Is it wrong for me to want a boyfriend??

Question

Im 22 and i've never had a boyfriend and im starting to wonder if theres somthing wrong wit me or is it normal for me to be single at this day an age? It's not like im not good looking or anything i just can't seem to bring myself to talk or even look at a guy. Maybe im just not good at picking up guys.. WHAT DO YOU THINK??

Answer 1

Go with the flow of life and when it happens it happens, but dont live your life thinking the next best thing is around the corner it leads to unhappiness and lack of fulfillment.

Answer 2

Here are a few things to ponder:

1). You're a "late bloomer", that's all.
2). Your lack of experience has kept you out of the loop as far as picking up guys.
3). You are basically waiting for a guy to pick YOU up.
4). All of the above.

It goes without saying, but none of this makes you weird or stranger or defective. It's all normal.

There does, however, come a point in life where you have to drop the "coy act" and go after what you want. When you realize that, you'll soon find yourself face to face with a guy you want to talk to, etc.

NEVER be afraid or ashamed to look. Be cautious if he might be hetero. While some may find it flattering that another guy would find them attractive, many do not.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

Honestly such issues as to when is the "proper" age to have a boyfriend or significant other are really up to the person. I know I'm in a similar situation myself in that I'm of the same age and haven't what could be considered to be an "actual" relationship. I mean to have someone alongside you is a natural thing and yet it can be difficult to do so, compounded with the fact you want to be with someone of the same gender. Now this may not be an issue for you, I know for me it adds to the difficulty in being accustomed to who you are.

But really it comes to the fact you have to go where the people are and that doesn't mean you got party-crazy but you go about in the way you feel most comfortable. I know for me I've been told to take it slowly when it comes to the stuff and I'd have to agree even though their are times in my life when I want to be with someone so bad. Sometimes for sex, sometimes for campanionship and just to have someone else to talk to and get out of my head.

Of course all of this is subjective and are merely guidelines, not rules. All I can say is be respectful, play it cool (once again subjective) and look clean and good luck.

Answer 4

I think your shy and nothing wrong with that. Nor is thre anything wrong with not having a boyfriend. However if you want one then you are going to have to be brave and talk to some.

I would suggest starting online. It may help you realize you are a catch, and have more confiednce. Plus it may be easier for you to start a conversation out there with someone and realize all you have to do is carry it over inperson. Believe in yourself.

You might also try this book: My Guy: A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship (Paperback) by Martin Kantor

It might help you develop a better idea about who you are and what you want in a boyfriend. Good Luck stud

Answer 5

I think you need to build your self confidence up. It is not necessarily bad that you do not have one but I am sure you want one. If you do not look or talk to them chances are you will never get one. You cannot wait for them to make the first move or you might be waiting forever. You need to put yourself in the position to be around men. Then you need to try to start a conversation. Maybe you could go to some sort of karate or something similar. This could help you build your self esteem.

Answer 6

I think you need to stop looking at gender and just get out there and meet people you dont need to pick up a guy you need to find a mate and for that you need a circle of firends even the women because they all know guys they can fix you up with.

Answer 7

Are you questioning your sexuality? You posted in the gay/lesbian section....which is fine! We welcome you as long as you're not bashing us! LOL!!! It could be that you are just a shy person or that you haven't met that one guy that really cranks your tractor. If you have any close girlfriends get out to some clubs and just HAVE FUN!!! Don't worry about you hitting on the guy. Let HIM hit on you. I'm sure you are a pretty girl and won't have any problems attracting the guys! Good luck!

Answer 8

It is normal, some people have a relationship earlier, some people don't. It only makes you a better choice for guys, because when you find the one you love, he will know he is the first, that is a good thing.

Answer 9

You sound like your just a little shy, nothing wrong with that, each of us in our own way progress in life. Patience although you may want to look at practising your approach, I don't mean pick up lines, just your way of being sociable. You'll get the hang of it in time.

As for what Salvador said, consider he's probably gay curious. I checked out his other questions and they lead me to believe he may be a closet case in evangelical clothing, so don't pay attention to him, his kind are filth.

Answer 10

Oh sweety your shy, I'm sorry. You got to find that courage to step up and say hi. You probably are a real cutie, but you got to speak. I know how hard it is. But make a goal. Like you will speak to 5 new men in the next month. Be specific. You will say hello or you will tell them you like thier shoes, watch, whatever, or ask for directions to somewhere. When you do that, just introduce yourself. And when you conquer that goal, increase the risk factor -- like ask for phone numbers.

Answer 11

Try going to bars. Dress nicely, put on a little make-up and just strike up some conversations. You don't have to hook up, but at least you will get some confidence about talking to dudes.