2006-07-17 04:44:54 · 20 answers · asked by Pavan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most people wouldn't consider marriage until they were in love. Are you talking about an arranged marriage?
Do you want to just love them or be IN LOVE with them? There is a difference.
You have to spend time with them, take time to get to know them and the things they like to do. Usually you will have some stuff in common...
2006-07-17 05:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your name looks Indian. If you are and you plan on doing the arranged marriage thing, then there is no way you could grow to love you future wife before you are married. Love takes time to build. It starts with the mental thought and desire to want to love someone. From there you and the one you love must work to increase and improve the love you both feel. Love is not spontaneous. Love is like a tree. It starts as a small seed, but it can quickly grow into a towering tree. Let the love come out of you on its own. Do not force it. If you force it, you will begin to expect things from the person you love and that person will not deliver. It will end up destroying you and pushing you away.
Hope this helps!
2006-07-17 11:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by chemical_kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question should be: how can a person love his/her husband after years of marriage?. Believe before marriage everything is easy, you are not living together, meaning you dont have to see every aspect of your lives ( morning faces, bathroom rutine, etc), not sharing responsabilities,or duties. You just spend time together when you are willing to do it, so it is quality time. If that is good and you create a nice bond, you should do well in whatever expects you after marriage.
2006-07-17 11:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by jameneiro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible because they wouldn't be your Husband/Wife before marriage. Your question should read, "How can a person love His/Her future Husband/Wife before marriage?"
2006-07-17 11:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Michael F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
assuming you want to stay a virgin, but perhaps u think that having sex equals "loving" your spouse.... but it's not true. having sex is (at least should be) a physical consummation of your love for eachother, but loving your spouse is more than a physical thing: it's a mental, emotional, spiritual as well as physical adventure that you are sharing with ONE other person. you can love your fiance/gf/bf by staying faithful to them, commiting your life to them, trying to make them happy, including them in all your thoughts and activities, being affectionate, letting them know you care, sending flowers, etc etc. there are billions of little ways to let someone know you love them, and care about them enough to make them feel completely safe and secure and they can trust their whole future life in your hands because you trust them as well.
ok i read some of the other comments, and if this is indeed an arranged marriage.. u will be doing all the courting etc AFTER the marriage!! the chances are slimmer that things will work out because u can't just throw people together and hope that they are "meant to be", but if u are a good person and she is a good person than hopefully u will be willing to work that much harder to make things work.. if both of u are committed to the marriage and *Respecting* each other's differences and taking time to make that each person feel worthy of being eachother's spouse, u can learn to love eachother.
2006-07-17 11:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good question. In the Greek, there are five different types of love. You can't love them eros, but you can love them phileo or even agape. I think you can't trully love in all ways until you are married, but you can love them in some ways. Our problem in America is that we only have 1 word for love. We use the same word for a lot of things....For example, "I love pizza", "I love my friend", "I love my dog", "I love my husband/wife", I love my children", "I love my girlfriend/boyfriend". We can get into trouble when we love people or things in the wrong way. I hope this helps. Have a great day!
2006-07-17 11:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You marry because you love that person. Not the other way around. When you find the one you love you decide to spend the rest of your life with them.
2006-07-17 11:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Tara R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'v know my fiance for 9 years. we never went out until this past year in a half. we are getting married next month. you don't want to get married if your not in love cause you won't be happy. love is what makes you want to get married. to show how much you care and to start a family with them. love comes befor marrige.
2006-07-17 11:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People usually get married because they are in love. People sometimes get married for the wrong reasons... that's why it sometimes ends up with a divorce.
2006-07-17 12:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need a marrige cert to feel love for the other person.
its very simple
man meets woman- they get to know each other and cant spend a moment apart....and oh they fall in love
the end, it is the 21 century after all dear.
2006-07-17 11:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by lovelygeorgeoussexy1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋