My wife & a stripper?

Question

My wife has confided that she wants a black stripper for her birthday. She said that if I did, she would allow me one wish also, like my fantasy about her dressing up like a maid. Or even going with me one time only to a strip club (she has always said no) and let me enjoy a lap dance from a female stripper with her there. She said that she has no intentions about being unfaithful. She said that she has been faithful and would just like one fantasy and would not ask for more. She stresses that I would be the only one who benefits from her being turned on--she would attack me shortly after the strippers performance. She says that she would not do anything sexual with the stripper, but would like to just touch his dick if I would let her. If not, she would just look. Should allow her? She IS a faithful wife and is extremely open with me. She says that she is 30 this year and would like to do one crazy thing since we married so young. Women, could you see it one time and not want it?

Answer 1

c'mon man... she's your wife and has been for a long time, right? if you can't trust her at this point then something is seriously wrong with your marriage.

let her have her fun and do whatever she want (everyone has to cut loose every once in a while). she's already told you how far she's willing to go, and you WILL reap the benefits after all. what's wrong with letting her have some fun?

i mean, I've never been married (just relationships that almost got to that point), and it wouldn't have lasted that long or gotten to that point where i contemplated marriage if i didn't trust my gal when she was out of my sight and with strangers (yes, even handsome and very attractive strangers).

besides, it's her bday... let her have that one bday wish...

Answer 2

My Wife With A Stripper

Answer 3

I think there are two ways to look at this

Pro:
1. If your wife doesn't somehow deal with these feelings of "I didn't experience enough life before I got married" she might be far more likely to cheat later on.

2. It could possibly lead to very good sex ("attack me")

3. I don't know about you, but I would be far more comfortable with my girl touching a professional stripper's penis than say, my best friends.

4. It will probably make her happy, also if you DON'T she will probably be quite unhappy. Only you know how unhappy/happy but a chronically unhappy wife might lead to #1

5. You get a fantasy in return. I suggest going for something a little more hardcore. In fact, I would suggest your fantasy being her getting a female stripper in the same way, complete with touchings.

Con:

1. It might lead to further pushes for other fantasies. She says she won't ask for more, but I can easily see her next time going "you let me touch it before, this time let me put it in my mouth" until the two of you wind up having an MMF threesome. Actually that could lead to a pro if you really want her to reciprocate in an MFF threesome.

2. You may have feelings of regret and anxiety because of this. You may have feelings of inadequacy and you may feel that she has continued mental fantasies of the stripper or other men.

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Personally, I would let my girl do this with my blessings but I would probably want to be in the room at the same time. Perhaps your wife would consent to you maybe rubbing her while she watches the stripper so that you don't feel left out and she still relates much of the sexual charge to your fingers and not all of it to the stripper.

Answer 4

Most of these people who have given you advice on here have never been to a bachelorette party where there have been male strippers involved. The fact is many times the women will give oral sex to the male strippers, and often times will have sex with them as well. If your wife wants to do this it is a very bad sign. It means she has desires to be with a black man sexually. Don't feel bad, many women do. It's just the way it is. There is something you have to think about here. If she goes to this party and she has sex with him there's a good chance that it may be so good that she will always want that and will never truly be able to enjoy sex with you again. She will basically just stay with you because you are a nice guy, and a good husband.

Answer 5

This is a common fantasy. Be glad she's not picking up black guys at the bars. Go ahead and let her live her fantasy. In fact, since it's only going to be one time, you should make sure that she has a great time. Remember, it's your turn next. The more she enjoys herself, the more you can enjoy yourself. If you have a strong marrige, it can survive a one night fling. In fact, it'll probably become an erotic memory for both of you. If I were you, I'd meet with the guy ahead of time and pay him to give her a good time. Talk to your wife. Encourage her to enjoy her fantasy. Tell her since it's only once, you realize that she'll want to do more than just touch him. If you can live with it, give her your permission to suck him off if she wants to. She won't admit it but she'd love to have some photos to look at later. Do you love and trust her? Then it's no big deal.

Answer 6

Being a married guy myself I think I would want to be there with her when all this happens but I don't see the harm in it. I used to go to strip clubs where the strippers where very physical and when I got all horned up, i thought about my wife and how I couldn't wait to get home and be with her. I hope that help with your decision.

Answer 7

she can touch it and not do nothing but on the other hand it also sounds like she allowing u to go to get a lap dance without her to use that as an excuse why she should be able to touch him then if she sleep with him then she can say how do i knowu did not sleep with the stripper or maybe it just her fantasy to touch a stripper

Answer 8

i don't know about this one...she has a fantasy about seeing a stripper and touching his dick??

well, this sounds like something that has been on her mind for a while...is she not satisfied with your size?? why does she have to touch it? so her justification for seeing the stripper is to be more turned on?? i don't know about that one either....so is she going to have to see strippers all the time to be turned on to you? i think this may be more of a set for disappointment on her part and yours if you allow her to see the stripper..her fantasy will be over and she may be still trying to relive the fantasy afterwards...and be disappointed

you gotta look at this all the way out and see what future consequences may come out of this decision...

Answer 9

we all have our fantasies, it just happened that your wife had a weird one. But still try to think if this would make her happy. There is really no harm in allowing her to experience things like that. Sometimes the sight of a male stripping off makes a woman really horny, but it doesn't mean that she want's to do it with that man, she told you that she'll do you after the strip show. and you might find her to be extra wild and fabuluous after that. This might perk up your sex life!!! You wouldn't know unless you try, right?

Answer 10

She's not faithful --- the woman is dreaming about being with another man ---- don't fall for that trick - things will not be the same.....face it she already told a lie - you said she wouldn't do anything sexual with the stripper --- touching his privates is a sexual act as well as the looking, lusting and plotting how to get what she wants...open your eyes! She's up to no good ---