What is it about men that they have to "flip the script" ?

Question

Can anyone shed some REAL light on why men like to shift blame from what they've said or done wrong and either do one or more of the following:
a. focus on something YOU'VE done (the ol' eye for an eye syndrome);
b. focus on some part of what you're saying to about them as if what you're saying (or the way you're saying it) is actually the issue at hand instead;
c. get angry and refuse to discuss the topic at all.

I mean, is it a genetic thing, or what?

Thanks y'all. I can't wait to see the responses I get to this one. I need a good one 'cause murder is still illegal, isn't it?

Answer 1

I think it all comes back to their need to "protect and provide". If they admit they are wrong, then that means they made a mistake. If they made a mistake, can they be trusted to provide? (these thoughts are goin' on somewhere in their sub-conscious). Also, men need/want respect, especially from their woman (wife, GF, etc). All of that comes back to that provider/protector thing. Read the book "Love and Respect" by Dr Emerson Eggerichs. It is a Christian book, but regardless of your faith or lack thereof, this book is so correct about the needs and wants of men and women. You could get more answers to your question there.

Answer 2

Your question shouldn't be framed as a gender issue it's a maturity issue. "Flipping the script" is a diversionary tatic devised to change the focus of the discussion from the main topic to a secondary "non issue". People that do not take responsiblity for their actions usually know it and don't like to be reminded of by others of this fact, so flipping the script takes the place of true communication between the sexes, creating additional barriers to intimacy and an atmosphere where a relationship can be nurtured and fulfilling for both parties. Perhaps you need to look at the men you attrack or are attracked to. Men have no problem owning up to responsibilty because thats what it is to be a man. Boys....well they're still learning.

Answer 3

Men aren't the only ones that do this. I think a lot of people do. Its a defense mechanism and serves to avoid the actual issue. Being confronted with problems and your own faults is difficult. How the person responds to you (whether they dodge the conversation) all depends on how you ask the question. Think about your attitude and see if theirs is merely a response. If you are angry when you talk to them they are less likely to be honest and open. If you show that you are calm and willing to understand, then they will be more willing to discuss things with you without the bs. Some people always blame someone else for their problems because its easier to say its someone else's fault than to take responsibility and fix it themselves.

Answer 4

First of all not all men are like this. Some men, the more sensitive ones tend to listen and deal with the problem (s) rationally without blame at all.

But for those who do, I believe its because they are raised not to deal with issues at hand. Also i believe its because of thier pride. Anytime they are said to do something wrong, they need to take someone down with them so they don't feel half as bad.

Answer 5

Men don't exhibit this kind of behavior. Only tall boys pretending to be one. The essence of being an adult is accepting the responsibility for your own moral choices and the consequences that flow from them. Someone who refuses to accept responsibility, fault or blame is not acting like an adult. He's acting like a child. Avoidance, manipulation, denial, deciet... these are all symptoms of immature behavior. It stems from a lack of self-esteem. He's afraid to face the music or admit his weakness, especially to a woman.
So, he lies, he denies, he diverts, he changes the subject... anything to avoid facing the fact that he is still a child, and inadequate as a man.
Try dating men, not tall boys.

Answer 6

Actually, it is a trait more commonly seen in men who like to avoid resposibility. All men do not have this trait. I see it in my son and his friends (they are all very ghetto). They refuse to be resposible for their actions and will indeed "flip the script" when they are feeling cornered. Try dating real men not some gangstas or gangsta wannabes who will never amount to anything but someones ***** in prison.

Answer 7

OMG I thought my husband was the only one. I don't know why they do it, but they definitely do. It drives me insane. Now that I realize he is going to do that I tell him beforehand that I will not discuss it with him if he's going to blame me in any way for his actions. Have you noticed that not only do they flip the script but they also start blaming even if there is no blame?

Answer 8

All men were created equal! This means we are all perfect and can do no wrong. Therefor, women have the problems not us, if you don't like something we did, that's your problem not being able to accept the fact it was not wrong.

Answer 9

a million flipflop by using Obama vs. turn flops by using Romney gay marriage gun administration Libya healthcare Arizona immigration regulation birth control college vouchers dont have time to record all of them.

Answer 10

i have no idea!

men can NEVER admit to being in the wrong - if they appear to be [to the extent its apparent to them too] then its obviously because of something we've done... its NEVER their fault.

drives me nuts...

sorry that doesnt answer your question. but i think it must be a man thing...