I have been dating my curent gf for 7 months. She is 12 weeks pregnant. This was planned. I thought we were in love. We just got back from a 4 day trip to see her parents. We were looking for a house to buy and she got in the car and just turn the radio station. I turn it back and explained I was listening to something. She shot me a evil look, within 2 days she moved out and said she wasn't happy with me. She said since she made her decision to break up she has been happy. Now, we had some problems stupid bickering over little things.... Everyone tells me this is hormones, but I just know. What do you think?
2006-07-17 04:48:24 · 14 answers · asked by yarddoggeydawgs 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
WOW...that is unusual for the woman to leave the relationship during a pregnancy could very well be hormones I hated my child's father during my pregnancy we had been married for 7 yrs and were in the middle of a divorce when I found out I was indeed pregnant. After the child was born though we had lovely relationship and still do. Give her some space if you really are the father she will come around.
2006-07-17 04:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this coming from a woman who has been pregnant before, it sounds like her hormones are responsible for the mood swings - but you also need to know that if there are underlying issues or problems that hasn't been resolved, her wacky hormones will bring those issues out especially because she is very much emotional right now. I just know that when I was pregnant, I would go from being depressed to blissful elation in a matter of minutes. Sometimes too, for a pregnant woman, little trifling things become annoying or turn into big deals. Like one time, my hubby and I were on our way to my appointment with my OBGYN. The last time we went the doctor had mentioned that we will be getting our first ultrasound experience soon - I took it to meant that on the next appointment we were doing the ultrasound. So I was so excited, I kept telling my hubby we were going to do the ultrasound and we'll find out what the baby is. He looked at me, I think he wasn't quite sure how to tell me that I was wrong, but he said calmly, I think it's for next week dear. I glared at him. We went to the doctor's office and there was no ultrasound - my hubby was right, it was for next week. As soon as we got on the car I bawled like a baby and got mad at him, eventhough he didn't do anything wrong. I cried all the way home, feeling mad and silly at the same time to get so worked up about such a little thing. So pregnant women are very volatile - at least most of them.
I hope in your case your gf is just emotionally unstable right now. What you can do is to keep your cool and still let her know how you feel about her. Even if she's throwing fiery darts at you with her eyes (and words), try to see if you can talk to her when she's in a better mood to find out if she really wants to be done with you.
Just know that it is so easy for pregnant women to be so emotionally irrational - some suffer from it more than others. It's probably because pregnancy is such a new and unfamiliar experience for first-time preggy women, that most women hardly know how to deal with the changes they go through - with their bodies, with their feelings, and with their sense of being, of who they are. Pregnancy brings about a lot of changes, and especially if your gf has been thinking that she is not completely ready for the pregnancy, then the resentment of her being pregnant will of course fall on you.
So talk to her, know what she's really thinking. Don't give up just yet, especially if you truly do love her. Things may yet change - for the better.
Goodluck!!
2006-07-17 05:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by hotmomma23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You planned to get pregnant when you had been dating for 4 months??? That was irresponsible in my opinion, and you could not possibly have known each other well enough yet to decide to start a family together.
Also, did it occur to you to get married before getting pregnant, buying a house, etc...????
Now you are stuck in a situation with a baby on the way and a woman who does not want to be with you.
Ask her to go to counseling with you, for the baby's sake. You two need to get your relationship hashed out before the baby comes.
Her mood swings could be hormonal, but it could also be due to the fact that you two were not ready to take this step and she recognized that fact.
I wish you good luck. Your road will not be easy. Just make certain to do right by your child.
2006-07-17 04:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's probably hormones. The best advice I could give you is to be compassionate, and have lots of Patience. She might want to bicker more than usual, or have that "evil" temper but its only hormones just stick it out..tell her you don't want to fight w/ her, just be supportive because I'm sure she doesn't understand why she is feeling this way as well.
2006-07-17 04:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses20027 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got your girlfriend pregnant after only dating her for three months? and it was planned? planned for and by whom? it could be hormones but it might be way deeper than that . . . did you ever consider the fact she just wanted to get pregnant and had no intention of staying with you? she just used the radio as an excuse? sad to say but it is possible . . . step back and let her go but be a good man and take care of your child when he/she is born and make sure you get visitation rights and all .. . .
2006-07-17 04:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a bit of both. She will be more emotional right now, but maybe she is really sick of you. Sounds like you two love each other and you need to just deal with her and help her thru it right now. This is a scary time for her. Support her in every way you can!
2006-07-17 04:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow...you only dated this girl for a little while before you deciced to have a kid with her.
It could be hormones or maybe she realized that you guys jumped into things wayyyyyyyyy too quickly
2006-07-17 04:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones could make her moody that's for sure, but I'd take it real slow on buying a house and such as that, you don't want to get stung either.
2006-07-17 04:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just don't want u no more,pregnant women just don't get up and leave their husband or baby father because of hormones during pregnancy.
2006-07-20 04:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Shameka D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones are crazy when you are pregnant. Dont listen to her she is emotional and just listen dont say anything wrong. Just hold her and tell her she is beautiful and you love her.
2006-07-17 04:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋