is anyone else an over the road truck drivers wife?

Question

I am wondering if you are, do you work? And if you do, does your husband expect to be waited on when he gets home. Like he just wants to relax and doesn't feel that he should have to help out around the house. You should have his laundry ready for the week, the house should be clean when he gets home, the yard mowed, everybody in a good mood, plus you need to make his food for the week. I want to take care of my husband and I'd love it if things were this perfect too, but I can't be a "single" mom of three kids all week and work a full time job and still get all of his stuff done too. Does anyone else's husband do this and how do you deal with it?

Answer 1

my husband is currently only gone 3 nights a week, but he is starting a new job that he will be gone m-f. yes i work full time and we have 2 kids and custody of his son so all togeather there is three of them. yes he wants to hit the couch all weekend, or run around with his friends, but i just tell him i cant do it all and need attention too. i always leave a list of things that i just cant do - (heavy lifting and such) he is pretty good about doing it. my kids help out alot to . but yes i am responsible for his laundry ready for the week, not food though. it is a tough job to stand behind our "deisel dummies" but stay stronge, and talk to him about how you feel.

Answer 2

wow. i feel your pain. my husband is not a druck driver. my dad is. but i dont live with my parents anymore. but when i did, my dad was never like that. he never took food with him on the road. he always bought food whereever he was. and the grass would never get cut until he would get home. so everyone is different. your man might of been raised like that when he was young. how old are your kids? if they are older then 9 years old i think they can help you around the house. give them things to do. pay a young man to cut the lawn once a week. change your schedule so that you dont becom bored and tired of the same old thing. if your tired of doing too much stuff then have a talk with your man. tell him yuo want to help and make everything around the house but your getting tired and you cant go on cus your about the fall apart. ask him if he can cut the grass when he gets home. or if he can do something when he gets home. if he doesnt want to then ask him if you can stop doing things around the house all the time and do them once in a while. you two need communication and you need to talk all the time about these things. dont hold them inside. k? good luck and god bless your family

Answer 3

First of all, I disagree with looter. I mean, he could be, but he may not be.

I have been a wife of a truck driver. He isn't a truck driver anymore, but it's tougher out there more then you'd realize. I didn't work, but I went to school. And when he did come home, he just wanted to sleep and relax. (We also didn't have children).

I think you should talk to him and see if you can't work something out. You should be honest with him, and tell him something has to change. I mean, could he make his own food? Maybe you'll have to hire a guy to fix up stuff that he can't? I know this likely doesn't help, and I'm sorry if it doesn't.

Answer 4

just remember he is having sex with 10 dollar fender lizzards every night.