I have been married to almost two years now and have become very depressed over the fact that I don't want sex with my wife anymore, but I want sex from others that are more attracitve than her. I love her, but I am not in love with her. I am considering leaving her, but not sure. Any thoughts?
2006-07-17 06:01:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate it when people give bad avice and think divorce is the golden ticket to an easy way out. It is not! Marriage is a life commitment, and if one thing goes wrong, you should try to fix it rather than just pack your bags and leave. Nowadays, people marry for the wrong reasons not knowing marriage is a LOT of work. Well news for everyone, IT IS!!!
When you made your vows with your wife you promised to love her in sickness and health, for richer or for poorer and for better or for worse. Sex is a small thing to just turn your life around and give up so easily. You should encourage your wife to become more fit, dress better, and fix herself up so more by maybe exercising in the gym with her, going to spas and treating her to a makeover, taking her shopping, etc. Communicate with her and work the problem out. Your wife is still the same person you were attracted to years ago, and will always be--maybe she just needs some changes, but think of a life without her, and you might just regret it for the rest of your life because of some tiny itch you want to remedy.
My dear, sex isn't everything. If you think good sex equates to a happy marriage then you are wrong. If you divorce her simply for these grounds then you are THAT shallow. Go to a therapist, talk it out, you guys should really TALK!!! Good luck and I hope you make the right decision.
2006-07-17 06:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
please talk to your wife about this! you guys are in this together, and i am sure she would love an opportunity to work with you to improve your relationship before you cheat on her or leave her.
keep in mind that this is not her fault, so she shouldn't have to do all the work of repairing the relationship. maybe the two of you could go to counseling, join a gym together, or pick some other solution that could help the problems you're experiencing.
sexual attraction comes and goes in a relationship, especially over the long-term in a marriage. that is normal and it is a fact of life. if you keep seeking more attractive women as sexual partners, you will never have a successful or fulfilling relationship.
if you do decide to leave your wife, PLEASE do not get married again until you are ready to make a life-long commitment, regardless of where your hormones might lead you.
good luck to you....
2006-07-17 06:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Janci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First 3 years are the hardest - stay put (and faithful) for another year, then decide........ Ive been married for 7 yrs and although I think my husband is extremely hot -- I still think about sex with other people (male or female) all the time. Do I act on it???? Possibly *wink*
2006-07-17 06:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's tough. maybe you're just in a stage where in you dont feel attracted to your wife. give it more time. maybe you should try to work things out. do new things with your wife. go on a vacation or go on dates. feel young again and remember the reasons you married her in the first place. just dont dwell on it. the more you do, the more you'd feel unattracted to her. go beyond the physical aspect and love your wife unconditionally. i sincerely wish you both the best.
2006-07-17 06:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by addicted13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to a therapist or try different things to spice up your sex life with her. Trust me, the grass is not greener on the other side.
2006-07-17 06:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by luvinmjc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to try new things. Maybe she could change her appearance ( clothes). Try going out more. Don't leave her. Remember "till death do us part" was what was said. If you leave your wife she'll be deveststed. Tell her to try new things in the bed room also or you could do it.
2006-07-17 06:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think youd better do some soul searching. What attracted you to her in the beginning? Something must have, has she gained weight? What about you, have you changed, caus enoone stays the same.
2006-07-17 06:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's has. Get over it. That's why there are mistresses and prostitutes and the girl next door. I prefer the girl next door. She's cheap and close to get to, and even makes house calls.
2006-07-17 06:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is probably hurting her so much that you don't show her affection, and don't want to share intimacy with her anymore. I would just end the relationship.
2006-07-17 07:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by tear streaked angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the **** is wrong with you mate. you are so shallow!!! what the ******* **** are you talking bout u love her but u're not! mate your trippin. don't do anything irrational. i reckon u bring your wife to a beauty parlour or whatever. get her dolled up mate!
2006-07-17 06:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋