what should i do? should i keep him and raise him as my own or should i give him to her boyfriend? plz help mw
2006-07-17 06:21:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
what should i do? should i keep him and raise him as my own or should i give him to her boyfriend?her boyfriend told me that he'll helpme raise him if i keep him as my own.
2006-07-17 06:29:01 · update #1
Be thankful that you have this little miracle to remind you of your sister everyday. And be thankful that your sister trusted and loved you enough to leave something so important to you.
2006-07-17 06:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, can the boyfriend raise the baby in a healthy environment? Can you? She left the baby to you because she thought you could raise the baby better than he could. How old is the baby? Does the baby's father want the child? I'm a mother of two. I divorced my first husband before our second child was born so i raised a toddler and a newborn alone until I remarried two months ago. So you can email me and we'll talk more if you think I can help you. murph_ltt@yahoo.com
2006-07-17 13:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you financially and mentally capable of raising a child? Is the boyfriend the baby's father? If so he has legal rights. If he is not the biological father then you have to decide what is best for the baby and his future. Think long and hard before making a decision. Where are your parents? Can they help you with the decision?
2006-07-17 13:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want the child? He has first rights as the parent. If he doesn't, and you would like to keep the child, then do. There are many resources available to help you. Do what is in the best interests of the child, but take into account the father's feelings. The child will grow up wanting to know about its' parents, and you have the information the child will need. Try to keep in touch no matter what happens.
2006-07-17 13:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss, it must be a heartbreaking situation.
Does the Fatherr want to raise the child? only the fact that your sister has given you her precious baby may mean that she felt you would be the best person to take care of him, or surely the father would have been her first choice?
Maybe she felt she wanted a woman to take parental care of her son rather than a man.
I think it is something you will need to talk over with him when you feel up to it. You will need to discuss financial support and also his parental rights and what he might want to do in the future.
I hope you cope with your loss and come to some amicable arrangements
2006-07-17 13:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Eden* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to figure out what reasons she had in leaving her baby to you and not to the boyfriend. Its possible that she feels that you are better apt to care for the baby versus him. Also decide on your own finances, maturity and whether you can offer this child the emotional and physical security to see him/her grow and succeed. Talk to someone like a counselor before making any major decisions. Good Luck.
2006-07-17 13:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by neabean18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister left her baby to you, then you need to take the responsibility and raise her/him yourself. There is either some reason she didn't want the boyfriend to have the baby...or she just thought you were a better choice.
2006-07-17 13:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep the baby and if the boyfriend wants to help support it then let him but I believe if she left the baby for you there was a reason for that.
2006-07-17 13:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she left her baby to you then you should try to raise him yourself. It was your sister's wish. If she wanted her boyfriend to get the baby, she would have made the arrangements that way, but she didn't. She chose you. Respect your sister's wishes and really give it a shot.
2006-07-17 13:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she left the baby to u and not her boyfriend then you should keep it as her sister I think she relys more on you than her boyfriend. What I think you should do is keep the baby and when he gets to a certain age you should tell the baby, but if she gave the baby to you I think it's because she trusts you more.
2006-07-17 13:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by jayk795 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the boyfriend the father? If so, give the child to its father assuming you have legal custody to begin with and the Courts permit the father to take the child.
2006-07-17 13:26:58 · answer #11 · answered by The Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋