I am haveing problems saying no to my friends and family on things. I don't want to hurt their feelings and stuff. If anyone out there can help me let me know. Thank you.
2006-07-17 06:54:21 · 10 answers · asked by moonangel1121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
baby girl, some times it's better that you just say "sorry, no". if they respect your feeling, they'll accept it.
2006-07-17 06:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In real life if you have to say no and even if it hurts their feelings and they need to respect taht and even they tell you no and you can do the same thing. If they said that i never say no to you.. tell them you need to tell me no too and it better that way.
you have your life too you know and you have right to say no because you are honest and yes they will be upset or crying or whatever they will learn and understand...
If you don't then I don't know why I giving your the answer for my help?
I always tell people no and guess what they they know. if you don't then one day you said no then they will say all those years you never say no why now???? so better do it now than Sorry.
2006-07-17 07:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
re:I am haveing problems saying no to my friends and family on things.
.........this is known as Codependency!
So, before you give somone a 'no', test your answer on your self to see if it feels: hurtful, mean, unreasonable, bad, foolish, selfish, etc. if you do not feel overly hurt by what you plan to say, then say it and let the other person deal with their reactions to your 'no' or whatever you plan to say. after a while, you'll get the 'hang' of saying what you want is true for you INSTEAD of saying what you think they WANT TO HEAR.
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2006-07-17 07:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way. I finally started telling them that I am so sorry but I can't I have other things I need to do. If that didn't work I simply stated that I need time for myself and I am overwhelmed right now. I wish you the best.
2006-07-17 06:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say: "No." If you give excuses, you make it look like you are trying to get out of it.
You may say: "No, may be some other time."
People will love you even if you don't say yes all the time. They'll appreciate your honesty.
2006-07-17 07:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you really cant cause they going to think you was bein mean to dem unless you pull dem to the side and tell dem with like a smile on your face to let dem to let dem know in a nice way
2006-07-17 07:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think one way is to say that I would whether not do that today. there are many ways of saying no and being nice about it.
2006-07-17 07:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be very nice and tell they that you can;t do it you would love to help them out but sorry i have some problem of my own
2006-07-17 07:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem... I'm working on it now. I'll tell you this, the first time I told someone No, and they said ok, thanks anyway.... it felt so good!!
2006-07-17 07:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by prmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can´t!
2006-07-17 06:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by uros s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋