i have talked to her about and shown my concerns and she kind of laughed it off as in "i would never leave you for him." i am not a jealous person by nature and i know she loves me very much but this is something that kind of rubs me the wrong way and she doesnt think that it is that big of a deal, although if i were talking to any exes of mine she would flip out. am i wrong to be asking about it personally i dont think she would ever cheat on me but i do have a problem with somebody trying to disrepect our marriage. FYI -her ex is in the military and normally is not here but he is for about 2 weeks b4 he gets shipped out until the end of '07.
P.S. they have been friends for a while and both have been with each other during trying times.
2006-07-17 04:50:56 · 17 answers · asked by John W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok i know its bad but i checked her phone last night and she texted him this "Then why do u keep saying "i am busy" just tell me the truth u want me or u don't." i wanted to bring it up last night but are two year old was acting up and didn't have the time. i know i am going to confront her about it. anyone got any ideas how?
2006-07-18 01:19:06 · update #1
Looks like we got something pretty similar. the only difference is that i am referring to my gf.
she did the same things ur wife did and even answer the very same way when i talked to her and show concerns over it....( i am a person whom gets jealous EXTREMELY easy) They are friends alright.... they do go out at times but only with a big group of friends. Frankly speaking, if ur wife don go out with him secretly or alone, I sincerely believe that u should close an eye... u have great confidence in ur partner. Continue showing concerns but not to the extent that the both of u will start to argue over it.
Personally... i mean if i happen to be u.... it will be a never ending argument...
i have to admit. ur wife is blessed with gd fortune to have a husband like u. Don worry too much. Disrespect ur marriage is one thing but to make ur wife think that u got no confidence in her is a greater deal of trouble. Gd luck to u.
2006-07-17 05:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Headache 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, that would rub me the wrong way too, Dude. And I do find it disrespectful of your relationship; not on the ex's part, on your WIFE's part! YOU are suppose to be #1. It's up to you. You can wait out the 2 weeks until he's gone; or you can really put your foot down and tell her that's a big "no no" in a marriage. I would not be a happy camper if my hubby did this to me. I'd feel slighted. If they don't have children together, there should be no contact. Tell her how you feel....AGAIN..!
2006-07-17 11:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they're still friends. Alot of ex-couples remain friends. It could be that he's worried about getting deployed. It's always good to have a friend to talk to. If you think it's getting to be a problem, step up and have a talk with HIM. Ask him what's going on and tell him you're uncomfortable about it. You might even have a talk with the two of them together. In the end, you might end up w/ a friend as well. Good luck to you!
2006-07-17 11:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by lil_af_wife05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that they have been friends before but I cant understand why she would still be texting him if it makes you uncomfortable. I have ex's that I used to be friends with but I stopped talking to them cause even though my fiance hasnt said it bothers him it's still disrestpectful to him. It may not bother him but I still think it's wrong and a little weird to be talking to your ex's if you are in a happy relationship. Maybe you guys should talk to a marriage counsler? It may not be a huge issue now but if she isnt willing to listen to your discomforts now it could snowball into bigger problems so you might as well nip it in the butt before hand.
2006-07-17 11:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her, it is not fair that you can't talk to your exs and she can do so. In a marriage everything is a matter of being equal, so you should make an agreement regarding the subject and if it is so important to her talking to the guy, you should have equal right to talk to any ex. If she doesn't agree, then she should understand how you feel about her talking to the ex, and she will quit.
2006-07-17 12:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by jameneiro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the same and shes kinda makin u jelous so make her jelous 2 but not 2 much or shell brake up with u and if she tells u 2 stop taking 2 ur ex then u say the samething
2006-07-17 11:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by mcooler3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take action by like saying i dint want you talking to your ex ur ex is in the past i am the future sio if you want to be with him go ahead but if you are gong to be with me you need to forget about him and move on with me. That's all you got to do Stand up for yourself.
2006-07-17 11:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by Gaiane t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggestion? Don't let her see your jealousy. Then just mention how you've decided to touch base with one of your exes... See her reaction.
2006-07-17 11:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't be as confident about her faithfullness as you are. ***** is lucky to have you, too bad she may not know it.
2006-07-17 11:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by PHD-NDN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable with it then she should put you ahead of him. It's not like you are locking her in the basement.
2006-07-17 11:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by anthonydavidpirtle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋