My fiance' and I are getting married in October and we just found out she is pregnant. We dont want to tell family till after the wedding. How can we avoid embarrassment if she is showing at all? thanks, Matt
2006-07-17 04:34:52 · 17 answers · asked by drewlentz1230 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
get married sooner.
there IS no other alternative because it will show by october or if il will not, when the baby will come what will u say? he was born 4 moths earlier but still has 8 pounds?? so get married earlier... Just say you're eager to spend the rest of ur lives together :) good luck
2006-07-17 04:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jalane 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 6 months pregnant when I got married. Being a Christian and coming from a very religious, I knew this was wrong, but I told my parents anyway. Telling my parents was the best thing I could have ever done, because they helped me through it and supported me 100%. I had been engaged for 1 year so we knew we were going to get married. If you love each other, and are happy, who cares what anyone else thinks. They are going to find out eventually, so why not just tell them now and get it over with. Chances are, if they love you, they are going to ecstatic anyway :) Just think of it as a wedding gift. Good luck in any decision you make.
2006-07-17 05:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is her first pregnancy she may not be showing that much and can hide it with the right gown. I didn't start showing on my first until I was 4 months and then it looked more like I just had a little gut than I was pregnant. It really depends on how she is built. If she tried to find a gown that has an empire waist (meaning the waist is right under her breasts) that may help hide her tummy a little.
Best of luck and congrats!
2006-07-17 05:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by aliza1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll more than likely be showing by then. There's no way around the fact that she's pregnant, and obviously everyone will look back and know she was when a baby is born shortly after your marriage. Perhaps be honest with your friends and family and celebrate it along with your upcoming marriage. Otherwise, there is this sad, ugly, embarassing stigma attached to the situation, and that could haunt you, your fiance, and perhaps your child in the future.
2006-07-17 04:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go ahead and tell them. They're going to know something up when the baby is born less than 9 months after you've been married. They already know you're getting married and that you're in love. They're probably not dumb enough to think that you've been "saving yourselves" for each other until marriage. So, it probably won't be as big of a shock as you think. Good luck!
PS: If it makes you feel any better... my husband and I had our baby before we even got married. He was 5 months old at our wedding!
2006-07-17 04:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not be showing that much by October. Some people start showing early in pregnancy and others not until the end. You could always move the wedding date up.
2006-07-17 04:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll probably be about 4-5 months gone by the time your wedding rolls around, so it's likely the pregnancy will be showing by this time. In the meantime, you could both look around bridal shops, and ask for dresses that are designed to hide a pregnancy. The shop assistants will be happy to give your fiancee some helpful advice.
Congratulations on both counts, and good luck! :)
2006-07-17 04:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you open your mouth then nobody is going to be able to tell that she is pregnant. I was five months at my first wedding and nobody had a clue. You may think she has a belly because you know what she looks like naked normally. But nobody else will notice a difference...I promise. My story is kinda funny because I came back from my honeymoon visibly pregnant. I walked into a family dinner fresh from the airport and everybody dropped their cups and choked on their own spit.
2006-07-17 05:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to be embarrassed about as long as you are married before the baby comes, it's not like you planned to get pregnant before your wedding.
2006-07-17 04:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be embaressed by it. Just think of your child as a wedding present. She probably won't be showing much at all so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
I agree with Robin. My fiance and I have 2 children and we aren't getting married for anothe ryear. My cousin was 18 when her parents got married.
2006-07-17 04:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋