My husband is very spiritual and does not allow our kids to watch anything with profanity in it, or that has any kind fo sexual reference to it. He doesn't even allow them to watch some disney shows that show a guy and a girl kissing at the prom or whatever. My brother wanted to take my sone to see spiderman 3 and x-men and my husband objects to those kind of movies. My family thinks that it is going to affect the kids in the long run because he is being to much of a control freak, and he is overly bearing. What do you think?
2006-07-17 06:48:51 · 22 answers · asked by candy0813 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He does seem a bit overbearing, but I think his intentions are good. Maybe you two can work something out. Movies like spider-man and x-men have violence in it, but it's not all that bad. Those movies don't show heads being cut off or anything like that. There are other movies out there that are bad for young people and I think your husband is right to monitor what the kids watch. He just needs to ease up a bit. See if he'll watch the less graphic movies like spiderman and x-men WITH your kid. That way he knows exactly what's going on in the movies and he can put things into perspective and its proper context for the him. Many believe that violent video games and violent movies are the reason why kids grow up to be violent. It's somewhat true. If parents use them to raise their kids as they say, then yes it is very possible for them to ruin their lives. I grew up on some violent games like DOOM and some pretty violent movies, but my parents taught me beforehand what was right and what was wrong. What was reality and what was fantasy. Be glad your husband cares so much about what your son watches. Not enough parents are. Just try to have him ease up a bit like I said.
2006-07-17 06:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, this kid is gonna grow up and run wild...WOO HOO! he will want to see all the wonderful things he has been missing. For instance...when i was little i had a friend. Her mom didn't allow her to have soda, sweets, or even chips. Guess what, she's bigger than a house now. If he can't watch kids his own age have a harmless smooch.....well then what do you think will happen when he is given the opportunity?
Spiritually shouldn't include trying to keep a child in the dark, especially not in todays society. He needs to understand that there are dangers out there, and those Disney shows, usually have a good moral lesson in there somewhere.
Dad needs to lighten up before this kids goes as crazy as all get out! Talk to him and tell him it is putting a strain on the relationship, not only between you and him, but your family as well.
2006-07-17 06:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by whoanelly00 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that everything is going to backfire on him
If he opresses your kids so much they are going to want to rebel. The more he sheilds them from the more they're going to want to see. At that age there is absolutely no reason not to be able to watch some kissing scenes. It's good that he wants to protect them but he needs to realize that you can't shield kids from that stuff. If they don't see it in the movies they're going to see it at school or at a friends house or something...and they're not going to know how to react.
Did you ever see carrie? She got her period and thought she was dying! Because her mom never told her that stuff.
You wouldn't want your kids to go crazy and set the gym on fire would you?
just kidding of course
but seriously, tell him that you think it is time to relax the rules a little. No sex on programs is still a good rule for 13 year olds but kissing? Come on. Don't budge on this one. Tell him that is just the way it is going to be from now on, your son will be allowed to see movies rated PG 13 and below....when he gets a few years older you can push the rules again. There is a reason they made those rating systems, and based them on age. They are based on what many would consider appropriate for a certain age group.
2006-07-17 06:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, what do YOU think?...if you do not think you husband is ruining their lives then your family should respect that and back off - basically mind their own business.......your kids may well grow up better people for the interest their father takes in what they see and hear before they are old enough to make good judgements. If you trust your husbands judgement thats in the important thing.
2006-07-17 06:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people will probably disagree with your husband, but who are we to say. You guys are the parents, not us. If he is strict than when your son is 18 he can make his own decisions and maybe he will have learned alot of good and bad from your husband. There are parents who let their 13 year olds drink, smoke, buy them condoms, let them stay out all night. Is that better? Maybe your husband is over the top, and maybe you can talk to him to allow your son to broaden his horizons at his age. It doesnt take a village to raise children, it takes parents, thats it.
2006-07-17 06:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Veleno45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband should be allowed to run his home as he see fit, have you seen the cartoons lately they are not for families with family values. it a disgrace i walkrd in and my 5 year old was watching spong bob and i yelled turn that mess off now i told my daughter and son-inlaw and they sat down and watched them and they agree. they find the time to set on sat and see what he is watching . take the time and see what your kids are watching and being the parents yall controll what your kids watch not your parents your brother are his parents
2006-07-17 07:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's wrong with having some values. I agree that your kid might grow up to be naive to the real world. However, that's why they have parents...You and your husband need to come to an agreement on how to bring up the children. And please do not get your family involved cuz that will only mess things up. You decided to have a life w/ this man thus you and your man make the decison for your family and not family....
2006-07-17 06:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Natasha B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it's extreme. But, my hubby was raised strict holiness and he was never allowed to watch that stuff either.... if I were you I would suggest to my hubby that his limits are likely to cause extreme rebellion. When my husband moved away from his parents he did alot of drugs and all sorts of things that you wouldn't want either. At least if he allowed things now then he could talk to him about what things are right and wrong. Best wishes
2006-07-17 06:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are there for your children when they realize how deprived they are of normal childhood fascinations they should be fine. However.. because they are o restricted- they're going to feel obligated to do it anyways- and behind yor backs.. and they will. This could be dangerous in a few years.. you want your kids to be able to ask you about or for something without knowing they'll be shot down- they'll never come to you..
Good Luck
2006-07-17 06:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids are gonna be mighty screwed up when they finally get to the real world. They'll wind up being the like a boy raised in a bubble, without any immunities against the things they'll encounter in the world.
2006-07-17 06:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by effin drunk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋