ok, im pregnant. does it hurt to have a baby? can i have advise from a mother?

Question

im sooo scared, i no its gonna hurt but i jus wanna no how it feels, if able to describe

Answer 1

The labor does hurt, but it's not a pain that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Once you see your baby you will not care how much it hurt!

Oh, and epidurals are the best thing ever invented. I wanted to kiss the doc that gave me one. He said that he heard that all the time! And you also get pain medication after if you want it. The doctor won't give you stuff that will hurt the baby, so load up!!

Answer 2

Honey,

I have to be extremely honest with you, I am 13 weeks pregnant right now with my 2nd child, and they will be 5 years apart, so I have not experienced it in a while, but one thing that i do remember is that it hurts alot. and I know some people will answer "well it all depends on the person" -no that is not true. the one thing I can personally guarantee you is that there is a burning and stretching sensation when you push, now when you are in actual labor...i know that it hurt, however I had an epidural and so I was like all good while the drugs lasted. I know your feeling scared, cause you know what I am too, but let me tell you when it is all done and over with, you won't even remember. Good luck and my best advise too you is to start watching "A baby story" on TLC because it really does show the whole process of giving birth and will give you a head's up (no pun intended) :)

Answer 3

its the worst pain ever, i'm not trying to scare u but its the worst, i had my labor pains in my back, i can't really tell u how it felt because after u have the baby its just a blur, all u can remember is that it hurt like nothing else, and don't let people especially men tell u that it doesn't hurt, when i was going to my check-ups these guys would say ohh yea it don't hurt, how do they know their not the ones pushing a watermelon out of something the size of a pea, anyways there are medications they can give u to ease some of the pain, u can do it all u have to do is get focus point and when u have a bad contraction just focus on this point and it will help u get through the pain, hope this helps

Answer 4

i only got to experience contractions n to b honest i didn't think they were all that bad i got to 8 n a half centimeters on just gas n air which is fantastic by the way, n then had to go in 4 a c-sec because the baby's heart beat went down n that does hurt for a few weeks after the birth u cant bend down or anything but at the end of the day the pain was worth it i have a lovely 7 month old boy who is fantastic. GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING
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Answer 5

The straight truth... and I did it with no drugs...
(excuse my language) It feels like you have the take the biggest crap ever. The contractions hurt like hell (the best description of the pain is the worst cramping you've ever felt... then multiply by 100). You'll feel the worst urge to push (but you won't be allowed to unless the doctor says so).
Once you start pushing, that's when you get to control the pain. The pushing numbs out the contraction. Once you see your baby, you'll forget all the pain... because poof! It's magically over.
Good luck, don't be scared. Remember, many women have done this. If the pain was intolerable... mankind would not have survived. One day, you'll be dishing out the advice. Have fun with it.

Answer 6

You know, It's actually the laboring that hurts worse than the baby coming out. I thought pushing the baby out was a relief.

You work up to the really intense pain gradually, so it really isn't completely intolerable. It starts out as minor cramping (like period cramps) in the uterus and then slowly becomes stronger (major stomach cramping) after a bit.

When the contractions get closer together they get stronger and last longer and it's as if your whole abdomen is out of your control and squeezing like a big leg cramp throughout your whole middle section. When the contractions are really strong it's difficult to talk or do anything but work thorugh the contraction.

It does take some relaxation techniques to breathe through the laboring so definately take a childbirth class or a Yoga class to learn how to focus on your breath and allow your body to do its work. Labor becomes most difficult when you are fighting against what your body wants to do.

When your cervix is at about 5cm the labor speeds up most of the time and you're over the big hump, the pain increases only a little bit afterward, but you can tell yourself it's not much longer until you are ready to push.

When you are dialated to about 9cm, near pushing stage you can feel your body shaking and everything from your waist down looses most of its feeling... they call this transition (I'm telling you about it because nobody clued me in on this part and I was really freaked out the first time it happened). The transition is caused by the baby's head putting pressure on nerves in your pelvis and it's natures way of numbing the pain of the actual birth.

After transition, you feel the incredible urge to push, like you're having a bowel movement. You feel no more pain, just pressure and the urge to push is very strong.

You push hard and you can feel the baby moving down the birth canal and out of your body. It is a HUGE relief and feel kind of good. Then when you grab that baby and hold it to your chest you are washed over by the most fantastic pleasurable feelings no drug could ever match. Looking at your baby's tiny's face is so amazing that you soon forget the work you just did... all for that one innocent little person whom you just met, but you already love more than anything.

Answer 7

By the time 9 months is up, you will be so excited and so anxious that pain won't be an issue. Epidurals are wonderful, I suggest one. Honestly the best way to prepare you for the pain and stress of childbirth is knowledge. Read your little heart out- go into things prepared. The fear subsides when you know what will and can happen. Good luck!! The pain is sooo worth it- I wanted another one right away!

Answer 8

Honestly, the contractions are the worse part of it all. The actual pushing didn't hurt me. I was very drained and tired though from all the pain with the contractions. I did get an epidural and it didn't work until after my daughter was born. Like everyone else is saying, the pain subsides once you see your baby and hear that precious little cry.

Answer 9

The only way you can really describe it is if you did not have a epidural during your labor, but while in labor with my second child my son the epidural wore off and I didn't really feel anything but I felt his head as it was sitting in between my legs and I felt a lot of pressure when it was time to push.Other than that I enjoyed the birth of both my children and I am expecting a third.

Answer 10

I have had four babies with no pain medication. It was not the worst pain I've ever had. It felt nothing like a cramp. It was a dull ache, stretching feeling that comes and goes; like holding your mouth open as wide as you can for a long time. Please read the book, Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way. I was scared my first time too. I heard how awful it was from my mother. She had her babies in the hospital with poor care. I used the Bradley method and I actually enjoyed the births.