I've been married for some time now but latley I've been wanted to hook up with a woman I work with. We flirt with each other alot and she mentioned getting together sometime. I know its wrong to cheat on my wife but I really want this other woman. Should I go for it?
2006-07-17 06:14:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think of the worst possible scenerio that could come out of this. Not the best, but the worst. Wife leaving and taking you to the cleaners, losing your job, etc and then see if you still want to do it.
2006-07-17 06:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by ZIAGACITY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want your marriage to end. You say you know it's wrong to cheat on your wife so, um, don't do it. Marriages can get ho-hum after a while, but you married this person because you loved her, right? So why hurt her? There's nothing wrong with flirting. Lots of folks I know admit that it's fun to have the office flirtation because it boosts their ego and feeds their imagination. But it stops at that... flirting. You should have enough respect for your wife and yourself to not take this woman up on her offer. One other thing: this coworker knowing you are married makes me think she is just out for the "chase", if you will; to see if she can lure you into cheating. Sadly, some women get off on that kind of thing.
2006-07-17 13:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by alleywayink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still in love with your wife? Even if you are, you shouldnt cheat. If you feel that strong about this other women leave wife first. It's your desire so dont hurt your wife because your penis is attracted to another female give her that much respect. Or best of all for about the whole thing your MARRIED!
2006-07-17 13:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by pinkylee-35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma, you cheat and you will get it in return somehow. A few minutes of pleasure with some stranger who might have a disease, get PG, etc. Not worth what I'm sure you have invested in your wife & you have to look at yourself in the mirror everyday after! But if you have totally no self-respect then you have absolutely nothing to lose!! Also, Grow Up & be a Man!!
2006-07-17 13:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by COblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what attracted you to your wife is the same thing attracting you to this woman. now that you are thinking of cheating to your wife, the same thing you will do to this woman when your relationship ages, and you will be attracted to another woman again and the chain continues. what will you be looking for? that is lust and lust never satisfies. it is also called 'the moth ambition'. the moth flies around the fluorescent bulb the whole night trying to go through it, but it gets exhausted and drops dead in the morning.don't be like a moth,stick to your wife.
2006-07-17 13:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? do you have any children? does your wife work? or is she a house-wife? you haven't given any of thes details? i feel this woman you work with, and flirting with you, as well as openly inviting you to have sex with her, is nothing but a frivolous woman, out to ruin your marriage! frankly, she is interested only in the money you might be spending on her, and a fling for thrills and pastime! you are into it because you want to have sex with her, nothing else? is your wife unattractive? suppose she also goes for a guy tomorrow, would you tolerate? have that understanding, then? i advise to curtail all this nonsense, it's affecting you image at work, and people are bound scandalise. these kind of flirtatious affairs will ruin your integrity, peace of mind, and family life, if you care?
2006-07-17 13:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by palador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not go for it. Sounds like you might be going threw a mid life crisis and just need to slow down and think. Your wife seems to have stuck by you and you by her for a long time. Their is no need to mess up all the trust you have with each other for a fling. During our lifes we all meet someone who catches our eye and makes up act stupid but that does not mean we should just leave every thing behind and start anew.
2006-07-17 13:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT, my husband cheated on me a few years back and not only did I go through hell, he did as well, she was mentally unstable and had a husband that not only wanted to kill my husband but wanted to kill me as well and I didnt do a damn thing wrong, her husband would call our house and tell my husband he was going to rape me , oh my god it was hell, thankfully they finally moved far away from us , its been a year since I found out about the affair and I am still hurting over it, My husband seems to be very sorry for what he did but I dont know if I will ever trust him again, its not worth the pain you will cause yourself and to your wife , believe me I know
2006-07-17 14:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by missy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No point in being married if your going to cheat on your wife. She will find out because its someone you work with and people talk. How would you feel if she was with another man. I would die if my husband cheated on me.
2006-07-17 13:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Farrah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want a divorce. Onc eyou cross the "cheatin line" your relationship with your wife will be gone. You can [pretend it didn't happen but it will change. Then what will you do for the rest of your life?
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2006-07-17 13:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋