why are parents so protective all the time?

Question

if you want to go some where they always have to check where you are going like they have no trust and it can get so annoying do your parents trust you to go out with a strange and not ask where you are going?

Answer 1

It is called love.

I know it can by annoying....but if they do not want to know Who, What, Where and When.....then they truly do not care about YOU. When I was young I recall being Soooooooooo mad at my parents---now as a Mom, I totally understand. When you are young you think that you 'know it all' and that you are invincible! Only years later do you figure out how silly you ever were to thing those things!

Be GRATEFUL to have parents that care, so many young people don't!

Answer 2

Yeah, my mom is the same way when it comes to hanging out with friends. She's even protective of my 20 year old sister who's just come back from a 6 month study abroad program in Paris. Though at times, we both may find her as way too over-protective, I can still see where my mom's comming from. What we have to realize is that we'll always be our parents' children and they'll always love and worry about us--even if we don't want them to. It's a fact of life that I have learned to deal with. But I also found that the more trustworthy I become, the more freedom I get. Try calling your parents every so often when you're out (even if you're not planning on staying with friends for long) and you'll see that they'll appreciate your call and soon begin to trust you. With trust comes freedom so give it a try. ;]

Answer 3

Wow..... I don't know how old you are or where your from but maybe I can help....
First of all unless YOU have given your parents a reason NOT to trust you ( and I won't list all of the ways but I am sure you know)
then it may be that your parents don't trust the WORLD around you- face it~ this world is a mess... think of it like this.. what is the one thing you have in this world that is most important to you?? the one thing you can say you'd die for?? Ok, now picture that one thing GONE... lost,stollen,dead etc. ~ If you have no feeling then you haven't lived long enough to love.... and if you understand the pain of losing something you love,then you can understand your parents fear of losing you... be happy that someone loves you that much to care.. when you are out on your own the world in general won't care if you are there or not... It is ugly to attend a funeral of a child.. Caskets were never meant to be that small- Think about it- and then cut your partents some slack and thank them for caring-

Answer 4

My father put a curfew of midnight on me... I was 19! Now I have kids I know what he was worried about. Prob had every reason in the world to be concerned. Fortunately, I was always where I said I would be, with whom I said I would be and if an emergency came up with him or someone else in the family... they could find me. Parents invest a lot of money, time and love into their children. They want to trust them, but trust has to be earned. Don't give them any reason to not trust you and they will come around. Date within groups of others your age ... that always helps. I always double dated with friends. It gave me a sense of security as well as my dad. You didn't say how old you are, but I bet in a year or two the protectiveness will ease up ... if only a little bit. Take what freedom you are given and use wisely. Don't make mistakes that you could regret for the rest of your life (getting girl pregnant, committing crime, etc.) Oh, and don't rush to grow up.. you're only a kid once. You have the rest of your life to be an adult and it's not all that fun really.

Answer 5

I'm assuming this question wa sposted by a teenager, because I asked the same question as a teen. Well, I'm not 'old', but I thought I'd offer my 2 cents. As a teen (grade 9 through 12ish) my parents could have cared less where I was and who i was with. From a very early age I was allowed to do whatever I wanted. I wasn't spoiled per say (they'd nevr let me use their car) but compared to a lot of my friends, my parents were very leniant. Back in those days I didn't have a cell phone, so my parents didn't even know where I was (even in a ballpark sense). I took advantage of this many times, and look back on it in regret and bitterness. I know it seems 'annoying' now, but trust me, it is only because your parents care about you, it's not that they don't trust you it's that they don't trust everyone else. It's hard to understand that now, but someday you'll look back on it all and realize it is only because they care about you. Consider yourself fortunate.

Answer 6

It is because the world is not the same as when we were growing up and because they love you and don't want anything to happen to you. I know it seems a bother to all your age but it's better then them not caring. Sit and talk with them and it will lesson there fears to a degree. Trust me my Husband is 39 yrs old and his Mother still worries to death about him and calls to check in on him every other day. Most parents act like you are still there baby for the rest of there lives. Hang in there it gets better trust me. I have 5 kids and try to not act like a overbearing protective mother.

Answer 7

I'm not sure how old you are, but I can guarantee you that they are doing it for your well-being! There are a million and one things in the world to watch out for, and you may only know or have seen about a 1/3. Your parents have been there, and know most of what's lurking behind every corner waiting to ruin your life. They are trying to protect you from any harm that would come your way.

I used to hate my mother and blame her for all the friends I'd lost over the years. She was VERY strict and very over protective. I wasn't allowed to go to sleepovers, to the movies, dates, etc. After having my own daughter, I now see where she was coming from. Sleepovers without meeting the parents/family could have led to us sneaking out doing God knows what, or worse, a family full of molesters, etc. Movies with friends who've just gotten their driver's licenses was a dangerous idea. Not very skilled, and a car full of peer pressure and inattentiveness. Dating too young - unplanned pregnancy, rape, or worse.

I can even see now the devastation my mom would have felt if something would have happened to me. Especially if she wouldn't have asked 'where you going, and with who'. She would blame herself for the rest of her life. Believe me, it would be far worse for your parents NOT to ask you these things. For the parents that do, it usually means they don't give a flip about their children and their well-being to begin with.

I even called to thank my mom a few months back for being as strict as she was on me. I now realize she did it because she saw things I didn't or couldn't or didn't want to believe. It may not be that your parents don't trust you, but instead don't trust the world we live in and the things that could happen to you. Maybe they see something in the people you are around that you don't. The friends I was upset by loosing, weren't really the best people in the world to begin with when I think back on it.

Try looking at it from your parents viewpoint, and it will make a world of difference.

Answer 8

Parents r like that they r so over protective but that means they really love u and they want to keep u safe but appreciate that they take care of u just imagine if they weren't that over protective u wouldn't have no where to go or live or even eat and that's how much your parents love u right now u must be really happy with the things u have and its all because of your parents u should really love them while u have them but they really love u!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

If you had a Million dollars and were carrying it around wouldn't you want to make sure it was safe ? Would you leave this million dollars with just anyone to take care of trusting that they wont mess it up or take it ? would you leave it on its own and let it go and walk and come back to you when it feels like it and not worry that it has left you or someone has taken it or messed it up ? Well to your parents, you are there million dollars. ANd will probably sacrafice most anything to make sure your ok.

Answer 10

Parents care about you and they want you to be safe. Sometimes it's not you your parents don't trust it's the people you are going out with.