Hey ya'll i'm 18 and a virgin and i've been with my boyfriend for four years..i respect him a lot because he could've broken up with me because i wouldn't lose my virginity to him but he stuck with me..now i'm ready to have sex..i feel ready.. we talk about it all the time..but when it comes time to do it i always find sum excuse and end up chickening out..any advice?
2006-07-17 06:05:37 · 23 answers · asked by krione 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's great that he's waited all this time for you. It shows he truly respects you and loves you. And good for you for sticking to your guns until you're ready. My guess is that if you're still making excuses even though you think you're ready, maybe you're not quite ready yet. Think about what you really want...this guy obviously isn't looking to jerk you around so don't be scared of that. If after you reevaluate how you feel about losing your virginity, you feel you are indeed ready, just go for it. Maybe try going out for a nice dinner first and getting in the romantic mood might help. Good luck!
2006-07-17 06:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT!!!DONT DO IT!!!!
I say this because I know exactly how you feel. I was in a relationship for 4.5 years and thought I was ready for sex. When I did it, it was the worst experience of my life. There is a reason that you keep chickening out and it is because you really don't want to do it. If this man loves you and I am sure he does, he will continue to wait. YOu aren't really ready you just feel like you are because you are 18. Virginity is something sacred that you should hold on to as long as possible.
2006-07-17 13:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by natoya07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your ready....there won't be any excuses, no chickening out.
There must be a part of you that doesn't feel like he is the right one, or on some level...your just not ready. Don't push yourself, let it happen when your ready and not a minute before.
You only loose it once....and you've got the rest of your life to either regret it, or know it was the right decision...if he's waited this long he truely cares for you, he'll keep waiting.
2006-07-17 13:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then maybe you're not as ready as you think. You've waited for years, you can wait a few more weeks to clear your mind and thoughts to be sure this is what you really want to do. And there is no reason for you to respect him like that for him "waiting", a man should always respect your decision regardless and if he doesn't then he wasn't worth your time. Maybe you talking about it all the time is really just unsaid pressure on you to do it. Either way, it sounds like he loves you. Here's a little poem I read once:
I met him; I liked him
I liked him; I loved him
I loved him; I let him
I let him; I lost him
Be careful and be absolutely 100% sure this is what you want to do. Make the night special and romantic and remember 4play is the key.
2006-07-17 13:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jess23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Krione !
Good question.
First of all I would like to tell you that the only one who can really hel you is an endocrinologist speciallized in sexuality and maybe a phycholigist. You have heard about shrinks. They are speciallized in professional consultations for psychic. So , their equivalent in sexuality are the endocrinologists.
But it depends even of your feelings too. As far as I can see, if you are still affraid after 4 years it is something wrong there and you really need help. So, do not hurry, you have more than half of your life ahead. Why to try then to repair something ?
So, please wait and follow my advice to go to a professional consultation first !
Have fun !
Sincerely,
Valer BOCA
2006-07-17 13:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by valer_boca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try putting on a romantic evening to set off the mood. Take everything slow. That's great that you have waited until 18.
2006-07-17 13:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is nothing wrong with waiting untill you are married for haveing sex. If now you are still not sure about it then go ahead and wait untill you are married, you have the rest of your life after you get married. The reason you might be scared is cause in your heart you know it is wrong for you and you are the only one who counts.
2006-07-17 13:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably still not ready. Just calm down and let it happen slowly one step at a time. Get out all your fears of doin it and just do it.
2006-07-17 13:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that you have waited this long, not many 18 year olds are still virgins.I would just take it one day at a time and see what happens.People who wait and take it slow will make that special day even better.Safe sex ofcourse.
2006-07-17 13:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow, you will know when you are ready because it will just happen and you wont be scared anymore.
2006-07-17 13:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋