My MIL/FIL will not call me on the phone, they invite my husband out to eat for lunch and not me, pretend like I don't exist, they never invite all of us anywhere, and wonder why I don't give up my time with my children for them. I feel like my MIL is trying to split my family. Being a working mom, I love my children and want to spend a lot of time with them. I don't understand why we can't all do things together? My MIL is very controlling, I have had to remove her from our finances and other inappropriate areas because my husband won't do it, HELP?
2006-07-17 05:27:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There isn't much that you need to do...on the other hand your husband needs to stand up and be your husband. A man is suppose to be a husband first and everything else comes 2nd, INCLUDiNG his parents.
2006-07-17 05:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by oneluv66366 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is your husband....He should not be doing anything with them if it doesnt' involve all of you as one. You should see a marriage counselor if he cannot be considerate enough to make you feel like his WIFE vs. a girlfriend. As for your MIL - Yikes...It'll really help if you can get your hubby to step up to her be a man and tell her that she needs to change her attitude towards you or he can no longer visit until she can come to learn that you are his wife and you too must be invited anywhere....
2006-07-17 05:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your husbands duty to have a talk with his parents. First of all, its rude of your husband to accept invites from them without you included. I think if your husband is allowing this to happen, then its time for him to step up and act like a husband and decline any invites from his family that don't include you in them, even if you have to work those days, still you should be included in the invite, even if you can't go.
2006-07-17 06:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rallyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband need to know that he married to you and have kids and that mean that he need to be there for you and kids and making sure they are ok and protect them and stuff like that.
if it was me and I will tell my mother to back off and if you don't want my wife to be involve then it not worth my time with you anyway... that how my mother did to my wife and i stop and guess what it worth for me to do that becasue I know that my wife and my kids will always be with me ever day and 24/7 a day and 365 a year. and I rather to be with my family not my mom or anyone else.
You have a right to removed her from your finances... so It seem that he is a momma boy...... and I think not fair that he doing that to you and not address to his mother about this... you know what I mean?
2006-07-17 06:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! That is a very sad situation that you are currently facing with your in-laws. Unfortunately, I have no useful advice to give you here as my mom was in the same situation. My aunts and uncles, on my father's side, have nothing to do with my mom--they don't include her in functions. But she doesn't care as she keeps far away from them as possible. Perhaps you should just stay away from them and not let them get to you--show them that you don't care or want anything to do with them.
2006-07-17 05:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband should repectfully decline their invitations and tell them he is going to spend time at home with his wife. you should invite her over to spend time with you and your family...this way it will be on your turf. be nice to her and talk to her, tell her how you feel. let her know that you want to be included in get togethers. maybe when she asks him to go out she automatically means both of you...maybe the problem is actually not her but is in fact your husband...next time he goes out with them go along anyway and see what the reaction from him and her is...i mean surely when she calls she doesn't say honey lets go out to lunch but so an so is not invited and he just hops in the car and goes....something don't add up...i would confront her and your husband. if it is her just being nasty to you be the bigger person and go out of your way to be nice to her anyway you can...kill her with kindness dear
2006-07-17 06:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Enigma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wrong u should take control of your family start doing more things with your family likegoing to the movies os something so they will be with u and won't have time for her
2006-07-17 05:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband isn't man enough to do what he needs to do that is stand up for you to his mother we cannot help. It seems to me that he has made his choice his mommy and daddy. Now you need to make one are you better off with this spineless punk or without him.
2006-07-17 06:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done what you can for now. Find out from your husband why he can't talk to his parents about how they exclude you from visits. Also, ask why can't he stand up to them and fight for your family.
2006-07-17 05:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to make a choice - you or his parents.
Maybe you need to "separate" yourselves from the in-laws for a while
2006-07-17 05:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋