2006-07-17 05:01:44 · 51 answers · asked by Jhnny B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well...obviously she isn't "happily married" or else she wouldn't have cheated...once a cheater always a cheater...i say hell no
2006-07-17 05:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by irishmomof3 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mmmm....interesting one this - it does depend on two things 1) What are both parties definition of happy and 2) What was the level and length of the cheating.
The thing that all those judging this woman need to remember is that we are all just human and we all do stupid and weak things. If you've never made a mistake then throw that first stone babyo.
There are times we all get chatted up or get the look from attractive men/women but we don't take it further - but for some the circumstances or the mood just hits at the wrong time and the mistake happens.
I say give it another go - but from bitter experience MUST forgive you HAVE to forget else it will eat you away.....If I hadn't forgiven my then girlfriend I would not be happily married to her with a great marriage and two beautiful children.
Good luck for the future.
2006-07-17 05:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by AdviseLine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the cheating views of the man is. If he feels the relationship is worth working this out then I would say yes, however she will have to earn your trust back and you two will need to set down and find out why she cheated. If she cheated then she is the one not happily married if you love her you need to find out what caused this and fix the problems this still does not excuse her chosen to cheat instead of communicating to you something wasn't right in the bedroom with you two. This is one of those important areas in a relationship where communication, give and take, listening and hearing and working together to fix issues that might be present and/ or making compromises..
2006-07-17 05:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says "happily married man" I'm guessing that maybe the wife isn't so happy for some reason. Not that this makes it okay, but it is forgivable. Men cheat normally to get more action, women normally cheat because they are unhappy. Talk to her and see whats going on in her head.
2006-07-17 05:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by flowerandkevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to the guy. Not everyone is able to forgive easily. Remember sometimes too, we can be forgiven but the act may not be "forgotten" so it depends on how well the man can "let it go" --- I don't think there's 100% truth to "once a cheater always a cheater" --- I do believe people are human and we all make mistakes. I also know that marriage takes hard work, understanding, trust AND unconditional love.
2006-07-17 05:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mish06, not stupid! People make mistakes for any number of reasons. If there was a problem and you can resolve it why not? I don't follow the line "Once a Cheat always a Cheat"
Does that mean If I do something which is considered wrong I am more likely to carry on doing that thing?
Everything is worth working at!
Good Luck
2006-07-17 05:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why she cheated. Maybe he thinks he "happily married" but there is some reason she did this and he should find out what his part was in her actions. You can forgive her; but it would be a long time before you could trust her again. In the meantime, get some counseling and find out what the real problem is. Good Luck.
2006-07-17 05:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's happily married his wife wouldn't cheat. Since she did, she must not be happily married. I would say there's a lot more to this than just forgiving. I would ask if you can both fix the marriage.
2006-07-17 05:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happily married? The problem is that sometimes one side of the marriage is happy, the other side is not. A happy woman or man does not cheat. Getting to your question, I'd say, No! it's not forgiveable!
2006-07-17 22:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
,You might be happy married but obviously she isn't! If she really loved you she wouldn't do this sort of thing. Its a difficult situation to be in, I know, and you will always have your doubts about her even if you can forgive her. Do you really want to live a life that's full of doubts and uncertainties?
Of course its possible she could do this again with someone else at a later date, but she will know to cover her tracks more carefully next time and take the affair more underground.
Unfortunately there is no guarantees she will never do this again, even if shes pleading and begging you to forgive her on this one. Only you can decide if its worth all the worry and uncertainty.
As for my opinion, I'd say no,and kick her out. No matter what excuse she may give for entering this relationship with another man, it's hardly loving and respecting you is it?
2006-07-17 12:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kinda hard since most women need to feel some sort of emotional bond with someone to sleep with them. Most men can separate emotions from the act of sex. So she went looking for someone else to confide in emotionally because she felt you were unavailable. You have to look into your heart and if there are kids involved think about their emotional well-being. But if you do get back together you should definately seek couples therapy to fix the underlying issue of why she cheated in the first place. Good luck.
2006-07-17 05:07:40 · answer #11 · answered by Bev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋