How do you raise your self-confidence, self-image, and stand up for youreslf whn ppl r making fun of u?

Question

Okay, Im getting older, and closer to the real world, but since I was little, I never knew how to stand up for myself, I was too afraid. Also, I've been finding things I want to change about myself, both physically, and mentally. . .I DON NOT love what God gav me. I need help accepting/changin myself, especially since I shud be grateful that I Im not big, overweight, or have any other handicaps! What should I do to help me form myself?!?!!?!?!

Answer 1

Quit being a p@#$y and kick someones @ss.

Answer 2

I think you sound like you're already half way there. By working on the things that you want to change, you'll also be gaining confidence in yourself. I think our physical characteristics many times are a reflection of what's going on on the inside. get started on the things you want to change and very soon you'll find that people will treat you differently. Most of the time with much more respect. You may also find that people you already know may not be as supportive but that's okay. Just concentrate on the positive and you'll be fine. Good luck!

Answer 3

first of all you shouldn't complain you should be happy with what God gave you b/c God didn't have to give you anything at all but secondly, take a mirror, the huge ones that fit the size of a door look at it and look at it long and hard and tell yourself everything that you love about yourself. do this everyday until you feel confident enough to do it without the mirror. you will feel so much better with yourself. and when people make fun of you, make fun back. remember this EVERYBODY ON THIS EARTH HAS A FLAW OR WEAKNESS. as long as you remember that then you will be fine. love who you are inside and outside. and also remember this everyone who picks on you does so b/c they try to be cool but look at where they will be in the future. see it doesn't matter about the clothes you wear or the shoes or the way you wear your hair what will matter is 20-30-40 years down the line and you'll see the look on their faces when they see that you are pretty and successful. just believe in yourself and do what i told you to do. it works wonders. believe it or not it worked for me and now a person can't tell me that i'm ugly or whatever because i know who and what i am and you should know the same. its not fair to you. but good luck to you i hope you feel better about yourself in the future.

Answer 4

I 'd say you should start with what is immediately within your control, namely, your body. Start eating healthy. That means eating healthy, not starving yourself or trying a diet that makes you eat 4 lbs of meat everyday. Get in the habit of eating vegetables, fruits, and simple carbs. Fish and chicken, less beef and pork.

Next you should capitalize on your body. Anyone who does not have a glandular predisposition to be obese (and those people are rare) can get into the same shap that Brad Pitt or Keira Kneightly are in. You need to dedicate yourself to starting out at 1 hour of exercise a day for 4 to 5 days each week. Alternate lifting and endurance days. If you are a woman, you are not likely to put on bulk. You need testosterone for that. Not only that, but if you do, the added muscle mass will help you burn calories when you aren't doing anything. This will make you leaner.

After about 1 1/2 to 2 months try bumping up your exercise to 2 hours a day or twice a day. In month three you should be in noticeably better shape than you are in today.

So by this point you should have a pretty solid body. People will start to notice you, don't you worry.

The next thing you can do, is change who you are. No one can do this for you but you. You don't need to be who everyone else wants you to be. If you are becoming an adult, now is the time to re-invent yourself. If you feel you are too scared to stand up to people, you need to ask yourself why are they picking on you? Do you have something that they want? Should it even matter what they think? If you can make yourself not care what other people think, and realize that it cannot change who you are, people will actually start to pick up on that and see you as being confident, when really, you're indifferent. People generally can't tell the difference between confidence and indifference. But you need to make sure that you are indifferent to other people's perceptions. You cannot be indifferent to how people treat you. The most important thing to you, should be you. Don't ever let anyone cross you.

If people are physically picking on you, go learn self defense. I'm not talking about Karate. That won't help you at all. Take a self defense class specifically geared for street fighting. People don't use Kung Fu to fight. If you are getting physically picked on, it will be in your best interests to learn to defend yourself and let people know that you will f*ck their day up if they try to mess with yours.

I can go on and on. Take care of yourself.

Answer 5

Begin raising your self-confidence right now by learning to love yourself...
just as you are, right where you are.
Get to know yourself,
and look for the good in yourself.
Believe me, it's there.

Realize the most peope put other people down because they are trying to shift the focus from themselves and their faults, and put the spotlight onto someone else. That is usually due to ignorance and insecurity on their part. Everyone has faults and imperfections, and those people who put you down, have them too.

The good news is, whatever issues you are now facing will begin to fade away after you leave high school. People in the "real world" don't care about whether you were the prettiest, most popular, best looking or most talented person in high school.

In time as you can continue to mature and gain experience and learn about life, your transformation will begin to gradually take place on it's own.
I have always known that no matter how attractive a person may appear on the outside, if they are not good on the inside, eventually their ugliness does rise to the surface. And when it does...it's not pretty believe me The truly beautiful person is the one whose goodness rises from within to transform them outwardly.

Answer 6

You just do it. You tell yourself that if you don't stand up for yourself, no one else will do it for you. You deserve better, you've earned better, and it's time you admitted that you are a unique individual deserving of respect.

The first time you stand up to them is the hardest. After that, it gets progressively easier.

Think about finding a hobby or starting an exercise program. Both of these are proven confidence builders. Also, go to your local library and check out some books on self-help.

Answer 7

why do u lack confidence.............. you have to stop looking at life in that way, and start living without worry about the conceiquence.
if people look any thing less then u deserve then they are not evan worth knowing.

if someone says nasty things then stand up for yourself. you have to say to yourself, you wouldnt treat them that way so why should they treat u that way?

if your confidence is that bad go on a course to get some self esstem in u.

every person at one time or another havent liked what god gave them, but at the end of the day. u need to get over that cause there is only one of u around, so get used to it now cause u have a long time to get used to being u.

chin up. take care

hollyx

Answer 8

If you want to change something about yourself then do it. Don't just say you'd like to and then not do it. If you're not going to do it then stop saying you will and wanting to, and if you are then do it. There must be things about you which are good, you just have to learn to accept that people will always try to change you from who you are, but you don't have to do what they want you to. The only person who can accept yourself is you. Perhaps what you really need is more confidence in yourself, or something to be proud about. Find something you're good at, and concentrate on being as good at it as you can be.

Answer 9

ok since u r not handicap, disabled fat or etc .i believe u gotta learn how to voice out more. talk to people,read self help books to gain dat confidence and self esteem,magazine to update ur ur style . i believe in a short amount of time u be creating a better new you.nobody likes to be picked on cause u noe the real world is actually agressive. good luck! cause when u r out there ,u are on ur own. dont let nobody let u be crippled.~~ ray charles.

Answer 10

You first have to love yourself for others to do the same. You have to realize that no one is perfect and don't compare yourself to anyone else. You are you! I think that we are different makes us more interesting. What I do to remind myself that I am okay is tell myself that I may not wear a size 2, by I have a great sense of awareness and can make people laugh.

Answer 11

The only thing you need to do is believe on yourself and you are the only one that can help yourself no one else could. You need to ignore these people they are all jerk OK for making fun of you and putting you down. You need to look inside of yourself and have the courage to stand up for for your self and be confident, it's not easy but, you have to work on it if you being trying you need to try harder ok. good luck with everything!