what can i do?

Question

i love my hubby, but i hate it when he drinks,what can i do to make him stop drinking, at least not everyday

Answer 1

Alcoholics Anonymous

Answer 2

This is about the normal give and take in a relationship along with effective communication. In some ways this is similar to trying to get your spouse to stop smoking. You can't be mean about it because this is some thing that has existed for awhile. Instead you have to deliver a constant message that you feel there is a problem and state those reasons and why them changing their habit is going to improve the relationship you two have. Drinking, like smoking can be about health issues for starters. We all want the one we love to be with us as long as possible and anything that reduces their longevity in this life is a problem. There is also a issue when it comes to drinking how it affects his personality and how he treats you. Communicate these issues and see if there is a way to reduce his drinking some.

Answer 3

I have had the same problem. The reason I drank because things weren't to good between my wife and I. We have since became closer and I found my wife hated the same thing about me. For me it is now mostly out of habit after doing it fr so long but it is a hard thing to do just the same. Tell him how it makes you feel when he drinks, of course when he is sober. Try to spend more time with him without the booze, that works great with me, I hardly drink at all with my wife around. For me, I love to drink, yes that may be considered a drinking problem, and I guess if it hurts someone because of it, it is, but I am not ready to give it up. I am trying hard to control it and with the help of my wife, I am doing just that. I hope things work out for you as they did for me. If you would like more info, Hit me up.

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do to stop him from drinking. He has to want to stop. But what you can do is let him know how it makes you feel when he drinks. Be honest with him and ask him if there is a compromise that you both could come to.

Answer 5

this is a very hard problem to deal with and most often involves counseling, because the partner isn't usualy willing to stop drinking..you can quitely talk to him about this and tell him how your feeling when he drink and ask him for the sake of your marriage if he would slow down a bit. but when someone drinks its hard to get them to stop.

Answer 6

Is this my wife? If it is I dont drink everyday just the days that end in Y

Answer 7

You will hate my answer. You are absolutely helpless against this disease. There is nothing you can do to make it better. There is nothing you can do to help. Trying will, literally, drive you insane.
Alcoholism is progressive. Unchecked, it's fatal. He will have to crash, and crash hard, before he will find the motivation to change. That means the destruction of nearly everything precious to him and utter, absolute chaos for you. It has to get much, much worse before it gets better.
AA will not help you. It will not help him yet either. There is an organization tied closely to AA called Alanon.... for those who live with alcoholics. They can give you some help, and some hope. Find a group, get a good one. Trust me, please... they're your only chance at survival.

Answer 8

Intervention... all of his family and friends. Tell him to stop. If he doesn't take away his alcohol. Warn him though that you are going to do it. Get the rest of the family and friends in on it. If he really has become an alcoholic, then use tough love to get him on the right track. Make sure you tell him that you love him and don't want to see him hurt.

Answer 9

You can't "make" him stop. Most people don't respond well to ultimatums. Check out Al-Anon, a support group for friends and family of alcoholics, you'll learn ways to cope with the problem, and put the focus back on yourself, not him.

Answer 10

Express your concern. You cannot change him. Find out why he drinks. He has to make that decision to stop.