Marriage is the foundation of a stable family, which is the foundation of a good life and society. Marriage also brings economic benefits as the partners to a marriage must legally provide for one another and their children. Obviously, a lot of people don't bother to get married anymore. Why?
2006-07-17 06:05:53 · 23 answers · asked by The Man 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? Why buy the pig when all you want is a little sausage?
2006-07-17 06:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
because some people feel that marriage is a life long journey and they will take there vows seriously.They want to make sure that this marriage will last.And I think thats the way it should be.If more people took the time to get to know each other BEFORE they got married then maybe our divorce rate would drop drastically. And just for your information you do not have to have a marriage to have a stable family or home life.As for the title of your message that you wrote here "why dont you shack ups just get married" thats in poor taste and that can be very offending to some people.Are you one of the ones that jumped in to a relationship and got married and willl probaly be divorced shortly.Stop bashing people for desicions they make that has absolultly no bearing on your life.have a great day
2006-07-17 13:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is really not a big deal. My husband and I shacked up for 10 yrs and 1 kid before getting married. Now we've been married for 6 yrs and have added another kid but there is no difference in the way we live our life.
Foundation of a stable family my ***. Our family was just as strong without the legality of marriage.
2006-07-17 13:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by dedisa2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. To me, it was the natural progression of my relationship. To a lot of people, they just see it as old fashioned or not that important anymore. I personally feel too many people are marrying too hastily and then divorcing as quickly as the marriage began. If that is how most of their relationships are going to go, I'd prefer they'd all stayed dating. To be young and married today, I feel like an oddity. On the same card though, I feel very happy and grateful that I have someone to spend my entire life with, and don't have to worry about a lot of these minuscule problems singles have. (is he going to call? should we sleep together?...ect.) I think if someone is already planning on staying together forever, there's no reason not to make it legal.
2006-07-17 13:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a lot easier to just move out then to go through a divorce. Too many people marry too quickly these days. My man and I lived together for 5 years before getting married. And we learned a lot about ourselves and each other during that time. Our marriage will not end in divorce.
2006-07-17 13:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is also a human construct. It is meant to safeguard those who would be taken advantage of otherwise or abandoned. That doesn't mean that all people who don't get married are going to take advantage of or abandon their spouse and/or children. Two people committed to each other and their family don't have to be "married" to be a part of the foundation you refer to. To get married is the result of personal/cultural values that are important to people. Not everyone comes from similar cultural backgrounds or have the same values. Why should they follow a value system that is foreign to them? It's not as black and white as people think. (BTW, I am married).
2006-07-17 13:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by jonjon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can judge everyone and say that they should all get married. Some of the people that live together might be too young to get married, maybe they are still in college/grad school and are waiting to get out and get jobs so they can afford the wedding they want to have. I am all for weddings, but I don't think it is right to say that just because you are living with someone you have to marry them right this second.
2006-07-17 13:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is also very expensive and a big decision. I don't think people should get married till 24 or so and there is a long time in there for dating and figuring out whether or not this person is "the one"
How can you know that you won't drive eachother crazy in marriage if you don't give it a test?
2006-07-17 13:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because with all the celebraty break-ups and other uncertainties in the world today, people have the I love you, we will live together, maybe even have a kid or two but we dont have to do all that on paper mentality.
As long as you are just living with or dating or even in a serious relationship with people, it is a security blanket that if something happens, you can walk without the messy divorce courts.
2006-07-17 13:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People get married thinking they are ready, and by the time they know it there divorcing,its better to wait a long time and find that person then to just jump in bed with someone and then marry them for the wrong reasons.
2006-07-17 13:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My dad made me get married, and now I'm 23 and divorced. I see no problems with living together. It costs a lot less when you do separate. I take care of my child just fine by the way-by myself.
2006-07-17 13:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by 123456 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋