2006-07-17 04:48:58 · 25 answers · asked by peanutbrite1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wedding is in Sept 2006- I don't know if he is the one- We argue more than ever now. I'm more concerned about graduating from college in December than this wedding. I'm so confused
2006-07-17 04:51:13 · update #1
Oh yeah, I'm the Ms. Ive tried talking to him all he does is get upset and it turns into and argument where my feelings are hurt and I'm disappointed in myself for wasting my time. have noone to talk to that knows me. They either think I'm just having a case of brizilla and I'm just being spoiled & over reacting- So i'm tired. Two of my best friends he asked not to be in the wedding and my family just think I'm spoiled. All I want to do is run and hide under a rock. I can't wait to graduate and move far away from everyone. The only reason I'm here is we have a child and I'm about to gradute. I can't talk to him without him getting upset
2006-07-17 05:06:58 · update #2
call off the wedding or at least postpone it...if you are not sure...you should have never said yes or asked her to marry you...
2006-07-17 04:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by irishmomof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to give you advice that you MUST follow. I know what I am talking about from experience from my younger sister and her husband. DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!! If you are arguing now, it rarely gets any better and will end in a messy divorce. Do not be concerned about disappointing people or how much money might have been spent on preparations already. This is rarely just cold feet syndrome. If you are having second thoughts now but still care for this person, call it off...finish college and see where you stand in say 6 months to a year. There should never be a rush to get married. It is a life long commitment or at least SHOULD be a life long commitment.
2006-07-17 11:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Michael F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 19 years and I'm STILL not sure some days!
I was also very nervous about getting married too. All my friends were telling me that she would change after we got married and all the horror stories they knew about. So needless to say, I was unsure too. I was unsure about the marriage commitment, not my love for her.
You are the only one who can answer your question. Do you love her? Unconditionally? Or are you just a little freaked out about sharing your toothbrush holder for the rest of your life?
If you don't love her, be honest and cancel the wedding. If you are getting cold feet, talk to her about it. She is your future wife so confide in her.
In the mean time, practice putting the seat down and picking up your underwear off of the floor. Trust me, things will go much better when you do move in together.
Good luck!!
2006-07-17 12:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by BlueFire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is months away, this gives you a little time to decide. Don't wait too long though. This is one decision you really need to think over. Decide what it is that is making you have second thoughts. If you can't become 99% sure soon, stop the wedding. Don't wait until the last minute.
2006-07-17 11:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sit down and express those feelings to your fiance/parents --- you sure it's not cold feet? Get to know some couples who have been married a long time --- ask them how they keep it going --- if you are going to enter marriage -- be armed with all the support and advice you can get.
I also advise keeping friendships with couples who have been married for decades.....
added details --- you have some stressful events happening --- why not postpone the wedding --- get through those college studies and exams first --- do the wedding after graduation.....
2006-07-17 11:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's normal to have cold feet, but my motto is always 'when in doubt, don't'. have you talked to your fiance? or maybe a clergyman? what about your parents or friends? i'm sure there's someone you can talk to about how you're feeling. marriage is a serious (and lifelong) committment that shouldn't be taken lightly. if you're not sure, figure out why you're not sure and go from there. you said the wedding is months away. that should give you some time to figure out what you wanna do. if you need to postpone the wedding, do that. hope i helped some:-)
2006-07-17 11:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by vanilla_bean_dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your partner about the unsure part of this relationship, alot goes through ones head as the wedding date nears...its mostly nerves that begins to make one a bit confused about the whole situation...talk with your fiancee or forever hold your peace.
2006-07-17 11:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to be upset but if you have doubts, I would postpone the wedding. It sounds to me like you are having second thoughts. If you are, you owe it to yourself to not do this. There is no law saying you have to marry him if your not sure. Give it time. You may change your mind altogether if he keeps acting the way he's been acting. Good luck.
2006-07-17 12:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know the answer to your question...you are not sure, you are having doubts, and you need to either prolong the engagement until you are certain that you want to marry this man or you need to call off the wedding.
Good luck.
2006-07-17 11:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by sassper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are stressed i just got married in april i think everyone thinks that right before it is a huge step but with college in the picture and all the wedding planning it is normal to be freakin out
2006-07-17 14:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by alabamagirl2230 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋