My wife just up and left two years ago and took our son with her. She moved to a military base (although she's not in the military, just dating someone who is). I miss my son so much. I want to find him to get custody but I have tried to locate them but no luck. He was 3 when he left, now 5 years old. He'll be starting kindergarten soon. I've tried everything but since she's on a base, I think thats why Im having no luck. Any imput would help! Thanks.
2006-07-17 05:22:56 · 29 answers · asked by aw68 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
My friend posted this. He is in desperate need of any help or suggestions you may have. thanks
2006-07-17 05:23:52 · update #1
Get in touch with one of the military pastors as well as their family service agency. They are required to know the name / age etc of everyone living on the base.
And get a lawyer :P
2006-07-17 05:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your difficult situation. I;m sure that you have done the best that you can, but you probably should have acted more quickly.
Well, I think the starting point is to talk to an attorney who works in family law in your state. Get them to file with the court to try and regain custody of your children, or to at least get joint custody.
After you have done this work in advance, you will be prepared to take action, with the law standing behind you.
Then have your attorney try and contact her through whatever references you have, even if they are old, and require her (by court order) to appear.
If this fails, then hire a private detective who is an expert at skip tracing, and he will track her down. Give that information to your attorney.
You should ask the attorney for advice on the next step, but I would (if she is in another state) go to the court in that state and ask for another clarification of custody based on that states rules, using the judgment you already have on your side in your state. The attorney in that state will require her to appear before court, and require her to honor the previous judgments in your favor.
Good luck. I know you can succeed if you are diligent in preparing in advance for this.
2006-07-17 05:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Atom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe once he starts Kindergarten and is entered into a school, trying to find him might become easier. If you have a general idea of where she might have taken him - contacting each school district in that area may start the ball rolling. If you know his SS# that would also help, especially if she files taxes and claims him as a dependent, but that would take legal representation most likely to obtain that type of information.
2006-07-17 05:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first try the people finder services available on the web. If all else fails, enlist the help of a private investigator. These folks have access to records (by their license) that the general public cannot see. If your ex is using any kind of credit, she can be located.
2006-07-17 05:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should have hired a lawyer at the very beginning, gone to court and addressed these issues. I can't believe that you've let two years go by without doing so. Call a lawyer! If you can't afford one call Legal Aid!
2006-07-17 05:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the state, it might be a joint custody state. She may only have half rights to the child unless you signed them away.
Use intellus.com or some other service. If she works or uses her social security number for anything, it should find her.
2006-07-17 05:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Fantasy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son will be starting kindergarten soon, she must use a birth certificate( or American equivilant) to enroll him. He will have to use his full name as you can't change info on birth certificate. Check schools in areas you think he might be. A Private Investigator might be your best choice. Good luck.
2006-07-17 05:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by mad_hat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sry to here that but check this go to child service ask for a blood test (u no the kid is urs but) this the fastest way ok bro. any way get blood test and they will seek her out over the national data bass. they will check med , school , socail number all info they WILL FIND HER. IT THAT SIMPLE AND I NO IT MaY HURTS BUT IF YOU LOVE YA SEED THEN DO it i done it trust me it works perfect you got the main clue the army base that is even easier for the to get a blood sample and they have to do it "EVEN THE GOVERNMENT"
2006-07-17 05:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a local skip-tracer....a good attorney can refer you to some....If you can supply her social security number and she is working it'll be a slam dunk.....or supply a private detective with her attorney's name and he should be able to con the information out of her parents, sister etc.......or.........if you know the name of the guy she's with, go through military channels to find out where he is stationed and then serve her with papers.
2006-07-17 05:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by THOMAS F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try thrpugh the socoal security office. Also maybe hire a detective. It should not be too hard since you have all her information. Social Security number maiden name etc...
2006-07-17 05:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Miriah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋