need to use them when you have sex, it still does not guarantee that you will not get pregnant or a disease.
You should consider the possibility of having a child and supporting it while you are finishing school.
Ultimately, it is your choice whether or not to go forward with this. Please be sure that you are going only by your internal feelings toward sex, parenthood, the possibility of disease, and the emotional changes that will occur once you have sex. Don't just go by whether or not a bunch of strangers say yes or no about something that is such a personal choice for you.
2006-07-17 14:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one. A lot of peoplewould say hell no your too young, but it all really depends on you and your partner. there are a lot of what ifs involved. and a lot of consequences. are you prepared for the possibility of pregnancy? are you ready to handle the possibility of your parents finding out? A lot of you g women think that the first time will be perfect but this is not always the case. there is a lot of emotion and confusion involved in lovemaking, and sometimes people really are just too young to handle the emotional storm that can come afterwords. this is not really a question you will be able to get a strraight answer on, just advice. If you feel this serious about it, and feel mature enough for the possible responsibilities that come with making love, then by all means. You should consider talking to your mother about it, shes not that old, and im pretty sure she remembers what its like. i can say this though, if you cant handle talking to your mom about this and it happening between you and him then you should probably wait. youve been together for a year already and all but will he be there next year? like i said before there are so many what ifs. you two need to make sure you know this is what you want and congratulations on thinking about protection, not a lot of girls do. if yall do, then i hope it is a wonderful occasion, and everything you expect and hope it to be.
2006-07-17 14:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa 14 & 15? put the sex thing on hold. what if the condom breaks? then possibly your high school lives could be ruined b/c pregnancy or STDs or anything like that. dont risk it.
btw i've been with my girl for a year & couple of months now & we're both 17 & havent done anything, but we still got a lovin relationship. we dont need the sex to express our love
2006-07-17 14:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by metronome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!!! first of all you is only 14 what happened if the condom just break and you in up gettin pregnant you dont know what 2 do you is only 14 of age and he is only 15 what is going to happened then you is going have to go to skool you need a job you and him trust me you do not want to go down that road
2006-07-17 14:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are married - it's not worth all of the hassels at your age.
2006-07-17 14:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn it kids these days! you're really young imo to have sex but im not telling you not to do it. if he really cares for you he will understand completely.
wait. thats all i say.
2006-07-17 14:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by azndiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex that young....it doesn't matter how great the relationship is....once you do it he will leave....guys actualy respect girls who wait....
2006-07-17 14:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by vne4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋