How do you break up with a live in boyfriend, who has a very short temper, who you think will hit you, destroy your house and car and just totally terrorize you? I got into a bad one....but he's never hit me, but the look in his eyes says he will. I also have a two year old baby to worry about. Any advice?
2006-07-17 06:17:50 · 16 answers · asked by 123456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But It's MY house. I'm a single mom who has worked my a** off for what I have.....What If I call his mom?
2006-07-17 06:24:42 · update #1
Well, I am not sure what I'd do about that, but I think I would pack up my baby, and go somewhere else, and maybe call him and tell him it's over. I mean you want to protect your baby and oh by the way, when you call him, do it at a phone you are not staying at, (pay phone) or block your number so hopefully he can't find you. As for the house, since you can't move it, (that easily and fast), it's still better for you to be safe then your house. I hope this helps!
2006-07-17 06:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him out of your house, have a bodyguard right there with you...do you have a brother or a friend that would help you out? You can also ask a bouncer at a local bar if he would freelance as a bodyguard...sometimes they'll do it for a few bucks. You should have someone there for protection if you don't know how your bf is going to act. If he becomes volitile, call the police and have them protect you. If you are the one moving out, that's easy...do it when he's at work and make sure you're gone by the time he returns home. It's always better to be safe than sorry. Good luck to you.
2006-07-17 06:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police station and file a report, tell them the situation and explain that he hasn't hurt you yet, but you are afraid he will. Ask if it is possible for someone to stop by when you tell him, I think it is called an escort. Of course you will probably want to stay with a relative for a couple days until everything chills out and consider moving out of the house. Unfortunately if he got mail there or is on any type of bill, he can prove residency and may legally be able to stay for at least a month. Find out the legalities first. Good Luck!
2006-07-17 06:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is you never should live together before you are married and who is the father of that child? Guess you do get what you set yourself to get later. As far as leaving him since it is your home, tell him with other women friends or family there so when you hurt him with the news he is less likely to hit you as you say with witnesses. If you put a man or male there, then he could attack if he interferes. If he has any canceled checks where he ever paid your house payment or any furniture then he has rights too and you may find it is difficult to force him to leave especially if that child is his.
2006-07-17 06:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well you have to end it. I'm not clear if you rent or own your house. Anyway, pack his stuff up while he's gone and have someone with you when he comes back, then definitely go stay somewhere that is safe. I don't know how long. You may have to move if you're just renting. If you own, you may have to stay away for a month, yeah, up to a month. Then change your locks when you go back. If you rent, I'm sure a landlord would understand why you needed to break your lease. Hope that helps.
2006-07-17 09:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he is gone, then pack your things but have someone come there with you in case he shows up. If you can get away to a relative's house that he either does not know or to a shelter until you can find somewhere to go, do that. If you must, have a police officer there with you while you get your things in case he shows up. Get far away from him and let your house go with him if you must. Save yourself and your baby. The other things will follow. Good luck to you and godspeed.
2006-07-17 06:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Alida2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and explain to them the situation. Ask them if someone could come while you boot him out. Is his name on the lease or anything stating that he lives in the home/place with you? Tell the cops that you are afraid of a bad situation and that you don't want to put you or your child into any danger.
Or call a relative to help you.
Good luck!!
2006-07-17 06:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly who cares who house it is if your really scared like that gget up out of there and then when it's right go back with a couple of people and either get your stuff out or get him out. no if you want him out why not just bring the cops to make sure and also get a restraing order after this is done and through. if you look n his eyes and know he will that's the end right there.
2006-07-17 06:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Bricee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have his stuff out on the lawn then call the police and change your locks if he starts to mess with u call 911 but the best thing is i would put his stuff out and leave for a few days then when u come home bring the police with you and they will make sure your house is clear
2006-07-17 07:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by alabamagirl2230 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a note. Take your baby and yourself away with your belongings and move on. Find a friend or a family member who will help you in this. Good luck.
2006-07-17 06:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋